Discussion What did your parent, gaudian or a even freind said that messed you up?

[idfwlnh]

Actually my mom regrets what she did shes being nice now I just hope it sticks.

We've talked about that like a heart to heart ik none people here had been that lucky.

She really really regrets what she did. I forgive her for that.

Hope the relationship btween you and your mother gets better...

 

[seeyoulater26]

My mom always told me I would never amount to anything, even as a child. That I was lazy, good-for-nothing, and not really smart.

But there's one memory that really takes the cake.

Had my 25th birthday during the pandemic. My opportunities were scarce but I saved up enough from my VERY small salary to have a birthday dinner with my family. At dinner, my sister suddenly felt weak, became feverish, and had a headache. We immediately thought of COVID. She has always been so frail-looking and I was so scared for her because a friend recently succumbed to COVID. Everyone wanted her tested so whatever the result was, we would know what treatment she needed. My mom instead went hysterical saying if my sister got recorded as a positive case, we would all be "close contacts." She said that would prevent her from reporting to her new work abroad and her company might sue her for breach of contract. Idk if that's a thing but I call BS. I tried to deescalate anyway and tell her gently "I don't think they would do that because it's nobody's fault someone in your family got sick." stuff like that. I promise I tried to sound as reassuring as possible. She ended up lashing out on me and yelled saying "My job is nothing like your pathetic job!" Mind you, the "pathetic job" was the one that kept the bills paid during the pandemic. She was jobless, but her lights were on, water was free-flowing, and she was online because of that stupid pathetic job.

I got so sad about the whole situation. Getting yelled at and berated on my own birthday... at my own birthday dinner I worked hard to have and looked forward to. My job that provided for the family being reduced to nothing. And for what? Caring? My mom showed more concern about her stupid job than her sick child. (SPOILER: SHE DIDN'T EVEN FINISH THE CONTRACT. SHE GOT SENT HOME!) So messed up!

I hid in the kitchen and held back my tears as hard as I could.

I'm in a better place now. She was wrong about all the terrible things she said I was and would be. But they still weigh heavy in my heart.

Fuck her

 

[dhk96]

"If you haven't killed yourself yet, you're probably not suicidal/never going to."


I've wanted to die nearly my whole life. I wasted all of my actual youth (and not that coming-of-age shit like you) afraid of the future and 'lived' like I was already going to die. Hearing that after my breakdown when I was too weak to hide anything made me feel like my entire life and everything I had felt up to that day was being invalidated in real-time by a worthless piece of shit that's supposed to be an older sister.

Someone who claims to have become "depressed" in college and finds their nonexistent worth in deadbeat men from their list of online friends dares to tell me that? You would never understand. I will never forgive you and I will always despise you. For that moment and for everything you've caused ever since you came back and (finally) left again.

My life was already ruined but congrats, you've pushed me down to a new low with a whole new disorder that will haunt me for the rest of my (hopefully short) life. Why couldn't you leave before you caused that? Why do you always fucking show up and cause a mess right before you leave? It feels like you pull all this shit on purpose. My anxiety runs 24/7 because of you now. My brain and body freak out whenever Mom gets a phone call because you might be on the other end and I don't want to hear your disgusting ass voice. I immediately tense up when someone has the same name as you or you're brought up in a conversation. All this unnecessary stress is your fault. I will never truly be at peace unless I'm gone. But now I will always be stressed and pissed unless I'm gone.


And to a lesser extent:

"You think you're funny?"

Fuck you, to the girl who said that in middle school (no name drops since someone here might have the same name ). Such a dumb thing to obssess over but it still stuck.

 

[voc_89]

"Man up". Urgh I hate that statement. Cause all life worries and issues will go away once u "man up" right. It sucks that whenever u try to open up as a guy u immediately (more often than not) shut down. Then they wonder why CTB is something like the top 5 cause of death in young males

 

[Bitterly_Nostalgic]

My mother was the first person I came out to as transgender. We were close and I trusted her, but as it turned out she was not supportive. She put so much effort into trying to manipulate and convince me to not be trans. She said plenty of awful things and I think every one of them will stick with me forever, but this one pains me the most.

She tried to claim that having a transgender kid was like losing a child. It hurt so damn much that she would compare who and what I was to something so tragic. I wasn't dead. She hadn't lost me. I was right there, desperately wanting and needing acceptance from the mother I had been so close to.

She obviously had a dire need to grieve and adjust, but her dumping her emotional problems on me like that was still incredibly unfair. And since she had no intention of ever supporting me, she never took the time to do that or seek out help with it.

 

[tiokapaws]

My mom told me after I tried opening up about my suicidal thoughts as a teen that I make her want to die. And that if she goes and cuts her own wrists it'll be because of me. That I'm not a nice person to be around. That I'm ugly. Or there's a demon or something evil in me. That I should keep my mouth shut.

Anything my mom has insulted me with tbh.

She can be quite cruel when she wants to be. As a child, I was upset when I wouldn't be able to talk to her but now all I wish is that she could shut up forever.

 

[untothedepths]

'youre worthless' 'you do nothing right' but the big one was 'you took your father away from me!'. at first i didnt know what she meant until it was because he was diddling me and not her. real cool to tell that to your kid.

 

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[overthrone]

"i dont forgive you for calling the cops"
was trying to save her from overdosing and ctb. we were 11.