Discussion When was the last time you felt happy? If ever?

[Ferret77]

I don't really remember anymore.

 

[Crow_88]

Probably about 10 months ago.

 

[Grumpy Frog]

I feel happy a lot. It just doesn't last and I am back to the same old thoughts and feelings.

 

[Jadeith]

I remember.....i think....
Last year, we went hiking with my father. A butterfly landed on my arm and started licking my sweat. It was only for few seconds but it was beautiful. I think i was happy then.

 

[sadalways]

Yesterday night. Even though it wasn't anything major so the happiness is probably very short lived but yeah. Rare for me to even feel this way though.

 

[Notaname]

About a month ago. My girlfriend at the time had come over and stayed the night. It was in the morning, before I had work. I was watching some videos on my phone while she kept sleeping. She woke up, scooted over, and put her head on my chest and fell back asleep for another hour or so. I remember looking down at her and just thinking how peaceful and beautiful the moment was. She left me 4 days later... I miss her. She's the only person I've ever actually connected with. I don't know how I'm going to be friends with her. I don't even know if I want that, but she's still the only person I actually respect and connect with. I've got so much other stuff already making me suicidal, I sometimes wish I'd never had that relationship at all... Other times I'm incredibly grateful that I got to experience that type of connection with someone even if it didn't last. I can only name that moment after having to spend a lot of time truly thinking and digging for when I was last happy. The happiness does always come back. Doesn't make me want to live through the shit to experience it again though.

 

[SchrodingerIsDed]

Maybe a little over a year. I really need a woman to feel happy. They really give my life meaning and value. Even though I bitch about them nonstop. And Western society is pretty much entirely sucking their lady-dicks, which isn't going to be good for anyone, tbh.

But yeah. Every moment of real contentment I've had in this life came due to a woman. No pun intended. I remember there was one in particular. The first and only time I've been actually romanced by a woman. She walked me through some literal flower fields and picnicking, well I guess that happened a few times with different women, but this one was just special in the way she went about it. The other one was pretty bland, it was just a routine thing, somehow didn't feel like anything special. This one, somehow she made it extra special at night time.

We walked through the woods, moonlight glinted off the surface of a pond, the trees gracefully blew in the spring wind. It was the perfect temperature, and she brought a blanket for us to both lie on. We both looked up at the stars, with her resting in the crook of my arm, and we just talked the night away. That was probably the best moment of my entire life. She was a good woman. A really good one. She found happiness. Had a couple kids, husband who makes some good money. I'm glad for her.

But the last time was with my ex ex girlfriend. She was an asshole. But I actually had the most happy moments with her. I can't really remember the exact moment, but I think it involved us goofing around together throwing a ball back and forth. Yeah. Yeah that was happiness. And every night we'd go to sleep, cuddled up, and I felt her smooth legs intertwined with mine. That was the best, struggling to adjust to where her hair wasn't suffocating me. The absolute best thing ever.

Yeah. I'm no one without a woman. Don't let them know that, though, it'll go to their heads. :)

 

[thinvy]

fully satisfied happy? I dunno, it's been so long. just happy the emotion irregardless of how else I felt? yesterday. I like being outside on my own terms, and I went on a short hike not far from my house. it was covered in ice, below freezing cold, and probably not super safe, but I was alone, stoned, and having a good time by myself.

being outside is nice sometimes.

 

[AAE]

10 years. It's just not possible to feel true happiness without being allowed to have a safe home or any support at all for severe chronic illness and disability.

 

[Rymrgand]

Difficult question. I feel "happy" often, if you are talking about the emotion. When I eat something I really like, for example. If you are talking about a long term happiness you feel when you have a healthy life, then... Never? I don't remember, but there were moments in my life where I almost deceive myself, like around 2021-2022.

 

[FuneralCry]

I don't really believe in the idea of happiness in existence rather to me existing is only suffering and I see it as so dreadful how this existence that just caused all this suffering all for the sake of it and problems there were never a need for was even imposed at all, I'll always find it so torturous to exist, I never wished for any of this and I never would do no matter what, as long as I exist I really will just wish to not exist, non-existence is all that's desirable and positive for me.

I'd always prefer to be permanently unconscious than suffer for the sake of it with no limit as to how much agony I can feel just to be tortured by old age, to me existence really is an abomination that just causes and brings so much harm and suffering. I'm always so tired of being burdened with this existence, for me existence itself is the true problem and the only relief for me could lie in never suffering ever again, I just want peace from this cruel, futile existence that I always saw as a mistake and I always suffer so much from how I cannot just choose to fall asleep permanently.

 

[sadsoni]

Honestly I don't know. More like I was living a lie and ignorant of what life really has to offer.

 

[SmilingNoMore]

Interesting question. I also thought about this some time ago and had to think long and hard to find a specific time, and I couldn't really. Perhaps moments, yes. By chance, I'm doing some training now on wellbeing, and according to research and studies by a Prof Richard Layard, who's done work on mental health, in the book The Origins of Happiness, "What's more, if we wish to predict which children will lead satisfying adult lives, the best indicator is their emotional health at age 16. This is more important than their academic qualifications right up to the age of 25 – and more important than their behaviour in childhood."

I was definitely not happy at age 16. Don't quite know if it means some of us are doomed, but it was just coincidence seeing the question and thought to share this piece of information. Link to book info: The Origins of Happiness for those wanting to read a bit more.

 

[pthnrdnojvsc]

All the happiness it enjoyment are just meaningless addictions programmed into the brain by evolution and or culture society media other people experiences.

Examples eating food, romantic love , youtube , news, media , social media , sports watching , TV

When I think about it logically I don't want to engage in any of these . Many are almost impossible to quit like eating food

When I think about it logically none of that garbage matters. The only things that matter are avoiding unbearable pain and my suicide asap

For example I have to eat cause I can't take the pain of hunger. All of us are slaves to this food addiction and others

These meaningless addictions are what keep me distracted from working on my real goal getting my suicide plan ready to go and executing my plan. And so these addictions are what could cause me to fall into a trap of extreme torture. These are bait for the trap of extreme torture

 

[frailcoffee]

I don't really remember anymore.

I was fine for a couple of weeks for the first time in forever, up until recently I am stuck in a spiral again. I'm starting to think that in order for me to experience true happiness comes a huge price. I can't be happy for free, the universe knows that I am a bad person so the moment happiness finds me again something bad has to happen.

 

[GlassMoon]

A few months ago when I removed a drywall at a friend's place. It was nice to also be with my friends, OCD symptoms almost vanished on that day. Gave in to the relief of destruction :-)