Discussion What is it like to feel accepted? And loved?

[DownwardSpiral]

Maybe this isn't the best place to ask this, but idk where else. I have only ever been around people who I felt held me back and forced me to mask my true self. I was raised to put other people first which always lead me into toxic codependent relationships with people who didn't respect my boundaries. Once there was a woman who was willing to accept me for who I was. It felt so nice for a little bit, but I sabotaged it very quickly so it never went anywhere.

Since then I have always wondered how amazing it must be to feel accepted by others. So for those of you who have experienced that, what does it feel like? Did you feel content, happy, comfortable, safe, etc.? Did you have hope for your future? Does it feel good to have someone lift you up instead of drag you down? Could you be honest about your feelings without being afraid? Does love make life worth living? Sorry if that's too many questions.

 

[derpyderpins]

"Worth living" will always be subjective.

But it can feel incredible. And unlike other good feelings. It's not necessarily a pleasure or euphoria, but it can hit like a clearing of miasma around your heart. The spiritual equivalent of clouds clearing to allow the sun to shine through.

It's worth fighting for and not giving up on, imo. It's hard when someone has never had it and gotten jaded on the idea of human interaction because of it.

Just be ready to be supportive to that person as well. I think it's difficult when you've always put others first and been taken advantage of - because that first relieving feeling of support tempts you to overindulge and take too much, but two people mutually supporting each other is awesome.

 

[DownwardSpiral]

- because that first relieving feeling of support tempts you to overindulge and take too much

Yes, that is how my experience went. I feel so bad about it. Thank you for your kind message. It helps a lot.

 

[enough of this]

Maybe this isn't the best place to ask this, but idk where else. I have only ever been around people who I felt held me back and forced me to mask my true self. I was raised to put other people first which always lead me into toxic codependent relationships with people who didn't respect my boundaries. Once there was a woman who was willing to accept me for who I was. It felt so nice for a little bit, but I sabotaged it very quickly so it never went anywhere.

Since then I have always wondered how amazing it must be to feel accepted by others. So for those of you who have experienced that, what does it feel like? Did you feel content, happy, comfortable, safe, etc.? Did you have hope for your future? Does it feel good to have someone lift you up instead of drag you down? Could you be honest about your feelings without being afraid? Does love make life worth living? Sorry if that's too many questions.

I would LOVE to find someone who would lift me up instead of dragging me down. That would definitely help to make life worth living.

 

[4colliez]

Since then I have always wondered how amazing it must be to feel accepted by others. So for those of you who have experienced that, what does it feel like? Did you feel content, happy, comfortable, safe, etc.? Did you have hope for your future? Does it feel good to have someone lift you up instead of drag you down? Could you be honest about your feelings without being afraid? Does love make life worth living? Sorry if that's too many questions.

I experienced genuine love and acceptance for a while. It made me feel like all the pain and suffering I went through up until that point finally had meaning, that it all lead to me finally being happy. I felt like I had someone in my corner who wanted to see me become the best version of myself. I gained a lot of confidence, wanted to work on myself and my future, I had discovered a whole new side of life I never thought id experience and I didn't hate who I was anymore. I remember one night I just laid in bed content and I thought "life is good"

Unfortunately im very much the type of person that you love less the more you know about. it feels like all of this was just a lie and that I was never loveable as the person I am at all. sometimes I wish it never happened