NSFW (NSFW Vent) Does anyone else find themselves abusing their body's natural way to "relieve stress?"

[NotSalmon]

I never want to talk about this. But it's been compulsive lately and almost routine every night, like I want to stop but there's not many other ways to get a dopamine rush anymore, yet I always end up feeling worse, guilty, or disgusted with myself after and that I wasted my time partaking in something like that. Just wanted to get off of my chest, may delete

 

[Ethel]

It's okay,many people would agree either you,although I don't feel shame or guilty, there's lingering sensations that doing it feels like...cheap,but in the end,it's the easiest method for me to get energy and relieve stress quickly, sometimes I use other ways to de-stress when I have the time or money but the natural way is...something a lot of people do even if they don't show it very much,trust me,a looot of people ...

 

[mysideofthemountain]

You just reminded me of something I meant to do today brb

 

[wonderfulheaven]

absolutely

 

[Redacted24]

yep

 

[CatLvr]

A LLLLLOOOOOOOTTTT of people.

 

[UnnervedCompany]

I am not sure how you do it but I find not looking at anything and not thinking of anything helps relieve the shame and guilt by quite a lot. It is difficult to just focus on your body and nothing else but I find it kind of self loving. It is weird advice but it might help.

 

[avalokitesvara]

There's nothing wrong with it whatsoever. If it's the one thing you get any pleasure out of, why the fuck not. Don't watch porn though, that shit wreaks havoc on you emotionally, spiritually and psychologically.

 

[Dr Iron Arc]

Huh? Are you talking about masturbating? That's a pretty normal thing to do regardless of how stressed or depressed you are. Just don't overdo it and try to use your imagination every once in a while instead of relying on porn.

I've mentioned it before but I do it once every day or once every two days because, if you're a male at least, it's been proven to reduce the likelihood of getting prostate cancer so it's all good to do in moderation.

 

[Username1359751]

Huh?

(I so get this lol but would never say it lol. Props.)

I've mentioned it before but I do it once every day or once every two days because, if you're a male at least, it's been proven to reduce the likelihood of getting prostate cancer so it's all good to do in moderation.

... see this is just some sound practical advice here

 

[Forever Sleep]

I only really feel embarassed about it because I'm embarassed of how unattractive I am so- I don't like inflicting that image on others!

I actually had a very prudish upbringing- no sex before marriage and all that. Luckily, it didn't cover the one player version.

But no, I don't see why we should be embarassed about it. It's a need like any other. It's not hurting anyone else. It's one of the few nice things left for me. Sometimes I even try to make myself feel better that I might be getting more than people in relationships.

But yeah, I suppose like anything else, it can become addictive. I think I went through a stage of 2-3 times a day. I work from home- I'd like to clarify!

 

[Alexei_Kirillov]

There's nothing wrong with it whatsoever. If it's the one thing you get any pleasure out of, why the fuck not. Don't watch porn though, that shit wreaks havoc on you emotionally, spiritually and psychologically.

Echoing this. It can even become something of a creative outlet if you're using your imagination to develop more complex scenarios.

 

[cashmeout77]

This is probably the safest, least harmful way to get some quick dopamine. It's sure preferable to the raging drug problem I have!

 

[Namelesa]

As other people have said there isn't wrong with masturbation or self-pleasure. I love it so much as way of making myself feel better and loving my body. There's nothing wrong with doing it as we some of us are going to have sexual desires and it doesn't hurt anyone or is that just me being a whore? I do it mostly every day and it can happen multiple times a day and last quite a long time.

Personally I would say porn hasn't ruined anything for me as I can self-pleasure without it just fine (tho maybe thats just cause I am attracted to my own body.) I know for me it hasn't made me disappointed in the sex I have had. Obviously I can see how it can ruin people in increasing your dopamine tolerance to sexual stimuli and give unrealistic expectations of sex but I guess I wasn't effected.

 

[Electra]

Definitely nothing wrong with it. It has many benefits like releasing stress, giving you the feelings of pleasure and etc.

 

[notreallybored]

ב''ה,

FWIW the biblical (Torah) story about this is about the wacky obligations of "Levirate marriage" as would screw people observing the system out of heirs / the blessings or blurses of reproduction, so the way the "let's run off with Israel's laws and giggle about them" traditions turn that into the idea that any drop of spoo hitting the ground is awful in itself is a mix of missing the point and evil.

That said there's sort of something to the "dopamine fast" stuff and having self control to function around people, so no easy answers on all this. Judaism does have some stuff about making days either/or with reproductive activity or Torah study, but that's either to accentuate the sacred and profane with both (you'll study until reproduction gets you and it's your kids' problem, hopefully you learned anything before then) and a practical matter of keeping clammy hands off precious handwritten sacred scrolls, if that gives any perspective on the equivalent of "and don't piss or poop at work even if you're not in a hazmat suit and environment where that advice might be reasonable or necessary."

 

[miyabi]

Yeah, you aren't the only one. Of all the vices, it's the only one that doesn't really leave lasting damage. Cut yourself some slack.

 

[NumbItAll]

I would never be able to concentrate on anything or function without that lmao.

 

[yowai]

Nah I wouldn't say I'm abusing it, but it sucks that 99% of the time I watch porn to get off lol

 

[scottchy]

this pretty much sums it up lol