Feels better to dwell in darkness?
No.
Yes, and no.
Some days the "darkness" envelops you.
Meaning, you can attempt to be as bright, positive, and understanding as possible.
You can be a peacekeeper, or a shit disturber.
Some people will push that "brightness" into a darkened tunnel.
Unfortunately people are selfish and enjoy causing distress in others.
Are you "happy" and enjoying life?
How can I nag it into a destructive and dark and sad place for my own benefit?
That sounds like the family I was unfortunately exposed to for an extended period of time.
It is not a "perfect" world, but it
could be.
And when we see it as a "perfect" world, it seems like people tend to find a way to destroy that for a person.
I wish I could go back 24 years and make a great escape.
Help is here,
now. But it is not ideal, nor is it "fair," nor is it "equal."