Discussion If you would ctb, would you break up with your partner beforehand?

[cornicecream]

As the title suggests: if you were to ctb, would you break up with your partner beforehand?

Im in a relationship and I want to minimize the impact if i go through with it.

 

[Forveleth]

I see breaking up with someone beforehand as disheartening them twice. First you break up with them for what will be, to them, no reason. Then they are going to find out that sometime down the road you killed yourself. They might regret being pushed away by you. Maybe if they stuck around, they could have helped you.

Breaking up with people and pushing them away immediately before you kill yourself never makes anything easier on them.

 

[SoLowHollow48]

I see breaking up with someone beforehand and disheartening them twice. First you break up with them for what will be, to them, no reason. Then they are going to find out that sometime down the road you killed yourself. They might regret being pushed away by you. Maybe if they stuck around, they could have helped you.

Breaking up with people and pushing them away immediately before you kill yourself never makes anything easier on them.

This is so true btw. My ex broke things off with me 4 months before she killed herself and in her letter, she said that she's been planning her suicide since November 2024 which was a month after our breakup. Imagine how that made me feel.

For months, I struggled with A LOT of self-blame.

Forget about minimizing impact. You're going to burn bridges by dying this way. Accept it. Come to terms with it.

Just don't forget to tell them that this is all on you. Not them. And make them think exactly that because they'd still blame themselves anyway even when you've said it. The what-ifs and could've-s will haunt them for years.

I'm sorry if I came off as ruthless but I'm speaking as the person who was left out so this got really personal for me.

 

[blackmoldonwall]

I plan on sending my partner a broke up message right before i CTB just to not make them feel bad if they were to date someone else after my death. Personally, i'd feel really bad to get with someone else if i haven't ended my relationship with my deceased partner officially so i wouldn't want them to experience that.