Discussion What do you think ppl will assume the reason for ur suicide as?

[chaoschuckler]

My dad will probably frame me as a phone addict and it's because of unemployment, he is manipulative and perfect gaslighter, so that will work. But screw him, i am not even on socials and I've been thinking about this since I was a minor!
What about you guys?

 

[whyidon'tknow]

My mom will blame my dad
My dad will blame my dad
My siblings and friends will probably blame both
I blame no one but myself

 

[Rahat]

I think people will assume I left out of loneliness and heartbreak, when it would really be due to exhaustion, disappointment and in prevention of a miserable future.

 

[chaoschuckler]

My mom will blame my dad
My dad will blame my dad
My siblings and friends will probably blame both
I blame no one but myself

oh shit, that'll be hard for your dad

 

[exhaustedgolfcat]

they'd probably blame it on my BPD and they would be right

 

[Leorio Paradinight]

The people who know I'm suicidal will correctly blame my illness, trauma and the inability to make a life worth living.

The people who are still close to me, but don't know, will most likely blame it on a recent heartbreak and I really don't want that, because the person has nothing to do with me ctbing.

The rest I don't really care. If someone never cared to listen to me and understand when I was alive, then I don't care what they think when I'm dead. That's most of my family and especially my gaslighting parents.

 

[ForeverUnknown]

prob for no good reason

 

[UserFromNowhere]

I plan to leave behind a detailed note signifying what led to my decision. I have no idea if it'll console them, if they'll be able to blame the mental illness that curses me rather than themselves, but I hope they'll eventually be fine.

 

[charlavail]

my mom will blame herself, and my dad
my dad will blame my mom, and maybe also kill himself
my close friends will blame themselves, and my dad, me being an idiot and my ex boyfriend
my extended friends will blame me for being an idiot and thinking everything has a solution
my extended family will blame themselves, my dad, and maybe my ex boyfriend
and i hope my ex boyfriend feels some of the guilt and blame bc he is part of the reason

 

[Matchaaa]

My family might think I'm just going through a temporary bout of despair, because everything has a "silver lining," but I think they're overlooking a certain reality.
However, I feel my family is likely to be subjected to malicious speculation from those around them, because the reason I want to end my life has nothing to do with them—yet they might speculate that I've suffered some kind of abuse at home.
I simply cannot understand why so many people in society are always speculating about these so-called "reasons." If they truly cared about the person involved, they wouldn't subject those who matter to them to further psychological doubt and torment.

 

[wannabeangel]

they'll know it's because of my physical pain on top of my past and just things getting intolerable for me to exist through anymore, i'll make that clear. my parents will understand that more but will still blame themselves for not being able to help more when there was nothing they could do, they did all and more than they could. my ex husband will probably blame himself harder..... i always told him about how i didnt see a future for myself without him, i just never could with my illnesses and mental bullshit i always had to deal with, and i was always just existing to make my family happy until i had him, he made me not scared of growing old (as much) anymore. but the court part of the divorce i guess "finalizing" it was finished a week ago, im already moved out and no contact fully, and my hope in a future is just gone. i dont want him to blame himself for that though, im the one who fucked up, i hurt him, so he shouldnt have to shoulder any blame. but i know he's had the same thoughts as me before and i worry he will just follow in my footsteps once i ctb. it feels most likely, its selfish of me but i wouldnt want him doing the same, i would want him to find someone who can make him happier.. but i cant control him like others cant with me, so i would hope we at least meet in the clouds if it ends that way, and maybe try again in a new life

 

[K14~♡]

I think their first guess would be because of college, but other than that, I think they'll be hella puzzled. Maybe they'll think I'm a stupid kid for choosing to die, cuz it never seemed like I was struggling with anything. They'd wonder what went wrong, and if they did anything wrong, especially since they were "giving me everything I wanted/needed" (something that my maternal grandmother said before). But if they think about it more and get past the belief that I'm just being lazy, they can prob realize that I've always been depressed based on the way I've been living. Still, I don't think they'll ever understand since normal people are expected to live through suffering. My parents will also prob blame each other like what others here have said. My dad might blame my maternal family for raising me badly and blame my mom for caring about herself more, then my mom might blame my dad for being however he was during my childhood and pressuring me with college

 

[need2exit]

people will make it about themselves, although thats a half-truth, no one is too blame for me taking my life other than myself. when in reality, i have always wanted to die, since i was 10, i want to die due too me being lazy, egocentric, my boundaries constantly crossed, being raped and my autism i wish i got the right support, the state of the world sucks, it will always suck and i dont want to particapate in this cruel world

 

[kurikaesu]

probably being trans and the dysphoria that comes with it, but i'm sorta hoping that people in my life will look more into it and realize its a lot more complicated then just that

 

[Life's not a comedy]

That I just didn't want to try and wallowed in self-pity, because if I had, they'd say I had such potential that surely I could have led a happy life. They know I can be social and work hard as well as being very astute and bright. Would list lots of great qualities but that I just wouldn't apply myself. Although they might only says these things in secret, if not only to themselves.

 

[TAW122]

My reasoning is something that only I myself would know fully and nobody else really, and maybe SaSu would understand (even then, perhaps not even 100% comprehend it), but it's quite complex. For other people, especially IRL, they just won't "get it" and I don't have the fortitude, energy, or even wish to waste time to try to 'explain' only for them not to get it or dissect things. I would think my own reasoning is quite complex and there is NEVER just one reason or reason(s), even then the reason(s) is irrelevant to the fact that I would rather not play this game of life.

So to answer the question, (assuming IRL people) many people may assume that I did not thrive in life (those who know me somewhat well in life) such as being successful average adult whether in career, relationships, character, achievements, making an impact (though that is debated because the average person likely has the baseline, making ends meet, healthy relationships, general success in basic adult life tasks and day to day living, etc.). As for some people who know my character more, they would highlight 'mental disturbances, mental disorders, illnesses, etc.' which is quite insulting, but since I would not be around to experience the (wrong) presumptions, it wouldn't really impact or affect me. As for family, they would point to blame my weak character, failure to listen, and just general failure as an adult who was NEET for a good chunk of it, lacking many life skills that the average adult has, and only was able to make it to his 30's due to family providing basic needs and almost never living independently, having one's own place (barring while in studies - pre pandemic era), etc.

Of course, once I'm gone (have successfully CTB'd and no longer suffering), people IRL and even those who don't know, may try to 'fill in the (wrong) blanks' when it comes to reasons, causes, and what not, but it doesn't really matter to me as I would not be there to experience the aftermath, only that I have avoided many potential worse future fates. As someone who has been sentient for more than three decades, I already know and have a very good idea of what my life will be in the coming decades, and barring some major windfall (not necessarily just more money and/or financial independence before standard retirement age) I still would not wish to stick around.

 

[nails]

i think my family will assume that my job is what pushed me over the edge because i complain about it a lot and have even expressed my desire to die while talking about my job. there have been times where i've accidentally broken down in front of my family and explained that it has nothing to do with work, but they still just assumed that it was because of work. it's understandable, i guess.
i obviously hate my job and it has made my mental health so much worse; but i've been contemplating, planning, and even attempting ctb way before i started working there.

idk what the people outside of my family would think.