Venting Why are so many people so awful?

[BlueButterfly111]

This topic has been weighing on my mind heavily recently. Why are so many people so awful? I made a couple of posts a few days ago about how I've recently been getting contacted by men that I went to school with on social media trying to get sexual with me immediately. What they were doing was basically contacting me trying to get me to meet up with them for sex immediately. When I made a post asking why they would do this, the responses that made the most sense was that they don't know anything about me, so they are trying to see if I would go for the bare minimum bullshit.

I just personally don't understand why people are like this. And don't even give me the "well that's just them being horny," bs because there are plenty of people who get horny who don't need to treat people that way. If they are that desperate for sex, why not contact a professional for sex? And also many of them have exes and baby mothers, so why are you trying to take advantage of a random girl?

Idk it just makes me sick. I had to block all of them, but it just blows my mind that this is how people act in the big 2026 and I'm expected to just treat this as "normal." It really makes me upset, like yes I get it I'm just ignoring it obviously, but these kind of things just make me lose hope in ever finding decent humans to bond with in this lifetime. Tbh, I shouldn't even be that surprised about how low they act, because they are the same people who acted weird towards me in school, and I just never connected with them, or felt any kind of good vibe from them. I guess I just expected for them to have some kind of adult maturity/decency when they reached out to me again, but perhaps I just shouldn't always expect that.

If this is the norm, then I don't understand how average people even connect with these people. I feel like I'm way too sensitive for all of this, I just want to be with good and decent people, and it makes me miss my dead boyfriend a lot. I just had to get this off my chest because it's very disheartening to me. This has really been bothering me recently, It's hard to find good people nowadays, but it shouldn't be this hard to find decent people. I wonder what exactly goes through these peoples heads.

 

[SASU-KE]

This site is basically the only site I visit at this point.Social media is pretty much a cancer.

 

[fedup1982]

Im sorry you lost your boyfriend

 

[qtk5436]

My point of view might not be right, but there has to be some good people out there. Otherwise there's nothing to compare the bad ones to, no separation between bad and not. Even if it takes a long time I hope you find at least a few good people.

 

[BlueButterfly111]

My point of view might not be right, but there has to be some good people out there. Otherwise there's nothing to compare the bad ones to, no separation between bad and not. Even if it takes a long time I hope you find at least a few good people.

I didn't say that there weren't any good people out there. I'm wondering why there are so many awful people, and why they act this way. I did meet a good person, but unfortunately they're dead now.

 

[qtk5436]

I didn't say that there weren't any good people out there. I'm wondering why there are so many awful people, and why they act this way. I did meet a good person, but unfortunately they're dead now.

I'm sorry for your loss, even though I know saying that changes nothing, I am. My best guess is that so many people act that way just because they can. They haven't experienced the other side of it, so they don't care how others feel. I've noticed that even some of the worst people can change a lot from one tragedy, but it also can go the other way around so that's not reliable.

 

[Lamentice]

Personally I don't have any social media (except this), I scroll Reddit, but it has a time limit on my phone & I don't have an account (so I'm not interacting with anyone/thing). When I did have social media a few years ago (just Instagram) I had blocked anyone I didn't follow from being able to interact with me.

I hate social media. And I don't understand sexual behavior from people either, I don't experience sexual attraction and view it mostly negatively.

Too many people are like that and will justify that behavior, it's not okay, the distress/upsetness you're feeling makes complete sense. It's an inappropriate and dehumanizing way for someone to approach another. You should block them, if you haven't already.

 

[amy joyce]

I believe that young men especially are led by sexual desires and are particular interested in developing more partners. Social media is a much easier way to make that approach. The courage they muster is less difficult and the let down less embarrassing. The fact that it's awful is more of an opinion, although I personally agree. However I too can invest a few moments to try and see this from the pov of other people think of sex as more of a desperate need. Society has gone through many changes over the years and I think much was intentionally pushed by elite groups wishing to control the world they live in. That stems from greed.

I'm older and more culturally conservative. One of the reasons societies were more inclined to conservative in the past was to protect women and the virtue of unmarried females. It was a virtue to live up to long existing standards which I would hope make people less nasty.

I am very sorry for your loss and very much hope you can find happiness along with good, decent people to spend your life around. This shouldn't be so difficult but we humans are complicated creatures. I am a late bloomer to appreciating philosophy and Biblical messengers. I've learned there is a lot to gain from it if the person finds the right group. That can be an exhausting search but I believe worth it and probably a good place to try and meet decent people. I advise not letting your guard down. Sadly you will always need that in our world.

 

[wine is fine but]

overall, people are disgusting
i was recently sanctioned for having the audacity to suggest in a heartfelt tribute post that someone had one of the most tragic stories ever. those involved knew that i was still grieving almost 2 weeks later. they knew that i could not look at the goodbye thread because it hurt so much, and at least one, maybe 350 self centred snowflakes reported that post
how callous could a person be to do that?

but everyone involved are the trigger now - they will be responsible for my almost 80 year old mum being devastated for losing her child - and no doubt, they will still be very proud of themselves for doing it

This topic has been weighing on my mind heavily recently. Why are so many people so awful? I made a couple of posts a few days ago about how I've recently been getting contacted by men that I went to school with on social media trying to get sexual with me immediately. What they were doing was basically contacting me trying to get me to meet up with them for sex immediately. When I made a post asking why they would do this, the responses that made the most sense was that they don't know anything about me, so they are trying to see if I would go for the bare minimum bullshit.

I just personally don't understand why people are like this. And don't even give me the "well that's just them being horny," bs because there are plenty of people who get horny who don't need to treat people that way. If they are that desperate for sex, why not contact a professional for sex? And also many of them have exes and baby mothers, so why are you trying to take advantage of a random girl?

Idk it just makes me sick. I had to block all of them, but it just blows my mind that this is how people act in the big 2026 and I'm expected to just treat this as "normal." It really makes me upset, like yes I get it I'm just ignoring it obviously, but these kind of things just make me lose hope in ever finding decent humans to bond with in this lifetime. Tbh, I shouldn't even be that surprised about how low they act, because they are the same people who acted weird towards me in school, and I just never connected with them, or felt any kind of good vibe from them. I guess I just expected for them to have some kind of adult maturity/decency when they reached out to me again, but perhaps I just shouldn't always expect that.

If this is the norm, then I don't understand how average people even connect with these people. I feel like I'm way too sensitive for all of this, I just want to be with good and decent people, and it makes me miss my dead boyfriend a lot. I just had to get this off my chest because it's very disheartening to me. This has really been bothering me recently, It's hard to find good people nowadays, but it shouldn't be this hard to find decent people. I wonder what exactly goes through these peoples heads.

sadly no one cares about anyone but themselves. so many claim that they care about everyone. they speak love, understanding and inclusiveness, but that is only if you agree with them. if you do not, then you are nothing to them and they would not pee on you if you were on fire, or they would politically assassinate you - both options are good to them

obviously, i do not know you or the situation, but it would seem to even me, that if multiple men had contacted you out of the blue, then something is not right. it would definitely seem that their intentions were not pure with more than one making contact. i am sorry that you have gone through what you have. it is not fair, and then to have morons just trying to get what is best for them is horrible. blocking them was smart because those people do not deserve to be in your life. just always understand what your own value is, and never lower your standards, but you seem like you have that part under control

 

[violetforever]

i wonder all the time too. im not sure it would really change anything but i wish i had the answer. i specifically dont understand how people are controlled by their sexual desires to that extent either. i just live discouraged in other people too.

 

[EmptyBottle]

Unfortunately, bad actors on social media see female-looking profiles almost like adult chatbots... I wonder if changing privacy settings, etc can help