Venting there is no point in talking to anyone

[c0rps3_l1k3]

people always say they want to be a shoulder to cry on and then neglect your feelings and hurt you. in my life at least i have found there is no point in reaching out for help, no one takes anything seriously anyways. mental health jargon has been so mainstreamed now that saying that youre depressed/suicidal doesnt make people even consider youre in real pain anymore, they just assume youre a bored teen. im so sick of going to people and having them say theyre struggling too and then listening to them for a solid hour instead. im so lonely because people are so goddamn selfish and inattentive. i have friends, many even, yet i can never get the help i need or even the recognition. there is no point in me asking for help anymore and im sick of that being the advice from professionals. there's no support system to build. no one is gonna listen to me talk it out, no one gives a fuck.

 

[montanatype]

Some people may be interested and may want to help you, but it doesn't matter much.

 

[Hollowman]

No amount of talking it out is gonna do shit for me. I'm fucked. It's bizarre to me that a lot of people think that's the solution.

 

[MeltingBrain]

Most people's "strategy" while helping a depressed person in filling him with "hopie-um" no matter how unsolvable the situation is, the depressed is always at fault for not trying enough.

I wouldn't put a good therapist in this category though, if someone has a relationship problem, some transient life event or some other minor issue.

 

[Tumblewillow]

There is no point talking to anyone who doesn't understand, Ive found. A lot of therapists and the vast majority of people are completely ignorant to suicidal feelings and how other peoples mental health problems are unique to them. When this happens they tend to project their own feelings onto you.

Therapists are kinda wrapped in tape because they can't disclose personal information about themselves so it's incredibly hard to find one that claims they understand and actually does, as opposed to one who has just read about it and thinks they do. I've heard stories of therapists who have driven to their clients houses at 2am to talk them out of an episode, which would probably go against rules but rarely some will go to lengths to actually save a person.

It's also rare to find people who can genuinely sit in your pain with you. Not because they aren't willing but because they dont know how. But, they are absolutely out there. It doesn't mean that everything can be fixed magically, but you don't deserve to feel so alone and unseen. Please continue to share anything you need to here, if it helps. You're around people who actually get it.

 

[meowmentous]

I love my boyfriend. He says he's always there for me to talk to. When I expressed some of my suicidal thoughts (not to him directly, but he was aware of them), he told me if I didn't get help, he'd break up with me.
I know I need help, I want to go to therapy. But I don't think I can talk to him anymore about my true feelings. He could just leave me. I love him, and he loves me, too. He cares for me, he wouldn't want me to get better otherwise. I'm just a mess, I guess.

It's hard to get help or recognition, sadly. It truly is. If it was easier, I would've gotten it sooner... you know? But it's sadly true. It's hard to find someone who will just listen to you with pure care.

Edit: Coming back to this as I'm now in a better state of mind. I meant to say that I sympathize with you. I understand. It hurts, it's hard, and it sucks. I hear you. Hugs.

 

[Alpenglow]

I love my boyfriend. He says he's always there for me to talk to. When I expressed some of my suicidal thoughts (not to him directly, but he was aware of them), he told me if I didn't get help, he'd break up with me.
I know I need help, I want to go to therapy. But I don't think I can talk to him anymore about my true feelings. He could just leave me. I love him, and he loves me, too. He cares for me, he wouldn't want me to get better otherwise. I'm just a mess, I guess.

It's hard to get help or recognition, sadly. It truly is. If it was easier, I would've gotten it sooner... you know? But it's sadly true. It's hard to find someone who will just listen to you with pure care.

It's difficult for people to listen non-judgementally, since he loves you very much too, it's an emotional ordeal to think of losing you and he probably isn't sure of what to do either, so he wants you to go to someone who does asap. You could try talking about how that ultimatum made you feel, and how you don't feel comfortable telling him these things when you want to because of it. Or something along those lines while reiterating that you do want to seek help anyways. It's possible he means well and just doesn't know how to help you.

 

[bankai]

Come here bro,

 

[Dejected 55]

I hear you. I came to this forum thinking firstly that I'd find a good option to end my life... and secondly maybe someone here would understand. But, honestly, I'm finding way too many people here who are just as bad for me as everyone else. A handful of people seem to get it, but far too many are saying the same kinds of nonsense that I know they don't want people saying to them... and I'm getting tired of beating my head against the wall trying to connect with people. I need to be done with that for good.

 

[theneverending]

I know how you feel, for me, I just stopped talking to people about their problems who won't reciprocate, they're not worth it and do not give substance to me, and my pain will never fully resonate with anybody, so i find there is no point in even trying anymore.

 

[c0rps3_l1k3]

I love my boyfriend. He says he's always there for me to talk to. When I expressed some of my suicidal thoughts (not to him directly, but he was aware of them), he told me if I didn't get help, he'd break up with me.
I know I need help, I want to go to therapy. But I don't think I can talk to him anymore about my true feelings. He could just leave me. I love him, and he loves me, too. He cares for me, he wouldn't want me to get better otherwise. I'm just a mess, I guess.

It's hard to get help or recognition, sadly. It truly is. If it was easier, I would've gotten it sooner... you know? But it's sadly true. It's hard to find someone who will just listen to you with pure care.

Edit: Coming back to this as I'm now in a better state of mind. I meant to say that I sympathize with you. I understand. It hurts, it's hard, and it sucks. I hear you. Hugs.

you're such a sweet person :( i also understand how you feel about your relationship, my gf always threatens to send me to the ward when i need the most help. i really understand your pain and if you ever need to chat about things with someone who won't judge or try to fix you i'm here. this made me feel better to see.

 

[Pluto]

 

[xiaoxiongmao]

I expressed my SI to my ex at a crisis point and the next day he broke up with me. He said it was too much for him and he needed to protect his future.
Human relations are so unreliable. I find most comfort from my service dog and emotional support cats.

 

[Forever Sleep]

I've found that responses- even from the same person, vary. Sometimes they have helped but, sometimes- maybe at least an equal amount of times, it has made me feel worse. Either they've said something that suggests I've burdened them or, they're not interested. Or, they'll come out with some ridiculous platitude or suggestion that they would never accept themselves. So, I tend to feel the same. I try to not share so much now.

 

[meowmentous]

you're such a sweet person :( i also understand how you feel about your relationship, my gf always threatens to send me to the ward when i need the most help. i really understand your pain and if you ever need to chat about things with someone who won't judge or try to fix you i'm here. this made me feel better to see.

Being threatened to sent to the ward, ah. I feel that, my mom has done that to me, too.
I resonate with you as well. I'm here if you need anything as well. Thank you for your reply, it meant a lot to see.