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mattoman

mattoman

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Nov 26, 2024
90
This isn't a discussion wether you celebrate Christmas or not, it can be other holidays as well. How do you feel about those? Like in general. Or if your believes doesn't celebrate anything at this time, how do you feel about holidays that are being celebrated?

I like Christmas when I can spend time with my family and have zero thoughts about anything at the time, but I really fucking hate all the lines at stores, when I just want to in n out from grocery store and some family is blocking the isles. Can't really complain about Christmas songs, since I've been blasting my own music from earphones when in public, and thank lord for that.

I hate the materialism of Christmas, obviously its fun to get gifts, but I hate to feel stressed about getting gifts, since I literally don't have money for that. This Christmas I'll be working morning shifts for the whole holiday, which is fun. I'm seeing my parents in the evening and it's tolerable.

What's your thoughts?
 
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RoyalBengalAutistic

RoyalBengalAutistic

Member
Oct 14, 2024
52
It comes and go. Like every other ordinary day. Does not excite me anymore. Loneliness is my fate I guess.
 
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astr4

astr4

memento mori
Mar 27, 2019
628
makes me sad. everyone is filled with love and joy and i'm sad and miserable. i just hate thinking about it. i'm glad everyone else is happy but i wish that were attainable for me.
 
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vercabow

vercabow

watching all the stars burn out
Nov 22, 2024
98
i've never celebrated christmas before, been to a christmas party once with a bunch of strangers at my neighbours house. was kind of awkward because i was 7 and i didn't know anyone there.

to me, it's just another day. i feel like if i did celebrate it however, it would be kind of similar to chinese new year - wherein it's just some awkward get together with relatives who dislike each other lol.
 
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Blue Dream

Blue Dream

Student
Sep 26, 2024
134
I like the decor, and walking around the city looking at it. I appreciate the colourful lights in the winter when I'm grappling with SAD.
You know Diogenes the Cynic? There's a story of him walking into the Athens marketplace and saying "Look at all these things I don't need!"
I feel a similar perverse satisfaction from looking at all the consumerism and thinking the same thing. Seeing all the traps and not falling into them.
 
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mattoman

mattoman

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Nov 26, 2024
90
I like the decor, and walking around the city looking at it. I appreciate the colourful lights in the winter when I'm grappling with SAD.
You know Diogenes the Cynic? There's a story of him walking into the Athens marketplace and saying "Look at all these things I don't need!"
I feel a similar perverse satisfaction from looking at all the consumerism and thinking the same thing. Seeing all the traps and not falling into them.
This is really interesting, I don't think I've heard from that but I definitely feel the same.
 
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ijustwishtodie

ijustwishtodie

I have finally found my ultimate bliss
Oct 29, 2023
5,796
I honestly don't give a shit about it. To me, it's just another day of suffering like all of my other days of suffering
 
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TheHolySword

TheHolySword

empty heart
Nov 22, 2024
1,082
Was always a special time of year when I was a kid. That feeling is long gone now. Life goes on, it's all the same year round. But this is my last Christmas so I want it to be special one last time.
 
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broken_doll

broken_doll

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Nov 27, 2024
26
I have a love hate relationship with it. I love the festive-ness and atmosphere and stuff and all the decorations but I get nothing for it and I spend it alone and sad so. It's hard watching people on social media get lots of love and presents and things. People to spend it with.

It's materialistic sounding I know but. I'm not a good person anyway so who cares xD
 
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FuneralCry

FuneralCry

Just wanting some peace
Sep 24, 2020
43,664
Nothing other than suffering, it's just more time spent suffering in this cruel, futile existence I never would have wished for and never would have chosen, existence to me truly is just waiting to die and I'd always prefer to peacefully not exist than be burdened with this existence.
 
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ConfusedClouds

Arcanist
Mar 9, 2024
460
I agree, for all festivals/celebrations. The amount of 'tat' that is increased year on year. So much unnecessary wastage. Big corporations profiteering and/or fast fashion/production making stuff so cheap folk just seem to think stuff literally grows on trees. When will they realise there are less and less trees for it to grow off...
 
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FinalVoid25

FinalVoid25

Member
Dec 22, 2024
39
I always thought holidays are stupid, even as a kid, and still don't understand any of them. Every day is the same to me, I never felt the need to celebrate one day more than the other which makes all the other days in comparison to it just worse in my opinion. And I also don't like being gifted things or having to gift anyone anything.
 
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ShatteredSerenity

ShatteredSerenity

I talk to God, but the sky is empty.
Nov 24, 2024
676
I like Chistmas as long as it's tasteful and not overdone. It's kind of like cologne, a small amount can be pleasant but when it's cheap and overpowering it makes me want to puke.

I also prefer to leave the presents for the children, because adults usually just give each other junk nobody needs and it's wasteful. I really hate buying things just for the sake of adhering to a tradition and not because they're needed.
 
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Yume Nikki

Yume Nikki

Experienced
Dec 8, 2024
212
I think it's overrated and feels like it's forced onto everyone and if you don't celebrate it you're either a grinch or atheist.
 
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yowai

yowai

Specialist
Aug 28, 2024
336
I'm not christian so it's uncomfortable to do the christmas dinner thing with reading the bible and other traditions. But it's manageable if it's just my parents and sister, at least I don't have to go with them to visit my grandma where all family comes and it's so loud. I had to attend my boyfriends family dinner twice and it was awful lol. I don't care about decorations so if I had my own home there'd be no christmas tree or anything. The presents are a little troublesome cause I don't have much money and feel bad when people want to get me something fancy. Only thing good about it is having a couple days off from work
 
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Namelesa

Namelesa

Global Mod · Trapped in this Suffering
Sep 21, 2024
1,939
Having to be with family for long periods of time is a bit meh as I don't really feel like I belong but I get free presents (tho I don't know what I want for this year) and money and tasty food so I feel more positive towards Christmas more than negative. Maybe its silly seeing Christmas lights before Halloween or even in August but I think thats just funny. Some of the decorations outside can be pretty and I like putting up the Christmas tree in our house. I can understand if some people do dislike or hate it, especially if you feel lonely or feel like its forced on people.
 
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SA1994EC

Member
Jan 28, 2021
258
I used to be sad during Christmas and other holiday seasons because I was alone. But now, I have no feeling on them. It is just another day passing...
 
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InversedShadow

InversedShadow

Experienced
Dec 28, 2023
250
It is a merry time, joyful and a one where everyone shall be united by each others side! It is the only time during the year when I feel both so nostalgic for my own Christmas happiness and also how I want Christmas to be the best, hopefully it will feel truly glorious as I can imagine it to be one day!
Sadly because of families are nowadays, it really can spoil the Christmas mood, what is really really a shame.. of course, the Christian focus on what the celebration is really about is very important, such lore can't be skipped! However, I wish for non-Christians to enjoy this merry Holiday in their own way.
If only there was snow though.. it would feel even better for me.. ah, but yeah, reality always is lacking in some ways..
 
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LaVieEnRose

LaVieEnRose

Angelic
Jul 23, 2022
4,369
We are expected to marvel at life and all of its wonders during this time and they all just make me sick.
 
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dragonofenvy

dragonofenvy

Wizard
Oct 8, 2023
674
I really hate the holiday season. November to February are my worst months of the year. You have Thanksgiving, Christmas / New Year's, my birthday, and then Valentine's Day all on a monthly cadence and I have to sit there knowing how much everyone else enjoys it while I won't ever be able to. Whenever the holidays roll around it's borderline debilitating for me. Hell, even last year I quit my job on my birthday because I was planning on ctb'ing on it. I wonder how it'll go this year.
 
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Wrath

Wrath

Long live my dead dreams.
Dec 12, 2024
11
Once upon a time I used to listen to music like this.(link below) And then one time I heard my neighbors celebrating. Spiraled. Ruined christmas & new years for me. And now I'm listening to it again and doing it all over again now. Nothing changed this year for me. I've really tried. It's been almost two years since I dropped out of junior year in highschool.

Nothing changes. I flip flop from being hopeful and then I crash again. It's not depression. It's just the logical reaction to myself. Christmas reminds me what a freak I am. I wish I was six years old getting screamed at by my mom. At least she pretended back then. The presents would make me really happy. Now I don't get to be a kid. I don't get gifts. I don't decorate anything. No christmas tree. No lights. No festive clothing. Just sitting in my room. Coping with my videogames, that I cry over whenever a character talks to someone else. I could never even do that in all my years. I can't even comprehend having 'loved ones' or even 1 of them.

This song makes me laugh and cry. Every year I play this on 'christmas'. I think it's horrifically funny sometimes. Really reminds me that I don't even have a heart to give even if I found someone. Then I just hysterically laugh. I don't know why anymore. Maybe I really do deserve this.

Even if I can get close enough to hear the music. I'll never truly be a part of it.
 
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S like Siren

S like Siren

Enlightened
Apr 29, 2021
1,579
I would love to being able to spend a beautiful Christmas with a lovely family but it ain't possible having a shitty family that I hate.
This year more than the past years i am more tired mentally and deep in my soul that I am kinda detached from Christmas etc...i am not even angry anymore,i don't care anymore....
 
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ConstantPain

Sorry but cats are so much better than people
Jun 9, 2022
286
I try not to but still get more irritated by it every year. If I was going to celebrate anything my choice would be the Winter Solstice. Instead, I feel like Christmas is forced on me at home, at work, and simply driving around. I don't live close to family and I actually like mine so it just makes me more miserable. I probably told my husband 20 times this year alone that I don't want to celebrate Christmas and he disregards me every time.
 
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castlebravo

castlebravo

Member
Oct 9, 2022
18
I loved it as a kid. Then again when my daughter was born. Now it's another thing to get through.
 
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Myforevercharlie

Myforevercharlie

Illuminated
Feb 13, 2020
3,232
When I wasn't alone I absolutely loved it
Now it's just a day..
 
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ratvroomvrooms

ratvroomvrooms

Member
Apr 10, 2024
15
I'm not religious myself but the religion of my family doesn't believe in Christmas and many of the other holidays aside from the more general ones (Mother's Day, Father's Day, etc.)

But I really like the holidays. I have an excuse to make gifts for friends. I'm broke, but I like to use whatever I could find at home to make something my friends could remember me by. Happy Holidays! 🫶
 
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Electra

Electra

The relief of giving in to destruction
Jul 1, 2024
581
I like the decor, and walking around the city looking at it. I appreciate the colourful lights in the winter when I'm grappling with SAD.
You know Diogenes the Cynic? There's a story of him walking into the Athens marketplace and saying "Look at all these things I don't need!"
I feel a similar perverse satisfaction from looking at all the consumerism and thinking the same thing. Seeing all the traps and not falling into them.
Now when I think of it, I also enjoy the decor and the Christmas lights. It illuminates the city so nicely and warmly, definitely brightens up the winter mood.
 
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Blue Dream

Blue Dream

Student
Sep 26, 2024
134
I always thought holidays are stupid, even as a kid, and still don't understand any of them. Every day is the same to me, I never felt the need to celebrate one day more than the other which makes all the other days in comparison to it just worse in my opinion. And I also don't like being gifted things or having to gift anyone anything.
I like having excuses to take time off work tbh...
 
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Wezzy777

Wezzy777

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Dec 5, 2024
59
I wish I could just ignore it. I envy the people who can just...chose to not visit their family over the holidays. This year will be miserable for me.
 
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exhumed101

exhumed101

Experienced
Nov 25, 2024
224
This isn't a discussion wether you celebrate Christmas or not, it can be other holidays as well. How do you feel about those? Like in general. Or if your believes doesn't celebrate anything at this time, how do you feel about holidays that are being celebrated?

I like Christmas when I can spend time with my family and have zero thoughts about anything at the time, but I really fucking hate all the lines at stores, when I just want to in n out from grocery store and some family is blocking the isles. Can't really complain about Christmas songs, since I've been blasting my own music from earphones when in public, and thank lord for that.

I hate the materialism of Christmas, obviously its fun to get gifts, but I hate to feel stressed about getting gifts, since I literally don't have money for that. This Christmas I'll be working morning shifts for the whole holiday, which is fun. I'm seeing my parents in the evening and it's tolerable.

What's your thoughts?
I don't even celebrate holidays anymore.
 
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