Venting i hate the way i look

[kazatte]

as the title says, every time i look into the mirror, i hate myself more and more. all i can think is that i'm so fucking ugly. objectively, i have a nice body, but it feels like that's the only good thing about me. my haircut feels awful, i'm 1000000x uglier without glasses because my eyes look too small and my face is too pale and my eyebrows are too wrong, etc; i just really fucking hate the way i look. it doesn't help that i abhor my personality as well. i feel so, so horrible about myself and i don't know what to do about it because in order to make myself look even the tiniest bit prettier i kinda have to suck it up and look at myself in the mirror LMAO

 

[R. A.]

Going on a limb since you made this a thread; feel free to ignore if you don't want a contrary opinion...
of course what matters is how you feel about how you look, but:

• Get a new haircut..?
• Sexy glasses is a thing
• Lots of people like fair skin. Do you not tan?
• Eyebrows are the hair of the face (i.e. also can be "cut" aka styled)

 

[kazatte]

Going on a limb since you made this a thread; feel free to ignore if you don't want a contrary opinion...
of course what matters is how you feel about how you look, but:

• Get a new haircut..?
• Sexy glasses is a thing
• Lots of people like fair skin. Do you not tan?
• Eyebrows are the hair of the face (i.e. also can be "cut" aka styled)

oh no this is actually nice to hear even though i don't think anything is gonna help me feel better about how i look, at least not rn. but thank you so much :)

tbh i have tried out many haircuts but i feel like they all look horrible on me because of the structure of my face; same with the glasses. i feel like everything i try won't work because i fully believe i'm just naturally ugly. i CAN tan, but it's hard for me to tan on my face, and i can't try to noticeably tan right now because any drastic changes i make to my appearance are monitored by my mother. she also makes me get my eyebrows done and they do look good, just not on me. they look different from each other, like one seems to grow differently. i can't see myself looking better unless i post one of those tiktoks asking people how i can make myself look prettier LMAO

 

[princexhhn]

i dont have much to add except for that i hope you're alright and beauty standards is a joke

 

[R. A.]

Something tells me the fact that

any drastic changes i make to my appearance are monitored by my mother.

might have something to do with this...we don't often think we're ugly for no reason; or maybe it's a comparison thing or the inability to attract a desirable partner. I'm sure the right combination of stylings is out there to make your outer self mach the soul's purity

 

[kazatte]

Something tells me the fact that

might have something to do with this...we don't often think we're ugly for no reason; or maybe it's a comparison thing or the inability to attract a desirable partner. I'm sure the right combination of stylings is out there to make your outer self mach the soul's purity

thank you :) this is very sweet of you. i do really want to start trying out different fashion styles even though i think im too ugly for them LMAO + i want to dye my hair the minute im able to. so hopefully that'll help me

i dont have much to add except for that i hope you're alright and beauty standards is a joke

thank you so much :) they really are such a joke LMAO idk why i can so confidently tell other people this but not myself. but ill be okay dont worry

 

[Lions303]

as the title says, every time i look into the mirror, i hate myself more and more. all i can think is that i'm so fucking ugly. objectively, i have a nice body, but it feels like that's the only good thing about me. my haircut feels awful, i'm 1000000x uglier without glasses because my eyes look too small and my face is too pale and my eyebrows are too wrong, etc; i just really fucking hate the way i look. it doesn't help that i abhor my personality as well. i feel so, so horrible about myself and i don't know what to do about it because in order to make myself look even the tiniest bit prettier i kinda have to suck it up and look at myself in the mirror LMAO

Im really sorry your feeling this way about yourself Sorry if this crosses a boundary is the other stuff 'objectively' in your opinion? Like when you said objectively you have a nice body is that the same with the eyebrows, looking pale, glasses etc? Can I ask why your haircut feels awful? What don't you like? The length? The style? You feel it doesn't suit you? You will be your own harshest critic. If you want my opinion, this is coming from a dude so make of that what you will, I think there's things we can change with our bodies like eyebrows hair etc then things we cant like height (I mean technically you can with dumb and expensive surgery). Then there's also a massive hurdle which is even if we do everything we want to with ourselves, its our own perception of how we look is what it comes down anyway. Personally I keep a skin care routine, get regular hair cuts, shave regularly, trim and file nails regularly which in the greater scheme of thing is pretty much all I can do. I don't think that your too ugly for fashion styles, that's why their called styles, just go with what you vibe with yk?

 

[kazatte]

Im really sorry your feeling this way about yourself Sorry if this crosses a boundary is the other stuff 'objectively' in your opinion? Like when you said objectively you have a nice body is that the same with the eyebrows, looking pale, glasses etc? Can I ask why your haircut feels awful? What don't you like? The length? The style? You feel it doesn't suit you? You will be your own harshest critic. If you want my opinion, this is coming from a dude so make of that what you will, I think there's things we can change with our bodies like eyebrows hair etc then things we cant like height (I mean technically you can with dumb and expensive surgery). Then there's also a massive hurdle which is even if we do everything we want to with ourselves, its our own perception of how we look is what it comes down anyway. Personally I keep a skin care routine, get regular hair cuts, shave regularly, trim and file nails regularly which in the greater scheme of thing is pretty much all I can do. I don't think that your too ugly for fashion styles, that's why their called styles, just go with what you vibe with yk?

fun fact i actually do not have a skin care routine. i should probably start one bc most girls (or just people; i'm not excluding anyone) my age have them LMAO

anyway, don't worry, this doesn't cross a boundary at all!! what i mean by objectively is that according to beauty standards, i'm built well. however i feel like none of my facial features work together, if that makes sense? like even if they're fine on their own, they look bad on me. it's like my body is the only consistent perfect thing about me. it's so hard to overcome that when i try to make myself look better because i have to stare myself down and be alone with my ugliness in order to fix it

thank you so much for your advice :) i think i kind of just have to get over myself if i want to look better but it sucks so bad because it feels so hard and impossible

 

[Lions303]

fun fact i actually do not have a skin care routine. i should probably start one bc most girls (or just people; i'm not excluding anyone) my age have them LMAO

anyway, don't worry, this doesn't cross a boundary at all!! what i mean by objectively is that according to beauty standards, i'm built well. however i feel like none of my facial features work together, if that makes sense? like even if they're fine on their own, they look bad on me. it's like my body is the only consistent perfect thing about me. it's so hard to overcome that when i try to make myself look better because i have to stare myself down and be alone with my ugliness in order to fix it

thank you so much for your advice :) i think i kind of just have to get over myself if i want to look better but it sucks so bad because it feels so hard and impossible

Not saying you have to ofc never meant for it like that, was more of a point like thats something you could do and have control over iykwim?

Ah okay I understand. Its hard especially for girls/women for sure and as a guy thats something I understand. The pressure on girls/women to look a certain way or the like underlying signalling, the amount of shitty info online, social media, traditional media, the fashion industry, the food + drink industry... Its so bad honestly... Just because someone doesn't look like what 'the beauty standards' suggest is beautiful, doesn't mean that person isn't beautiful. Ill try saying it a different way because that doesn't make sense. There's a walk I go on where the view over the fields is amazing, but do tourists go on that walk to see the view? No they don't... But does that make the view any less beautiful?

Yeah it does make sense. I have to say i dont like the phrasing of 'in order to fix it', you're not a car, you don't need fixing nor is there anything to fix lmao.

If it means anything I have seen you in posts be super kind and supportive of people and thats amazing im really proud of you and really hope you see yourself in a more positive light soon

 

[kazatte]

Not saying you have to ofc never meant for it like that, was more of a point like thats something you could do and have control over iykwim?

Ah okay I understand. Its hard especially for girls/women for sure and as a guy thats something I understand. The pressure on girls/women to look a certain way or the like underlying signalling, the amount of shitty info online, social media, traditional media, the fashion industry, the food + drink industry... Its so bad honestly... Just because someone doesn't look like what 'the beauty standards' suggest is beautiful, doesn't mean that person isn't beautiful. Ill try saying it a different way because that doesn't make sense. There's a walk I go on where the view over the fields is amazing, but do tourists go on that walk to see the view? No they don't... But does that make the view any less beautiful?

Yeah it does make sense. I have to say i dont like the phrasing of 'in order to fix it', you're not a car, you don't need fixing nor is there anything to fix lmao.

If it means anything I have seen you in posts be super kind and supportive of people and thats amazing im really proud of you and really hope you see yourself in a more positive light soon

no it's okay don't worry!! i mentioned it because taking care of myself helps me feel better occasionally, so i think trying a routine like that could help

yes it's so hard especially with the beauty standards society has set; it's such a bullshit concept but it's steeped into society and i fear it isn't going away for a while. thank you so much though, it means a lot :)

wait i never thought about that phrasing omg thank you that's so helpful

also thank you so much :) i want to provide other people with as much support as i can (especially on here, because we all must have seriously gone through some shit to end up on here) and it means a lot for me to hear that i'm actually doing something LMAO. this means sm to me thank you + i am proud of you too!!

 

[Lions303]

no it's okay don't worry!! i mentioned it because taking care of myself helps me feel better occasionally, so i think trying a routine like that could help

yes it's so hard especially with the beauty standards society has set; it's such a bullshit concept but it's steeped into society and i fear it isn't going away for a while. thank you so much though, it means a lot :)

wait i never thought about that phrasing omg thank you that's so helpful

also thank you so much :) i want to provide other people with as much support as i can (especially on here, because we all must have seriously gone through some shit to end up on here) and it means a lot for me to hear that i'm actually doing something LMAO. this means sm to me thank you + i am proud of you too!!

For sure 100% it could help, there no harm in trying anyway :)

There's no need to thank me, its all good nws. Thats awesome, im trying to do the same thing too (well trying my best anyway lol). Yeah you're doing amazing

Aww thank you (my eyes watered as no one has told that to me before so genuinely thank you )

 

[kazatte]

For sure 100% it could help, there no harm in trying anyway :)

There's no need to thank me, its all good nws. Thats awesome, im trying to do the same thing too (well trying my best anyway lol). Yeah you're doing amazing

Aww thank you (my eyes watered as no one has told that to me before so genuinely thank you )

thank you so so much!! you are doing a very good job of it as well :) this whole thread has been so nice to me thank you all so much