Venting Trauma resurfacing

[echoINTHEMIRROR]

I don't have anyone to go to this to but I just had some awful traumatic shit resurface in which my brother as a isolated (like me) kid developed really fucking awful incestuous tendencies towards me that lasted years bc we literally knew barely anyone else. Idk what to do anymore and i jusy feel disgusting and im glad im very fuckingnfarmfrom him and ugh eugh ough ifeel gross
I just want someone ti tell me im jot digustung i just need someone to tell me im not gross please
I just want someone ti tell me im jot digustung i just need someone to tell me im not gross please

 

[if_i_make_it]

You're not disgusting or gross. That experience doesn't define you. I promise.

 

[echoINTHEMIRROR]

You're not disgusting or gross. That experience doesn't define you. I promise.

thank you. thank you so much. i hope you have an amazing day. i just needed to hear it from someone. thankyou

 

[Captain laser]

its not your fault

 

[HeyBoogahJr]

I don't have anyone to go to this to but I just had some awful traumatic shit resurface in which my brother as a isolated (like me) kid developed really fucking awful incestuous tendencies towards me that lasted years bc we literally knew barely anyone else. Idk what to do anymore and i jusy feel disgusting and im glad im very fuckingnfarmfrom him and ugh eugh ough ifeel gross
I just want someone ti tell me im jot digustung i just need someone to tell me im not gross please
I just want someone ti tell me im jot digustung i just need someone to tell me im not gross please

Have you thought about talking to someone you trust about this? It's clear as day that none of that was your fault. But a lot of people who go through similar things tend to blame themselves. I heard it can help if you sit with someone you trust and talk about it. I did a similar conversation with my teacher. I was already self healing a ton by that point so it didn't help as much, but I hope it helps with your situation.

You are not disgusting. You aren't gross.

 

[inara_9]

Hey, you are not disgusting. Seriously, what happened says nothing ugly about you. You were a kid in a really messed up and isolated situation dealing with something you did not deserve

Feeling gross after remembering trauma is also a trauma response (not proof that you are gross)

You're far away from him now. You're safe

 

[Forever Sleep]

You aren't disgusting. You weren't responsible for this. I'm so sorry this happened to you.

 

[Lapdog6795]

You're not gross for indulging in an incestuous relationship. Don't hate yourself and your brother (if he was innocent and wasn't aware of what he was doing).

There's this Westermarck effect hypothesis. It says that siblings generally don't get attracted to each other if they are raised together. But it doesn't always work. Sometimes blood relatives get attracted to each other.

Even Sigmund Freud, one of the prominent figures in psychology, had soft feelings for his mom. He said that he preferred his mom over his wife, but he accepted that he didn't have a literal crush over his mom. In ancient Egyptian and European royalties, brother sister marriages were common.

I'm not saying that incestuous relationship is healthy. But sometimes things go wrong. And it's okay. Try to forgive if possible and move on

 

[echoINTHEMIRROR]

Have you thought about talking to someone you trust about this? It's clear as day that none of that was your fault. But a lot of people who go through similar things tend to blame themselves. I heard it can help if you sit with someone you trust and talk about it. I did a similar conversation with my teacher. I was already self healing a ton by that point so it didn't help as much, but I hope it helps with your situation.

You are not disgusting. You aren't gross.

i dont really have anyone who wouldnt just push me away or kinda tell me "oh ew shut up abt that" :(
and ty. i really, really need this

 

[peacebenow]

you are not disgusting. you are not gross. I promise you.

 

[echoINTHEMIRROR]

Thankyou all, i wish i could reply individually but in some instances ill just end up sounding like a broken record, and i dont want to do that Please stay safe out there and i love you all/p

 

[Aknu132]

I don't have anyone to go to this to but I just had some awful traumatic shit resurface in which my brother as a isolated (like me) kid developed really fucking awful incestuous tendencies towards me that lasted years bc we literally knew barely anyone else. Idk what to do anymore and i jusy feel disgusting and im glad im very fuckingnfarmfrom him and ugh eugh ough ifeel gross
I just want someone ti tell me im jot digustung i just need someone to tell me im not gross please
I just want someone ti tell me im jot digustung i just need someone to tell me im not gross please

It's not your fault, you have been placed in this situation by others, don't blame yourself. hope you get better and can keep going healthy and happy and surpass your trauma <3

 

[suicidallysane]

You absolutely aren't disgusting or gross. I went through something similar, but not exactly, and I understand wanting to blame yourself. You were young

 

[MyMomWasMyLife]

i dont really have anyone who wouldnt just push me away or kinda tell me "oh ew shut up abt that" :(

Have you ever talked to any type of therapist about it at all? If not, you really should. They are not a cure-all, and neither are mental health medications, but for some people, they can make things much more bearable. And what happened did not make you gross or disgusting. You are a lot more than what happened to you. You have worth. You deserve better. I sincerely hope things start turning around for you. You are not gross. You are not disgusting. You are beautiful.

 

[echoINTHEMIRROR]

Have you ever talked to any type of therapist about it at all? If not, you really should. They are not a cure-all, and neither are mental health medications, but for some people, they can make things much more bearable. And what happened did not make you gross or disgusting. You are a lot more than what happened to you. You have worth. You deserve better. I sincerely hope things start turning around for you. You are not gross. You are not disgusting. You are beautiful.

I currently have a therapist but the issue is she also talks to my brother and parents and might not believe tht he wa capable of that. esp. since she doesnt seem to believe that were a system or transgender