whats the most hurtful thing you ever overheard someone say about you?

[SufferingInDenmark]

i've heard both my parents talk shit about me when they thought i wasn't listening.
this was when i was a kid ofc, but i still remember it.

there's many things in this life i wish i never heard lol

 

[GlassMoon]

It wasn't something I overheard, but my friends wrote somewhere (I think it was a website we had made, but I don't remember exactly) that even though I was not into drinking alcohol, they had not told me they'd mixed alcohol into a bottle of juice which I drank from.

 

[femcelloser]

I've heard alotttt of mean, nasty, hateful shit from my parents growing up. I never "overheard anything" but they'd just tell me how much of a fuck up I was and how id probably be the one to kill my mom one day, (no idea why she thought saying that to a child was cool)

 

[starboy2k]

"If you wanted to kill yourself, you would have done it by now"…..Ill leave it up to you all to guess who said that to me

 

[wham311]

"im gonna be homeless for 50 years"

" You're not gonna make it that long. And I won't come to pick up your body when you die."

Walks out door to leave me homeless.

I wish she was right about not making it that long but I think I will

 

[LetMeOut67]

As I was brought up before political correctness and widespread awareness of mental illness and autism I was seen as a deadbeat and scrounger.The worst isn't hearing it or overhearing it but being told that people have discussed me in those terms.

 

[JesiBel]

"You ruined your mother's future". My grandmother, who herself denied my teen mother an abortion because "it is a sin to kill a baby" and "everyone must take responsibility for their mistakes". So being born was my fault, as if I had appeared by magic.

 

[deadstillwalking]

When I finally accepted that my mental health is fucked by my fault alone, I overheard my mother having a call with my grandma, saying how I don't even realize that all my family ever paid their attention to my older brother, emotionally neglecting me since childhood.
My parents, grandpa, they all made sure to take proper care of him, little did they know that he's even more fucked up than me. He's one insensitive motherfucker, he almost always ignored grandpa's calls, always cursed both him and our parents. He's been dysfunctional since birth, as I heard. He shamed me in front of our cousins so I always ended up having to isolate myself and play by myself at family gatherings. Despite having everything I needed, the bonds just weren't there. Because of him I developed an inferiority complex too, all my mental issues stem from negligence or his behavior. Holy shit, he barely even talked with grandpa on his deathbed, worst of all; his last wish was for the two of us to make up!
I was never aware of the truth, I blamed all my troubles on myself thinking that I'm a horrible person making terrible decisions. So when I overheard that conversation I felt the sharpest pain in my chest my body has ever experienced.

 

[granny1!]

Not something I overheard but something I don't hear. I live with my daughter and she doesn't speak much to me. Otherwise she isn't mean to me but I feel lonely and isolated.

 

[Message In A Bottle]

It feels like I'm forgetting a lot of myself as the years go by so I'll just pull out a memory that I happen to remember rn. I'm aware it isn't the worst one though.

In third grade, we were required to take photos of ourselves to put into handmade Christmas frames to give to our families. The teacher brought up all the slides of photographs she took and put them on a smart board in front of the whole class. When she got to mine, everyone started laughing. I cowered in shame as it felt like the teacher paused longer than she should've on mine. As if to give the kids an extra moment to cackle …though maybe that was just my imagination.

Anyway, what I heard behind my back. I worked hard on my frame to make it look nice, to make up for the ugly photo inside of it. Everyone's finished frames/photos were magnetized to the eraser board for display. I remember being behind a few girls as they critiqued mine.

"I think __ copied off of mine" "I like __'s frame EXCEPT her picture" "yeah, she looks weird, why's her mouth like that?"

Maybe doesn't sound like much and sure I looked like a doofus but it still hurt me. And add that to all the other ways people have singled me out - you're bound to create one broken individual. For years my self esteem has been beaten down so much that it's still something I'm trying to recover from to this day.

 

[darkandtwisty]

I was in an abusive marriage for years. I was belittled, hit, raped, cheated on, and it broke me. I developed CPTSD, a dissociative disorder, and panic attacks. My grandmother said if I been a better wife, it never would have happened.

Not as bad but growing up, I was frequently told how my parents tried to prevent my existence. I jokingly state that I am the birth control, spermicide, broken condom baby. The only thing they didn't do was have an abortion. Now, I'm not here to ruffle feathers since I know it's a controversial topic, but damn, that would've prevented of the horrible shit I've gone through that led me here.

 

[InTheAbyss]

I overheard my mom telling my brother that she had given up hope of me ever being worth anything a long time ago and she was placing all her hopes on him. Guess who gets heavily favoured between the two of us.

More hurtful things were said directly to me by doctors and medical professionals. So I don't think that counts as overheard. Or they'd be on the list too all around the same amount.

 

[rotten]

There's honestly a lot of things. But lately my mother's new name for me is "zero" because I've hardly achieved anything lol

 

[divinemistress36]

That Im lazy and act like a 16 year old. I have a brain injury I cant help it. I would like to be a productive member of society and be able to regulate my emotions. But nothing has helped

 

[Illegal Preclear]

I've had more objectively hurtful things said to me, but for some reason this one simple thing a cousin said to me has stuck with me more than anything else: Before I made the formal decision to end my life in July of 2024, back in 2018 I was still trying to live.

My brain is too scrambled to work, but I've tried to find work anyway - to no avail. So I had always tried to give my life purpose by doing something or other, in this case it was fitness. I started devoting a lot of time to working out. Cause you know, that's what they tell mentally disabled people to do.

I posted a picture of my fitness progress on social media. Because I had done something and I was proud of it. For 5 minutes I forgot I was Disabled. Then my cousin reminded me - she tells me "it must be so nice and easy to keep fit when you don't have a job."

That one sentence changed my entire thought paradigm. It occurred to me that any 100% effort on my part as a Disabled person would amount to 50% yield of any Abled person if they gave their 100%.

Once that cognition happened, it was joever for me.

Then in 2024 the unanimous decision passed between myself and the voices in my head to end it all.

Part of the reason I haven't yet is because I haven't decided what to do with the cousin that said that to me yet. But that's all I'll say about that.

 

[cemeteryismyhome]

"I'm telling you there's something wrong with him." - my dad to my mom, when I was about 3 years old ( and yes, I remember, it made an impact on me )

 

[Ligottian]

"Do you think he will ever amount to anything?" My mother to my father when they were in bed and I got up to go to the bathroom one night.

 

[kagebunshin]

I've had more objectively hurtful things said to me, but for some reason this one simple thing a cousin said to me has stuck with me more than anything else: Before I made the formal decision to end my life in July of 2024, back in 2018 I was still trying to live.

My brain is too scrambled to work, but I've tried to find work anyway - to no avail. So I had always tried to give my life purpose by doing something or other, in this case it was fitness. I started devoting a lot of time to working out. Cause you know, that's what they tell mentally disabled people to do.

I posted a picture of my fitness progress on social media. Because I had done something and I was proud of it. For 5 minutes I forgot I was Disabled. Then my cousin reminded me - she tells me "it must be so nice and easy to keep fit when you don't have a job."

That one sentence changed my entire thought paradigm. It occurred to me that any 100% effort on my part as a Disabled person would amount to 50% yield of any Abled person if they gave their 100%.

Once that cognition happened, it was joever for me.

Then in 2024 the unanimous decision passed between myself and the voices in my head to end it all.

Part of the reason I haven't yet is because I haven't decided what to do with the cousin that said that to me yet. But that's all I'll say about that.

I'm so sorry this happened to you, people who belittle others' achievements to feel better about themselves are utter trash and not worth regarding. I hope you know that your cousin is wrong. What she said isn't the truth of it, but it's a projection of her own insecurities. Your achievement was and is 100% valid.

 

[notreallybored]

ב''ה,
"Stop having ideas" was a recent direct one.

 

[dontletthembribeyou]

I've heard so many people say things to the effect of "she's too much" about me. I try to shrink myself down as much as I can, I've shrunk to almost nothing at this point and it's still not good enough for them