Help Sibling with bpd

[rainland]

I think I might CTB In the future, but I'm worried about leaving my sister. My sister has BPD and I'm afraid me CTB will be especially hard on her. Does anyone have advice on what I can do to minimize the harm that would be done to her?

 

[LittleMagician]

I think I might CTB In the future, but I'm worried about leaving my sister. My sister has BPD and I'm afraid me CTB will be especially hard on her. Does anyone have advice on what I can do to minimize the harm that would be done to her?

yeah it's gg there's no way you can ctb without fucking her up

 

[derpyderpins]

It inevitably has to be your own choice. Suicide will hurt anyone who cares about you a large amount no matter what you do. But, there's no more personal decision in the world, so while one should try to minimize the harm to others, it has to be based on you. (Unless you get married and/or have children, then imo you've willingly taken on responsibility and you should suffer through, frankly.)

Is your sister dependent on you, or are you just close?

 

[moonflow3r]

Everyone's affected by suicide , unless you fuck up your relationship with her or smt but even then she'll be really affected by it

 

[Subhumano]

You just have to stop thinking and do it, but its a lot harder than it sounds

 

[SomewhereAlongThe]

It's going to affect her inevitably, as some others mentioned. You could try writing her a letter she could keep with her. Otherwise you just have to hope she doesn't blame herself or take it out on herself, BPD can be difficult.

 

[rainland]

No one's dependent on me, unless you count my roommates needing me to pay rent. I know it would affect her and others, I guess I was just hoping for a way to minimize it. I wouldn't say we are particularly close, but she's still my younger sister so I feel protective. I'm not sure if there is anything I could say in a note that would help. I don't want her to feel abandoned, blame herself, react in a way that will make her life harder.

 

[northevelyn]

It will hurt her no matter what