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Agroboy

Agroboy

I am not quite the man you take me for
Apr 30, 2026
33
I was reading Parerga and Paralipomena, and that book made me think more about my life regarding relationships — not necessarily romantic ones, but friendships and connections with other people. He talks about the "hedgehog's dilemma."


The hedgehog's dilemma is the idea that, just like hedgehogs in winter, people need closeness to keep warm, but if they get too close, they end up hurting each other with their spines. So they keep searching for the right distance: close enough to feel warmth, but not so close that they wound one another. Schopenhauer used this as a metaphor for human relationships. We seek intimacy, companionship, and understanding, yet our flaws, insecurities, pride, and habits can end up hurting the people around us — and ourselves.


That idea made me realize I needed a certain moderation in how I relate to others, a healthy distance both for my own good and for theirs, so that friendship could actually last instead of collapsing under too much intensity or friction.


Do you have any book in particular that made you reflect deeply and helped you in life?
 
trashhologram

trashhologram

🎀 SLUT - Sexy Lady Under Tremendous Stress 🎀
Dec 15, 2023
509
Unseen: How I Lost My Vision But Found My Voice by Molly Burke. I listened it as an audiobook, it was read by her. I cried, I laughed. Her style of telling a story is phenomenal! And I love her sassiness 😄
 
starzzyx

starzzyx

New Member
May 16, 2026
2
Suicide Watch by Kelly York. An amazing book about a struggling young adult who joins a pro suicide forum and meets two people online.
 
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coolcow1289

Member
Mar 17, 2026
24
I like Calumet K. It's about a man trying to build a grain elevator. It's a book about competency and willpower. Very motivational
 
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Yknot

Yknot

“The heart will break - yet brokenly live on”
May 6, 2026
23
Suicide Watch by Kelly York. An amazing book about a struggling young adult who joins a pro suicide forum and meets two people online.

Thx, just purchased it.
 

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