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Gabbi_Station
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- Jul 30, 2024
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Sometimes I browse "raisedbynarcisissts" online and I constantly see the argument that you should essentially "live well" to spite your parents and not cbt.
Every time I see this argument, I wonder, what's even the point? Even if you are successful, you'll still be vilified by your parents and siblings. You'll still be viewed as a failure. You'll spend the rest of your life dealing with your parent trying to come back into your life all the time…
I doubt it actually really hurts the parent that much that you "don't talk to them".
Like I just keep thinking- if I cbt, I wouldn't have to care ever again. Who cares what they say at my funeral or if they paint me as the "bad egg", who ruined their lives? Who cares if they do some weird perpetual martyrdom?
Like, at least you get to be done with all of it. I don't even care about spiting them anymore or "living some great life" to get back at them and I think the older you get, the more you realize that's just a facade anyway. The harsh truth is- they don't care about you and never will, no matter what you do.
Isn't it nice to just be done? To just know you will never have to worry or think about any of it ever again. To stop basing yourself on if your life is "better" than there's?
Every time I see this argument, I wonder, what's even the point? Even if you are successful, you'll still be vilified by your parents and siblings. You'll still be viewed as a failure. You'll spend the rest of your life dealing with your parent trying to come back into your life all the time…
I doubt it actually really hurts the parent that much that you "don't talk to them".
Like I just keep thinking- if I cbt, I wouldn't have to care ever again. Who cares what they say at my funeral or if they paint me as the "bad egg", who ruined their lives? Who cares if they do some weird perpetual martyrdom?
Like, at least you get to be done with all of it. I don't even care about spiting them anymore or "living some great life" to get back at them and I think the older you get, the more you realize that's just a facade anyway. The harsh truth is- they don't care about you and never will, no matter what you do.
Isn't it nice to just be done? To just know you will never have to worry or think about any of it ever again. To stop basing yourself on if your life is "better" than there's?