What are your red flags in dating? Do you have green flags?

[noname223]

I am again using dating apps. I think I needed new photos but I am too lazy. I was at a Christmas fair with a friend today. It was fine.

I think for many women I am a red flag though. Lol. Way too old for still being enrolled in college

My red flags:

women who take photos sitting on the toilet for their dating app photos. (I think I liked one of them though)

someone who very much into drugs

someone who expects ambitions, a carrer, wants children

People who only talk about going to gym

Green flags:

being a leftwinger politically, being a political activist
interest in politics or philosophy
being into deep talk and having social awareness
having the same music taste as me (but not being into drugs lol) - there are only a hand full of people but they exist
being David Foster Wallace fan. (in my whole dating app experience I only saw one woman mentioning DFW and she came from the US - obviously we had no match)
being pro-Palestine (not all of them are good though)

What about you?

Edit: Moms at the age of (roundabout) 20.

 

[martyrdom]

I don't use dating apps, but here are some red flags in people that I hate and that would immediately turn me off:

Being American
Being "too nice"
Watching porn
Having no friends
Signs of being terminally online
Being any brand of right wing (including "apolitical" but ultimately right wing)
Being a "leftist" but having read 0 theory

 

[Seneca65AD]

I'm probably 25 years from the dating scene but due to my issues with depression I didn't have red flags. 5 kids from 6 dads? just needs a stable man; Drugs? Anger issues? Promiscuity? Just needs understanding.

Getting knocked up after cheating on me, then telling me it was with a "black guy" so when the baby was born white, she could say it was mine? I checked that box and managed to draw somewhat of a line over that one. But I probably would still have taken her back if she asked.....

 

[Pluto]

 

[martyrdom]

@Chemi I think OP meant what are red flags for you in other people! But tbh a lot of your "red flags" seem like you're being too hard on yourself.

 

[Chemi]

@Chemi I think OP meant what are red flags for you in other people! But tbh a lot of your "red flags" seem like you're being too hard on yourself.

Found the actual red flag of me. I'm stupid haha

 

[WhatCouldHaveBeen32]

I don't use dating apps, but here are some red flags in people that I hate and that would immediately turn me off:

Being American
Being "too nice"
Watching porn
Having no friends
Signs of being terminally online
Being any brand of right wing (including "apolitical" but ultimately right wing)
Being a "leftist" but having read 0 theory

Well well well. I seem to meet all your standards

Except for like 4 of them.

Here are mine.
Green:
don't really have something I want from people. It's mostly red flags for me.

Red:
not ace (it prolly won't end well)
watches porn (knowingly; I believe people can change)
partakes in what I can describe as animal cruelty (knowingly; I believe people can change)
right wing. tryhard+edgy. (knowingly; I believe people can change)

My red flags:
I believe people can change

 

[martyrdom]

Found the actual red flag of me. I'm stupid haha

No no. You are an innovative thinker.

Well well well. I seem to meet all your standards

You meet all the red flags?
Or you DON'T meet them?

 

[WhatCouldHaveBeen32]

You meet all the red flags?
Or you DON'T meet them?

I don't really have that many friends. I'm kinda chronically online. I didn't read no theory, I want subway surfers with that. And I'm too nice.
I'm not american, I don't watch porn and I'm not right wing.

 

[Lady_V]

women who take photos sitting on the toilet for their dating app photos. (I think I liked one of them though)

Excuse me?

 

[FoxSauce]

Hmm I guess if your well racist or misogynistic and too political. That's it

My green flags- too caring? If that even count? Could count as a red flag too

 

[Systemic]

Astrology is the biggest red flag ever

 

[LittleSunshine]

This is the outfit I wear when I go on a date...