Update to the meeting I had with this woman from an app. I used a translator to make it easier and faster for me. I am puzzled. I am really puzzled and I don't know what to think about it. I think it is unlikely we will become partners despite the fact the chemistry was astonishingly good.
Here translated:
I'm a bit unsure. The meeting was really lovely; we had great chemistry and laughed a lot together. We talked about a ton of shows and video games that we both knew. She's in therapy, and I told her about how I filed a complaint regarding my therapist's behavior. I asked if that was 'oversharing,' but she said she didn't mind at all and does it often herself. We talked about neurodiversity, and it turns out she has ADHD and autism. I also told her that I'm on the autism spectrum.
I'm a bit thrown by the fact that she has a 5-year-old daughter; she's only 26. But what confuses me even more is that we met in the Dating Channel of a certain app, and based on our chats, I had assumed she could envision a relationship with me. However, she said she mainly uses that app for social contacts and mentioned she 'doesn't do dating,' even though I thought this was a date. She specified what she meant by 'no dating' and said that many men stop reaching out after she says that. Apparently, men had pressured her for sex during previous meetups to 'see if the physical component fits.'
Later, she mentioned a friend she'd talked to extensively about American Football. I asked her if she was in a relationship with this friend, and her response was that she could 'reassure me' that she isn't in a relationship. She added that in English, there's a better term for it, like 'boyfriend' (meaning a male friend).
Here translated:
I'm a bit unsure. The meeting was really lovely; we had great chemistry and laughed a lot together. We talked about a ton of shows and video games that we both knew. She's in therapy, and I told her about how I filed a complaint regarding my therapist's behavior. I asked if that was 'oversharing,' but she said she didn't mind at all and does it often herself. We talked about neurodiversity, and it turns out she has ADHD and autism. I also told her that I'm on the autism spectrum.
I'm a bit thrown by the fact that she has a 5-year-old daughter; she's only 26. But what confuses me even more is that we met in the Dating Channel of a certain app, and based on our chats, I had assumed she could envision a relationship with me. However, she said she mainly uses that app for social contacts and mentioned she 'doesn't do dating,' even though I thought this was a date. She specified what she meant by 'no dating' and said that many men stop reaching out after she says that. Apparently, men had pressured her for sex during previous meetups to 'see if the physical component fits.'
Later, she mentioned a friend she'd talked to extensively about American Football. I asked her if she was in a relationship with this friend, and her response was that she could 'reassure me' that she isn't in a relationship. She added that in English, there's a better term for it, like 'boyfriend' (meaning a male friend).
