online friends

[mofumofucat00]

I don't think I'm CTB anytime soon, but I'm really curious:
Is there a good way to say farewell to online friends?

I can leave a note for my relatives or people I know IRL, but I'm not sure if my online friends would even notice if I died. Most of them live far away, maybe they will just think we stopped talking or that we are on bad terms and stuff. I saw someone mention scheduled emails, but I don't know their mail addresses. And it would be weird to ask them out of the blue, I guess. Or would it be better not to say anything at all and leave the rest to their imagination? Is it better (or kinder) to let them deal with a lingering longing and uncertainty instead of facing the death of a close one?

Almost all of my friends are not IRL, so, help is appreciated! And, I want to know what you think!

 

[bl33ding_heart]

If I was certain I would die I would just leave them a message telling them. If they aren't aware of your suicide ideation they probably won't assume you're dead.

 

[ZwartHartje]

If I was certain I would die I would just leave them a message telling them. If they aren't aware of your suicide ideation they probably won't assume you're dead.

To be honest I'd be VERY careful with that. Only a few weeks ago someone on a Discord server said he had just been trying to end his life with some drug overdose, and people were frantically trying to get him "help" but no one knew his home address or where exactly he lived, someone had tried to contact Discord about it, and so on. I saw the conversation only after the fact, it turned out that his attempt had failed and everyone was relieved. But me - it freaked me out, seeing those reactions! I'm sure if someone had had his home address they'd have sent the police or paramedics, what a nightmare! So personally I'd much prefer to just vanish very quietly.

 

[mofumofucat00]

To be honest I'd be VERY careful with that. Only a few weeks ago someone on a Discord server said he had just been trying to end his life with some drug overdose, and people were frantically trying to get him "help" but no one knew his home address or where exactly he lived, someone had tried to contact Discord about it, and so on. I saw the conversation only after the fact, it turned out that his attempt had failed and everyone was relieved. But me - it freaked me out, seeing those reactions! I'm sure if someone had had his home address they'd have sent the police or paramedics, what a nightmare! So personally I'd much prefer to just vanish very quietly.

Yeah, this is what I'm scared of too! Messaging them right before an attempt would result in them panicking and stuff if they are online. Or them thinking "If I could've been online a bit earlier..." if they were not.
Sending a message is in different fashion compared to leaving note since it's like you're directly talking to them. I guess, leaving silently is better after all.

 

[Passenger4224]

I don't plan on doing much, maybe leave a vague note on my profile. Or maybe make my death look like a joke.

I don't think telling online friends is a good idea, esp if you are open to them about your depression, they might already assume you died or smth if you vanish

Telling people just increases the chance of cops being called...

 

[Alumina]

i once heard of a guy who set up an app that, if he didn't interact with it everyday, would send a message to specified emails to transfer his will in case he died on accident. i guess you could do something similar the day before you ctb, or find a similar program to just delay a message, tho it depends on what platform your friends are