Where to leave the suicide note if you ctb in a hotel

[existenceissuffering]

Many users on here have talked about ctb in a hotel. Would it be better to leave the suicide note in your bedroom or hotel room? If it's left in the hotel room, will the family get to read it?

 

[Hunter]

This might vary by territory… But I hear that police take one copy and if there's another one present, they'll give that to the family. So if you're going to go with paper copies, maybe you can leave two. Or you can leave one paper copy in the room, and then do an electronic version.

 

[TAW122]

I think it wouldn't matter where as long as there are at least two copies, (one electronic, one hand written) or both electronic/hand written. This way one is confiscated by the authorities and the other one is given to next of kin/family.

 

[21Neberg]

You could also write an e-mail as a note, and then set it to send after you're gone. Make sure it doesnt send if you survive the attempt though.

 

[Smilla]

Th coroner will keep notes and release to family upon conclusion of the "investigation".

 

[PatKat]

Many users on here have talked about ctb in a hotel. Would it be better to leave the suicide note in your bedroom or hotel room? If it's left in the hotel room, will the family get to read it?

Whoever it is too, and your family will be able to get them.

 

[Jiva]

Send by a post office? But only if you are totally solid.

 

[Roph]

I'd leave a copy or two in the hotel room. One will go toward the investigation and the other will go toward family.

 

[Smilla]

I'm sending mine first class US mail with rainbow unicorn stamps for a classy touch.

 

[Jodes]

Would you want to tempt family to keep a potentially illegal copy by sending them one? I don't know if it would be legal or not for them to keep something like that that they had sent to their address?

 

[Sick Boy]

In your bedroon definitely!,if you leave it in a hotel room it may get lost with the pólice and paremedics,or even worst
it may end up on the internet

 

[Roph]

Would you want to tempt family to keep a potentially illegal copy by sending them one? I don't know if it would be legal or not for them to keep something like that that they had sent to their address?

I think most families would call the police upon receiving something like that in the mail.

 

[Roph]

How is it illegal to have a suicide note?

It's probably not illegal. It would be really messed up to charge relatives with a crime for receiving a note from a loved one.

 

[existenceissuffering]

Thanks everyone. I'll leave on at home and one in the hotel room.

 

[NotWorthLiving]

Yea just try to make sure they don't get found before you're gone otherwise you risk being 'saved'

 

[Shewaitsforme]

@Smilla is correct. Everything my partner had on her at the hotel was kept untill after the investigation. She had her works door keys with her and safe keys, they were kept and they are important keys, my cards were kept so i had to cancel them as they were on her, money in her purse etc. Its will all form part of the investigation so will not be released straight away. She died in May and the inquest in August so all her belongings were returned after that. Maybe hide it in your room. If a copy isnt left at home they may tell the family bits of the letter, they may not. My partner was a straight forward suicide, cctv of her entering the hotel and room, noone else going into the room before she was found but they wouldnt want information to be leaked incase someone is 'involved' even in a minute way as it was still an investigation. Part of the letter will be read out at coroners court and if requested they can give it to the family then. I was given a copy or the hotel staffs statement, police statement, coronors report, GP statement but only on the day of the inquest

 

[existenceissuffering]

Yea just try to make sure they don't get found before you're gone otherwise you risk being 'saved'

I'll just have to think of where to put the note.

 

[bigj75]

Leave it on the the bed.

 

[RainAndSadness]

I would probably leave it on the bed as well. My goodbye notes are all digital ones. They're ready to be sent once I leave. I found a service that lets me send delayed emails and I'm gonna use it to let people know about my thoughts once I'm gone. I already did various tests with it and it works perfectly fine.

 

[21Neberg]

I would probably leave it on the bed as well. My goodbye notes are all digital ones. They're ready to be sent once I leave. I found a service that lets me send delayed emails and I'm gonna use it to let people know about my thoughts once I'm gone. I already did various tests with it and it works perfectly fine.

Just make sure to cancel the e-mails if your attempts fail! Perhaps set a long timer until the e-mails send, like a week? That way you'll have plenty of time to get out of the hospital and cancel the emails

 

[GreyMagic]

I would probably leave it on the bed as well. My goodbye notes are all digital ones. They're ready to be sent once I leave. I found a service that lets me send delayed emails and I'm gonna use it to let people know about my thoughts once I'm gone. I already did various tests with it and it works perfectly fine.

What was the service called?

 

[DivorceIsMyWhy]

@Smilla is correct. Everything my partner had on her at the hotel was kept untill after the investigation. She had her works door keys with her and safe keys, they were kept and they are important keys, my cards were kept so i had to cancel them as they were on her, money in her purse etc. Its will all form part of the investigation so will not be released straight away. She died in May and the inquest in August so all her belongings were returned after that. Maybe hide it in your room. If a copy isnt left at home they may tell the family bits of the letter, they may not. My partner was a straight forward suicide, cctv of her entering the hotel and room, noone else going into the room before she was found but they wouldnt want information to be leaked incase someone is 'involved' even in a minute way as it was still an investigation. Part of the letter will be read out at coroners court and if requested they can give it to the family then. I was given a copy or the hotel staffs statement, police statement, coronors report, GP statement but only on the day of the inquest

So sad @Shewaitsforme . Do you miss your partner?

 

[LivingToLong]

I personally would not leave a note at all. I know others would want to and I understand that completely.

I just don't want people looking for reasons, maybe misinterpreting whatever I might write. I'm not sure I'd know what to say anyway. I think my dead body would say enough, no?

 

[futur]

What was the service called?

i don't know which service RainAndSadness uses, but i also found one. It is called Boomerang and it works with Gmail account. You can send 10 delayed messages each month for free

 

[ron_g]

Be careful with delayed mail services.

https://sanctioned-suicide.net/threads/a-warning-about-timecave.7096/

In their TOS they state they may read messages and inform authorities to prevent violence or something to that effect.

 

[futur]

Be careful with delayed mail services.

https://sanctioned-suicide.net/threads/a-warning-about-timecave.7096/

In their TOS they state they may read messages and inform authorities to prevent violence or something to that effect.

oh, i didn't even think about that

 

[Shewaitsforme]

So sad @Shewaitsforme . Do you miss your partner?

Hi, sorry not been on for a while. Yes i miss her so much. Its strange because i very much feel im still in a relationship, that i still have that love from someone but its like my brain hasnt fully awknowledged shes not around because shes at work she actually dead. I still get the urge to text her when im at work, for a few seconds when i wake up i forget shes not here. I dont know how to grieve properly, another 2 months it will be a year.