Volatile
God
- Jun 18, 2018
- 1,285
It seems everyone's just acting. Why can't people be genuine?
Because it would make them feel judged; it's also worthy considering that most people don't know themselves at all, so it would be quite difficult for them to be openly honest
Society is a play in theater. Good thing don't participate in it anylonger.
all I can see is people questioning who they are, what they want to do with their life, existential crisis, younger and older people hating on each other because they seem to despise things they barely know something about...
Volatile
God
- Jun 18, 2018
- 1,285
It really is a play. I've never played the role I was given. No wonder I'm an outsider
BxK
Member
- Aug 20, 2018
- 38
People believe in versions of people that don't exist. Placing expectation and ideals on a person, said person knows this and so play that role constantly, it can go both ways as well.
Knowing that if they break the role or expectation, the 'bond' they worked so hard for will shatter. So people pretend, so they aren't alone or shunned. Just my opinion anyways, it's probably wrong like a lot I say.
Not to say true bonds don't exist, I've never had one, but people really do remain genuine friends beyond the pretending.
Must be nice.
Knowing that if they break the role or expectation, the 'bond' they worked so hard for will shatter. So people pretend, so they aren't alone or shunned. Just my opinion anyways, it's probably wrong like a lot I say.
Not to say true bonds don't exist, I've never had one, but people really do remain genuine friends beyond the pretending.
Must be nice.
FairyAlys
Member
- Aug 7, 2018
- 57
It's also protection or it is with me; guarding against other people.
BlackDragonof1989
Mage
- Jul 12, 2018
- 526
For me it's partly due to how I was raised in a dysfunctional family where alcoholism was always coddled and denied, and appearances to the outside were important. However, I also realized that sometimes people do indeed like a person best if they become what they think is expected of them, in order to be best liked by someone. Also, sometimes it just avoids potential conflict, but many times if I am in a snappy or down mood, I sense others can sense it and some of them seem to try to push and provoke me for some reason. It's complex but simple I suppose.
mattwitt
# 978
- Jun 28, 2018
- 2,309
Because people are fake ! If you look up the definition for the word "hypocrite" one of it's definitions is "actor" and that's what human beings are "actors"
I can relate to this so much. I don't even feel a connection with my own mother. When she talks to me on the phone she sounds so fake and like she doesn't even want to talk to me. Like she's trying to hide disappointment. But when she talks to my husband she calls me an unstable alcoholic druggy. She doesn't approve of our relationship because he's 40 and I'm 22 so she would talk shit about me in hopes he wouldn't want me.
To protect our egos from anxiety, shame and fear. We adopt the status quo of the society we live in to be accepted by the group. If life was more like a video game for instance, and you couldn't be hurt emotionally or physically, you would automatically act more genuine because there is no threat. If you're ostracized or disliked you can always create another character, but in real life you can't, and you don't want to ruin your reputation or be seen by others as awkward or someone who doesn't fit in. Give a man a mask and he will show you his true self. Many of the things I say here I wouldn't say in society because of the expectations others have for me that manipulate my psyche and inhibit me.
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Dead_Inside
Wizard
- Jul 2, 2018
- 622
.... I want to give some excellent philosophical answer..... here is what I get from my friend:
... Me: " I fucking wish I had just used a gun last time. Then I would be dead now. I fucked up ..."
Friend: " what's your schedule like next week?"
Me: " hate this life. Hope it ends soon. This sucks."
Friend: "Would you like to text me tomorrow when you have a better idea when you might be free?"
..... my best bet is that they don't want complications in their special life. So they just ignore or fake their way through life ....
Misleading themselves because deep down its easier than changing
Because we live in a simulation and people only really feel natural around people they have spent a lot of time with.
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