I can't stand the job recommendations from my aunt and grandma

[trying ungracefully]

She's my great aunt, my grandmas sister.

It is just that for the whole time I have been out of high school and not able to work because of my agoraphobia they have been sending job recommendations. So 4 years now and things have not changed to the point I can get a job yet I don't know when they are ever going to get the hint. My aunt just sent me a job listing for a crossing guard and I know they have the best intentions but it really upsets me. It reminds me it has been this long and I still haven't gotten a job.

My day wasn't going good so far but it wasn't doing terribly and now this shit just ruined my mood. I can't fucking deal with it and every time I have to pretend to look into it. I know these jobs exist I'm not looking for a reason, I would let her know if I got a job. I just want this shit to stop it isn't as bad as it was in the beginning but I have no idea on why it's continuing.

My aunt dealt with agoraphobia too and she is still doing all this. Idk if she was able to work but I can't right now and it is terrible being reminded so randomly that I am pathetic and I am an adult who has never really became an adult. I want my days to be good or neutral and the very least, I don't want to be reminded by myself and then others.

 

[timf]

It can be frustrating when family who love you want to help but don't fully understand.

I don't know if this would be helpful but since Covid a number of companies have people that still work from home. You might want to contact some temp agencies and see if there is anything you could do from home.

 

[Luna223]

Ugh, ugh, ugh.

I hear you and understand completely. I´am often disguisted by my family ideas of GOOD JOB and something i should do. I had good job, but had bad managment and decided to leave, now i work part time and barely scrap by but it is ok. But my family is constantly at me to go beg for old job. Ugh

 

[trying ungracefully]

I don't know if this would be helpful but since Covid a number of companies have people that still work from home. You might want to contact some temp agencies and see if there is anything you could do from home.

Yeah I talked about it in therapy today and we are going to see what jobs I might be able to get that don't involving leaving the house I would just need to gain office skills like the programs you have to know and everything. It just seems intimidating because I have no idea where to even start to look with my minimal skills that just involve labor.

But my family is constantly at me to go beg for old job. Ugh

That really sucks, if you feel okay where you are at that is all that should matter. Bad management can destroy a person over time, I saw it with my boyfriend. The boss was so terrible and was against him so much that he just had to quit and I feel bad because he was okay with the job it just got too much to the point his MH was effected.

Even other people can make it bad. He worked next to someone who smelt very badly at another job and it made it so hard to do anything. And then once he lost his headphones and the guy started talking to him it was the breaking point. He Ubers now and he seems okay with it he just wants to find something better that can work for him career wise. If he is able to he's been talking about become one of those actual chauffeurs where they get paid pretty good.

It is all about finding what works for you, other people's input doesn't matter since it is your life you have to live.