Story Therapists are awful

[LostZombie]

Well I was in group therapy with a few others who, were just chilling taking in bs. However one girl, she started exclaiming she had starting having pain like it was unbearable. Rather than asking where and why she was just told "You're catastrophizing" telling her it was all in her head. I wanted to step in, but she breaking down, and wanted her to be able to speak her mind. She then rambled on about how noone takes her seriously when she has issues and is always brushed off; and she asked to step out. She wanted to remove herself, to be able to calm down. No she had to finish her check in, and talk about last night, which very clearly triggered her.

After all that she stepped out, and went outside. I was shocked, but just started my check in until she knocked and was gonna get the door for her, but I was told not to by the therapist. I protested saying it was the polite thing to do, but apparently "it was my time to process" the only shit I have to process now is how fucking rude you were to that poor patient. I did a bit of arguing, but I just finished my check in. Now, I was told by the therapist that him, and her would have chat about her freaking out?

What the hell, that damn therapist didn't even tell her to use coping skill. The only thing he told her was basically that it it's all in her head. Like Hello? I wanted ask if she needed any drugs, or a hug or anything to help since I try to give a shit. I just cannot with people who don't even try, its so stupid. The good news was she got out of it, and she needed a hug, which was nice. We then talked about how stupid that all was, and how funny it was that the "mentally ill" give more of shit most of the time.

After that whole ordeal, we did an packet about cognitive distortions. I brought up the fact, that if out current understanding of the universe is correct that everything is preset. I was told I was using my intellectual mind too much and how I need to be more emotional. I then said "I think you confused, 2+2=4, and math is absolute". I was then told to basically blow off.

I love people who cannot handle someone of a higher intellect, so they tell you you're thinking too much.

Anyways thanks for providing me with real therapy here of just listening, and the best part is people here care.

Much love y'all

 

[unbelievablydead]

jeez that's awful... some therapists truly forget that they're working with real-life people, not experiments that they get to practice their text book knowledge on. personally, i do think my current situation would be way different if my therapist had listened to me more, asked more questions, and just talked to me like a normal person (or if i had a different therapist in general... so pissed at myself for not going with my gut at the beginning), instead of making assumptions or just telling me to "get regulated".

 

[MyLastTour]

I do wonder what amount of people in counselling or counselling-adjacent fields are similarly woefully unsuited to work with people that are seeking therapy. There's a very distinctive pain you get from someone who apparently is meant to 'help' you hurting you, intentionally or unintentionally.

She absolutely should've been allowed to stop talking, someone with qualifications should've allowed that in a heartbeat. At the very least she should've been given some time to breathe. I'm happy you or the others were able to comfort her somewhat afterward though.

I think I know what you mean by the preset universe thing - like that all our actions and thoughts were already made? I don't like that the therapist dismissed your inquiry either, there could've been a question about the implications of that. If they wanted you to think about your feelings more, they should've just fucking asked how that idea makes you feel. Very dumb. they probably didn't want to contend you on a subject they were unfamiliar with or ignorant to.

That therapist genuinely just sounds really fucking stupid from literally every angle.