Discussion How do I cope with the fact that I've lived miserable and then will just die

[fkyou]

How do I cope with the fact that I've lived miserable and then will just die..I feel like a victim and this feeling is terrible.. how do you guys do it?.. give me some insights as my brain is closed it doesn't see any perspectives..i don't want to feel like a victim it's painful

 

[itsgone2]

Unfortunately I think you've summed it up well. Some of us have poor lives. Sucks because we were so close to good ones.

 

[Forever Sleep]

Maybe because people who have lived successful, joyful lives also suffer- in that they can absolutely dread death or the thought of losing all that. At least we don't suffer so intensely in that way I suppose.

Plus, depending on belief of course, when we are dead- maybe we won't feel anything at all so- it won't matter either way then.

 

[scully]

i dont think my reply will be of much help since i havent completely figured it out either. its hard but for me at some point it just became the norm. it may not be a positive feeling but you get used to it. therapy can help. in my experience it has but just not enough. i feel like all it did is just extend my life a few years and postponed my suicide. though it definitely could go better for you. Being a victim sucks and so does feeling like one. but you dont have to be a victim forever. even tho you might not see it there are other things that make you who you are and noticing that might take away from the pain that being a victim carries. but ts sucks regardless.

 

[Unknown21]

I Completely understand your struggles with that... I can't accept it, but i hope i can somewhat.

Maybe because people who have lived successful, joyful lives also suffer- in that they can absolutely dread death or the thought of losing all that. At least we don't suffer so intensely in that way I suppose.

Plus, depending on belief of course, when we are dead- maybe we won't feel anything at all so- it won't matter either way then.

We're all going to die someday as well... The bottom line is zero, regardless of life or circumstances.

 

[iveseenfootage]

We are victims. Nothing we can do to change that. After death, we probably won't feel like anything. To me that's a plus

 

[fruitninjamaster]

Hopefully when we die we won't ever feel again.

 

[fkyou]

We are victims. Nothing we can do to change that. After death, we probably won't feel like anything. To me that's a plus

Makes sense

 

[badatparties]

All attachments to this worldly life will be cut off once your dead. None of it will matter and that's the beauty of it.

 

[Terrible_Life]

How do I cope with the fact that I've lived miserable and then will just die..I feel like a victim and this feeling is terrible.. how do you guys do it?.. give me some insights as my brain is closed it doesn't see any perspectives..i don't want to feel like a victim it's painful

I simply can't accept that this was my life it pisses me off to realize how tragic everything was. If there were other circumstances, a normal family, a healthy environment around me etc I could have had all the things i ever wanted- being a part of society , finding my place in this world, feeling happy to be there etc but no I had bad luck with things i could never decide.
So why shouldn't I be angry and sad about the fucking life I could have gad but it was robbed from me it was destroyed in front of me and all that thx to the stupidity of my family.
I even think this anger and sadness was and still is one of the biggest driving forces which made it possible for me to start thinking about suicide and start planning everything because one has to imagine think of it you are born you get destroyed and then you have this sad unfulfilled depressed lonely life and yoy know something is wrong something is missing but you can't repair it