Help People cut me off after talking for 2 months, does this happen to anyone else?

[katara]

So there's this thing where people only talk to me for about 2 months and then randomly stop, sometimes going as far as deleting all accounts we talk on. I was wondering how common this is and how to avoid these people. I don't know if it's something I'm doing wrong but it's happened on here, on Reddit. People act interested at first, with some people I've even voice chatted with them and the conversations were good! But they all end up doing the exact same thing! Was curious why. HELP
Also just for context some of them are genz but even with millennials I've spoken to a few times they ended up doing the same thing.

 

[myattempt]

Simple try not to talk to people online and go to group activities in your area if you want to meet new people - this just sounds like the nature of the people you'd expect to talk to and find online it rarely ever works out

 

[katara]

Simple try not to talk to people online and go to group activities in your area if you want to meet new people - this just sounds like the nature of the people you'd expect to talk to and find online it rarely ever works out

idk I expected people who make posts about wanting a friend to be more friendly, but ya it doesn't seem like any of them mean it. It's definitely not working out

 

[myattempt]

Sorry if this may come off as offensive but are you perhaps autistic - I am and a lot of autistic people tend to think people actually mean what they say and it's not necessarily true especially in social situations irl although I'm not sure about online

 

[katara]

Sorry if this may come off as offensive but are you perhaps autistic - I am and a lot of autistic people tend to think people actually mean what they say and it's not necessarily true especially in social situations irl although I'm not sure about online

How do these people make friends or have close relationships if they lie all the time tho? Do they just move on from person to person? I want to weed out that type of character. They are too draining

 

[blooming]

Honestly I don't even think it's specifically a you problem. I think people have truly lost the ability to communicate cause ghosters tend to be more common than ever. I can understand how discouraging it feels and I've had to cut back on making more internet friendships because I got tired of it. I wouldn't blame yourself, I think people go seeking out friends when they truly don't have the ability to keep the bond itself going so they tend to disappear.

 

[aufrechtm7]

Simple try not to talk to people online and go to group activities in your area if you want to meet new people - this just sounds like the nature of the people you'd expect to talk to and find online it rarely ever works out

These people exist in real life as well unfortunately. I'd argue the core issue would be even worse since they'd likely learn more about you than they would as an internet stranger.

 

[nowitscomingback]

Honestly I don't even think it's specifically a you problem. I think people have truly lost the ability to communicate cause ghosters tend to be more common than ever. I can understand how discouraging it feels and I've had to cut back on making more internet friendships because I got tired of it. I wouldn't blame yourself, I think people go seeking out friends when they truly don't have the ability to keep the bond itself going so they tend to disappear.

I agree. It seems that people lose themselves and forget what seeking out a friendship really means and how you have to maintain it. Communication (not just ghosting) between people has also completely fallen apart.

Also, Kyoko's the best

 

[Angst Filled Fuck Up]

I'd say this is more likely to happen than not. There are complicated issues at play I think. Being uncomfortable with intimacy or evolved feelings, not knowing how to handle depth of emotion, or just feeling like it's becoming a bit too claustrophobic for them to continue. And sometimes people start off with good intentions but their motivation to keep it all going dwindles. It's difficult but best to just accept it and not take it personally - it's unlikely to be you.

 

[myattempt]

How do these people make friends or have close relationships if they lie all the time tho? Do they just move on from person to person? I want to weed out that type of character. They are too draining

Me personally I've realised a lot of people have demonic energy so I'm ready to drop everything at any moment for my own personal peace so I tend to spend my time alone most of the time - although I do prefer it that way - trying too hard burns me out so I don't bother when there are more evil people in the world than good - I'm not an easy friend to befriend for good reason

 

[hurb]

they didnt find what they were looking for in you.
usually people that cut other people off are looking for deep strong connections, and they dont have many people if any in their circle. so if u turn out to be a casual friend or someone they dont click with as hard. well they are gonna push themselves away
i should know im like that

 

[madwoman]

I've had many online connections (can't really call all of them friends) over the years and most have fizzled out - even irl ones too. Sometimes I worry and think I did something wrong - like I've had people block me before after chatting and plenty people have ghosted me. I've done it as well though. Sometimes we just want connection but priorities change and online friendships are hard to keep going bc you don't truly know the other person so it's not a full feeling of connection. I do have one online friend I've maintained for years but we also don't truly know each other and never will. The online world has opened people up to meet so many people and it's hard to maintain them all.

 

[katara]

Me personally I've realised a lot of people have demonic energy so I'm ready to drop everything at any moment for my own personal peace so I tend to spend my time alone most of the time - although I do prefer it that way - trying too hard burns me out so I don't bother when there are more evil people in the world than good - I'm not an easy friend to befriend for good reason

Ya I wonder if it's most people sometimes but I never want to assume. I don't like the burn out either. Like one guy on here used to always message me depressing stuff and I was fine with it at first bc we met on here, but anytime I tried sending him something else like videos of animals in my yard or anything not depressing he'd always share the same stuff with me. That second to last sentence hits hard, I'm sorry that u realize this as well. I guess we've both had shitty situations with people. It sucks good people are so difficult to find. It really does seem like our world is full of people who would've gone to Epstein or Diddy parties and never called the police or done anything. That's why I probably shouldn't be so shy anymore, I try telling myself that most people suck anyways so it shouldn't matter what they think lol.

they didnt find what they were looking for in you.
usually people that cut other people off are looking for deep strong connections, and they dont have many people if any in their circle. so if u turn out to be a casual friend or someone they dont click with as hard. well they are gonna push themselves away
i should know im like that

No that's what I'm complaining about! I want the connection but other people don't want that. They want a free therapist or just something casual for a while. Then I guess there's that "getting used to someone" period, THATS when they cut me off. That's why I don't go messaging people anymore when they randomly unfriend me or get a bf. None of them wanted an actual friendship. Like for example some guy on here would constantly ask me where I live and I told him I wasn't comfortable telling him bc I didn't want him to stereotype me he just kept asking anyways along with asking for a photo of me, yet he never showed me a photo of himself even after I posted one of me. Isn't that weird? But sense then I've been warned about the guys like that on here. The guy I mentioned, someone said he also asked her for pictures. idk why there's people like that on here, they never get banned either.