Venting Suicidal ideation being rebranded as "cringe"

[fallingbehind]

Its such an odd dichotomy. Most people are repulsed by the idea of suicide, they view life as a gift yada yada yada.

But what I find interesting is that whilst many may shove a platitude in your face irl, online being suicidal or having depression in general is seen as cringe.

You wouldnt believe how many times Ive seen "people" say "Oh yeah, I thought about dying but honestly how embarrassing! Its never that serious lollll" as if its funny.

Millenials have done everything in their power to label everyone who speaks truthfully about existence as a "victim". And gen-z has reduced having suicidal ideation to nothing more than a bad joke.

 

[starboy2k]

and those are the people who act like concerned saints when they find out someone actually kills themself.
thankfully forums like this exist……

 

[RosebyAnyName]

I despise the "never kill yourself" meme for pretty much the same reason. Maybe if it was used ironically, but it's always ignorant people being genuine and it just feels so insincere.

 

[jakerjays]

No, you're entirely right.
I feel like it falls within a similar realm as when people accuse people who self-harm of 'attention seeking'.
It seems like people will do anything to invalitate the experiences of others, whether its making them out to be cringe or conditioning people to believe that nothing they're going through is worth feeling suicidal over.
A lot of the time, I suspect that it comes from said person not having the confidence or resources to reach out and ask for help themselves, and so potentially seeing someone whos outwardly voicing a problem can make them feel insecure about not being able to do that themselves. I agree with the other statement proposed in the comments about those being the same people who will pretend to be concenred for you when you die.
We've sort of entered this time where being unserious and joking about genuine feelings is funny and normalised (especially also with the growing popularity of 'dark humour') and leaves no room for genuine connection and discussion to such a point where people are made to feel uncomfortable by it.
'Cringe' has just become a buzzword that people will use to describe anything different or that makes them uncomfortable.

 

[fallingbehind]

No, you're entirely right.
I feel like it falls within a similar realm as when people accuse people who self-harm of 'attention seeking'.
It seems like people will do anything to invalitate the experiences of others, whether its making them out to be cringe or conditioning people to believe that nothing they're going through is worth feeling suicidal over.
A lot of the time, I suspect that it comes from said person not having the confidence or resources to reach out and ask for help themselves, and so potentially seeing someone whos outwardly voicing a problem can make them feel insecure about not being able to do that themselves. I agree with the other statement proposed in the comments about those being the same people who will pretend to be concenred for you when you die.
We've sort of entered this time where being unserious and joking about genuine feelings is funny and normalised (especially also with the growing popularity of 'dark humour') and leaves no room for genuine connection and discussion to such a point where people are made to feel uncomfortable by it.
'Cringe' has just become a buzzword that people will use to describe anything different or that makes them uncomfortable.

Very well said. Society is in an odd place where negativity is the norm for most (and has been for a long time, look at how boomers joke), but only if you make it clear youre not being serious. Cause god forbid anybody have actual feelings and emotions right? Joy (and anger/rage but only at the individual, not at the system) are the only emotions that are validated, anything else is cringe, corny, etc.

 

[caramelkidney]

i feel like a reason that this is is because these people expressed feelings of depression or suicidal ideation in the past, but were shunned for it in some way. now, they feel embarrassed about how they expressed that depression and think that people should express depression the "right" way, whatever that is. another way this could show is that people mocking their depression "helped" them (it didn't) and think that everyone should go through that experience because it improved their mental state.

this is also, again, in their past, most likely when they were teenagers or younger than that. people do really embarrassing things when theyre young, and they could consider their depression as one of those things.

this is just one explanation and it might not even be an explanation; just my observations of how people work.

 

[liquid jen]

i feel like a reason that this is is because these people expressed feelings of depression or suicidal ideation in the past, but were shunned for it in some way. now, they feel embarrassed about how they expressed that depression and think that people should express depression the "right" way, whatever that is. another way this could show is that people mocking their depression "helped" them (it didn't) and think that everyone should go through that experience because it improved their mental state.

this is also, again, in their past, most likely when they were teenagers or younger than that. people do really embarrassing things when theyre young, and they could consider their depression as one of those things.

this is just one explanation and it might not even be an explanation; just my observations of how people work.

This is definitely the answer as to why SOME people are like this, but I do feel the majority of it is just pure ignorance. Definitely some people who were like "oh i had a couple bad days and was really sad, I was such a freak haha ! "

Also is your name taken from a Gez song? If so, based.

 

[ih34rty0u]

i hate that i can't even vent to a FRIEND about my suicidal ideation without being seen as cringy or attention seeking. what im actually seeking is just help and understanding. then people have the nerve to wonder why the suicide rate is going up.

 

[avalokitesvara]

I think it's more to do with the age and maturity of your cohort rather than the so-called generation itself. When millennials were young adults and teens it was the same thing. Younger people tend to use humor and ostracism to mask their discomfort with difficult topics. For today's youth things are cringe, when we were that age things were lame or g*y or r******d.

A lot of people played with mental health imagery for clout just like they do now. And if you're actually suffering, that's over the line and too scary.
People just like safe images they can play with. Reality is too scary for them. So they get defensive and call it cringe or whatever. It's a normal way humans, especially young humans, operate.