You Are Not Worthless - Unemployment.

[Misanthrope]

Bump. Because it is always relevant why you are not worthless.

 

[Walilamdzi]

I enjoyed reading that. The whole 'gaps in CV' thing annoys me, I exaggerated some self employment when I got my last job and they said well done, not many gaps for someone your age. But I was on edge because of feeling like they might find out about it, which kind of made me less relaxed at work for a bit. Complications in life happen all the time and I've read that some employers expect you to have a detailed explanation for any times you haven't been working. What do you think is the best approach, on a CV, for this? To invent something to cover the gap or to just not address it or...?

 

[Xaphous]

I know I'm fucked because I never had a job, I'm way late to the game and no one will employ me. I'm 29 now so it's absolutely hopeless. Even when I first tried many years ago I couldn't get the experience. I've always known in my mind it would be difficult to maintain any job given lifelong mental health issues and isolation. I may aswell give up and accept it will never happen now. I had one response back all year but it's too far to travel to. The future is grim whether I ctb or not.

 

[Walilamdzi]

@Xaphous I feel like I'm a bit fucked, too. I'm 22 and had to stop my degree because of my health... if I try to get a degree again (which I can't start this year), I'll be 28 when I graduate, with no experience. I don't think that's going to make things very easy. I wonder if I'm always going to be stuck in unskilled, unrewarding jobs or unemployed.

 

[TAW122]

@Xaphous I was in a similar boat for many years. I didn't get my actual real job until just the beginning of this year and I'm 28 years old. It is a temporary job and just recently ended, so I'm looking for another part time job now. As a backup plan, I have thought about getting on SSI given my mental issues and disabilities, though it will be very difficult to do so since the process is long and arduous.

 

[Xaphous]

@Xaphous I was in a similar boat for many years. I didn't get my actual real job until just the beginning of this year and I'm 28 years old. It is a temporary job and just recently ended, so I'm looking for another part time job now. As a backup plan, I have thought about getting on SSI given my mental issues and disabilities, though it will be very difficult to do so since the process is long and arduous.

Yes they make it very difficult but I guess it ranges by country. I end up giving up trying to get sick benefits for anything past short temporary. I've found it impossible so far and even if I do get it I will feel ashamed depending on it. I see no solutions.

 

[Misanthrope]

Bump.

 

[Misanthrope]

It is tiresome seeing people beat themselves up over a rigged and ridiculous game. So bump.

 

[Misanthrope]

One more bump. It is getting vicious out there and the lies of employment rate is getting absurd. Don't believe me look into who is calculated as in the labour force. Colour me dumb but I thought unemployed meant not in work? I have decided to cure cancer by redefining how cancer is measured. Now cancer is only measured if you are terminal. How fabulous I am! By this simple shift in measurement I have reduced cancer across the world. It is all double plus good out there now! It's hard not to be bitter when surrounded by this depth of stupid. Don't let this stupid dance grind you down and doubt your self worth. Never give up your power to shitty systems or equally shitty people and internalise that as your own truth.

 

[color_me_gone]

I am glad I am retired, and not seeking employment after retirement.
I come from the good ol' days.
I worked for the same company for over 43 years, my entire life.
Try doing that today.

 

[Misanthrope]

Bump while I am functional.

 

[eve2004]

I had a career in IT. Now I am unemployed due to life circumstances that happened and subsequently the major depressive episode i'm currently in. I have zero hopes of ever being able to work in the field again in any capacity due to the fact that I can barely manage going through a day without spending hours in high anxiety states wanting to CTB or massively OD to be unconscious for a few days. Also, if I'm unable to enjoy anything at all, nor interact socially with people face to face or even on phone, or even get out of bed some days how can I reliably get and maintain a job?

All these reasons and more (insomnia, benzo dependancy, lowered self esteem, bad memory, etc) are why I am hopeless and want to CTB. I can't be unemployed forever. So eventually the financial situation will hit crisis level and I want to go before that. Also I want to pre-pay my funeral and prepare all paperwork because I don't have anyone close to me to do it and I don't want the person I designated in my will to go through too much trouble. I have first hand experience of dealing with the estate work of my late spouse.

I doubt there will ever be a solution to these types of problems. There will never be a drug that works. This will go on in generations for all eternity. I don't think the answer is in the type of research they are doing. If there is miraculously a solution/resolution, it will probably be something completely out of the box unexpected and unbelievable. But not in my (hopefully short) lifetime...

Those who have any shred of hope... hold on to it dearly and avoid any possibly of losing it at all costs. Don't be shy to ask for what you need if you think it will help. Please, don't lose whatever hope you have. You can build on it. Its harder to build hope when you have none left.

 

[Misanthrope]

Bump.

 

[Misanthrope]

Recently saw glowing news about the unemployment rate is the lowest it has ever been. Of course it is as you are measuring people as employed who by the dictionary definition of the word are not.

 

[noonetoo]

I was happier unemployed. I'll never fit in a workplace. The difficulty of being surrounded by favoritism and hearing of others socializing and being discluded and not being communicated with if I'm doing the job right or not. I feel any day now they'll just say "we don't need you anymore". It's a very consuming yet depressing feeling not being acknowledged with a good morning yet they give it to others. I hate hate favoritism. I want to be accepted too. My unemployment was running out so I was forced to get a job back. I was in construction with cruel people that pushed me to my lowest for not being strong and fast enough. And now in an environment I should "belong" in with females my age, with similar interests, and the same race yet I'm left out. Women newer than me have already gotten comfortable and made friends but I'm still a total loser. This happens everywhere I go. I get told "go to work for work" "you aren't there to make friends" "forget what people think of you" but I care, I care too deeply and it's something that has bothered me all my life and has pushed me to many breaking points. My childhood was lonely enough, I'm fighting this loneliness I hold inside. I'm supposed to be in a work field of "friendly" people but people are only fake enough for their paychecks and the friends they have already made. My social attempts are a failure, if it's maybe I'm socializing the wrong things or seeming too opinionated or maybe my tone, people think I have attitude even though it's never my intention. I hate who I am and I hate that no matter how hard I try to change or fix myself my efforts are worthless because everything I hold within shows. I don't belong here at all.

 

[Misanthrope]

Bump, because nothing has changed.

 

[Misanthrope]

A new year and the same employment challenges not worth vilifying yourself over.

 

[BabyYoda]

Yay thanks for this!! Finally my first miracle for 2020 and I don't fuckin believe in miracles!!!!!!

 

[Pallf]

I'm still looking for work. I'm turning in an application tomorrow, but I'm not positive I'll get the job.
I don't know what's wrong with me. All the jobs that are supposed to be easy to acquire, such as restaurant jobs, I can't seem to land. I dress up nicely, I bring a copy of my resume as well as the application, and I try to make myself look like a good candidate for employment.
The only jobs I know I can land are delivery jobs, but I don't have wheels of my own and I can't use my parents' cars. Any driving job is out of the question.
I'm a shitty employee, but I'm trying to change that.

 

[56709]

As mundane and shallow as it may seem to some this is one of my biggest reasons for checking out...
I have been turned down, even for simple jobs at call centers and restaurants, many times now...
it has been almost two years since I've worked and there's no end in sight...
If I am not worthless I am indeed useless in most respects...

 

[Moonicide]

Thank you for your kind words, love. I'm unemployed and living on disability checks + food stamps. Unfortunately, the income I have isn't sustainable, the waiting list for Section 8 and low income housing is so long it can take years for me to find a place for myself and it's one of the many reasons why I'll be ctbing... It's a struggle knowing you're so mentally ill that you can't work or support yourself. It's frustrating and soul crushing... Not being able to work or live a functional life does take a toll out of you. But it's not our fault we have gotten to this point in our lives. That we are broken, suffering, and in so much pain. My heart is with you all during these hard times.

 

[oopswronglife]

Doesn't matter if I know I am not worthless...I am worthless to society and anyone who can help. Nobody who can help will because they get nothing from it. I will die because I am not profitable. I was ruined by doctors. Will never work again. Denied disability. I was meant to ctb tonight...have everything in order...but I just cannot do it. My cat was super cuddly...more than normal...it breaks my heart. I feel so tired I cannot focus on preparing the method. I don't even WANT to die...but I cannot live like this. Maybe tomorrow...

 

[ArtsyDrawer]

Edit: I mean check Fiverr if you need income asap. Again, not associated, just sharing this nugget of potential life saving.

By the way, check out Fiverr. A fucking life saver.
You'd need a bank account and a credit card to be paid, but still, online work. Oh, and you'd need internet. You can get internet in a library, though.

I'm trying to set up a translation business.
Everybody has a skill in something useful and Fiverr seems to cover most of them.
I am in no way associated with Fiverr and will whore my translation business to whoever needs some translating done for the low low price of letting me use your hopefully positive review on my portfolio.
No legal documents, though. I can try, but I'd rather not to.

 

[Misanthrope]

Bump

 

[ghostspace]

I've been on SSDI (disability) for two years. I'm 22 and whenever people ask me what I'm majoring in I have to either lie or say I have health problems.

I know I can't manage work or school right now and maybe not for a while. I'm so disappointed in myself for being lazy and unproductive.

 

[noonetoo]

I've been on SSDI (disability) for two years. I'm 22 and whenever people ask me what I'm majoring in I have to either lie or say I have health problems.

I know I can't manage work or school right now and maybe not for a while. I'm so disappointed in myself for being lazy and unproductive.

Fuck people. You don't have to lie or yet even feel like you owe them an explanation of what you're doing in life. I swear the most people that criticize are fuck ups themselves. Take life as it comes. A degree doesn't equate to being successful, good credit, owning a home, having a career, happy marriage and a family doesn't either. And definitely at a young age, no one has that. Don't worry about meeting society's expectations. This world is a shit place anyway. If we die tomorrow, you don't take any of that stuff with you. I'm weird I'm only saying this because I'm in a good mood :) contradicting my earlier post lol.

 

[TheLastSacrifice]

Yeah thanks for this. My wife keeps calling me a loser and it's really bothering me. I work as a CNA (nursing assistant) and my job is unpleasant enough without being reminded what a loser I am.
It h

I've been on SSDI (disability) for two years. I'm 22 and whenever people ask me what I'm majoring in I have to either lie or say I have health problems.

I know I can't manage work or school right now and maybe not for a while. I'm so disappointed in myself for being lazy and unproductive.

It gets worse when you are 37 and people ask that.

 

[Misanthrope]

Well when I am functional enough I will write a detailed breakdown why you are not worthless for being on social security either.

 

[ghostspace]

Fuck people. You don't have to lie or yet even feel like you owe them an explanation of what you're doing in life. I swear the most people that criticize are fuck ups themselves. Take life as it comes. A degree doesn't equate to being successful, good credit, owning a home, having a career, happy marriage and a family doesn't either. And definitely at a young age, no one has that. Don't worry about meeting society's expectations. This world is a shit place anyway. If we die tomorrow, you don't take any of that stuff with you. I'm weird I'm only saying this because I'm in a good mood :) contradicting my earlier post lol.

thank you for taking the time to say something kind to me, it does make me feel better and less pointless and alone.

I contradict myself all the time when I'm in different moods, you're totally fine ♡ I love you and hope your good mood lasts :)

 

[TAW122]

As of now, I am currently unemployed and unsure when or whether I will be employed again (let alone gainfully). Though I have a rather apathetic feeling since I know that I will be CTB'ing later this year (unless all the major reasons and problems for wanting to CTB are miraculously solved - which honesty, isn't going to happen).

Well when I am functional enough I will write a detailed breakdown why you are not worthless for being on social security either.

I'd be interested in reading your thread when you do. You have some really interesting perspectives and ideas.