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Done_With_It_All

Done_With_It_All

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Mar 15, 2024
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People say it gets better, but never say it gets good.
 
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Malaria

Malaria

If I can't be my own, I'd feel better dead
Feb 24, 2024
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The phrase comes from the "It Gets Better Project", which is a movement dedicated to preventing LGBT teens from committing suicide. The slogan was meant to send a message to LGBT youth that while they may be in an environment filled with homophobia, transphobia, etc, once they're old enough to move out of such places, they may be able to find more welcoming and accepting spaces and communities.

That's all well and good, but the problem is people took that slogan and applied it to every suicidal person in every situation, not realizing that it, in fact, does not get better for everyone.
 
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locked*n*loaded

locked*n*loaded

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Apr 15, 2022
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It's just a platitude that people are programed to say to try and make people feel better.
 
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divinemistress36

divinemistress36

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Jan 1, 2024
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Something people say to give you hope.
 
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ijustwishtodie

ijustwishtodie

I have finally found my ultimate bliss
Oct 29, 2023
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It doesn't really mean anything of substance by the person who's saying it. I see it as the equivalent of "thoughts and prayers"
 
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kunikuzushi

kunikuzushi

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Jan 24, 2023
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something people say to others but they're really saying it to themselves because they're terrified of the fact that their lives are meaningless and in the end it doesn't actually get better. it just ends.
 
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Ociv

Ociv

Don't fear what's in your head
Mar 29, 2024
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Try asking in the Recovery section of the site. they might have some more relevant insight about this.
 
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FuneralCry

FuneralCry

Just wanting some peace
Sep 24, 2020
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That phrase just sounds like empty words and toxic positivity to me, it's just nonsensical especially as there is literally no limit as to how torturous existing can get as after all we exist in this reality where chance so senselessly determines everything. In my case what I have a problem with is existence itself, I see nothing desirable about being conscious and aware in this meaningless, cruel and futile existence, only ceasing to exist can make things better for me as I only wish to be eternally free from this existence.
 
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rozeske

Maybe I am the problem
Dec 2, 2023
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It should have been "It may or may not get better, are you willing to wait and find out"?
 
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Hotsackage

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Mar 11, 2019
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For a select few it gets tolerable or it goes away. But I suspect most of us here, are outcasts to that statement.
 
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CheekyPhobia

CheekyPhobia

Reasonless, well it stands to reason...
Aug 1, 2022
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Realistically what it means is: "I dont want to think about this subject, it's making me uncomfortable. Accept my meaningless platitude so that i can feel better about myself, or I'm going to get frustrated!".
 
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escape_from_hell

escape_from_hell

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Feb 22, 2024
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What they mean by "it gets better" is that you are in for a shit sandwich about to be shoved down your throat followed by a severe illness that takes you to misery lower than the center of the earth.
You'll be beaten to shit by life and in a mental fog so dense you are suddenly thankful for the morsels of ass burger life will feed you. Like a prisoner who genuinely thanks the guard and thinks them merciful because they skipped the afternoon lashings for 'good behaviour.'
That you will develop a Stockholm syndrome relationship with the slings and arrows of life and preach about gratitude like them.
 
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ThatStateOfMind

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Nov 13, 2021
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People say it gets better, but never say it gets good.
Going a bit against the grain here, but I think it can be true. It depends on your situation. I had a situation with an ex and after blocking, it did, in fact, get better. With mental illness, it may or may not get better. I still have shitty situations that I don't know if they will get better, hence my being here. You may get more negative replies here than if you were to post in recovery.
 
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SilentSadness

SilentSadness

Floating in neverland.
Feb 28, 2023
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The phrase "it gets better" is usually used as a warning, it means the person thinks you're acting out of your place and are not allowed to criticise your situation. Similar phrases are "that's enough" and "nobody cares". Sometimes it's used as wishful thinking to convince oneself.
 
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jbear824

jbear824

F*ck humanity. Let's end this.
Jul 4, 2023
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It's something that people who don't/aren't suffering say to people who are suffering to make themselves feel like they made a difference without actually doing shit
 
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