nobody understands, they keep putting me in therapy and it isnt doing shit

[NothinglessVoid]

they keep forcing me into therapy even though it doesnt do anything, no therapist or anyone will ever understand what im feeling and its so useless to force me to go. i dont know how to get out of therapy though, i lie to my therapist and say im fine and everything but im still forced to go. its so worthless to even try to make me "better" and i dont see a point in going. i dont think anyone can ever make me "better", the world is shit and everyone on this earth is shit i wish it would all just end.

 

[FuneralCry]

I understand feeling so tired of suffering in this existence, I just wish to be gone as well, in fact that's all I hope for. But anyway I wish you the best.

 

[MyTimeIsUp]

Unfortunately, some believe therapy is a cure for everything, but people forget not everyone can be 'cured'. Therapy doesn't work for everyone. Some traumas people cannot ever move on from. Ever.

There is lack of understanding in the therapeutic world - 'if you put the work in, it'll work and you'll be fine' - not always, no. Some traumas are resistant to it, and I wish, I desperately wish this was talked about more, especially because I am one of those individuals, like yourself.

I'm so sorry you're being forced to endure this torture. I would say keep going to prevent being sectioned on a psych ward. I don't know your situation, but you said you're being forced to go to therapy, so I can only presume that is the alternative? I don't know. I apologise if that was presumptuous of me

I hope things ease for you

 

[depthss]

i understand how you feel fully, its terrible when people force others to do this kind of stuff when they dont want to. i have an amazing therapist, but even then, he can only help me with smaller problems. there are bigger things that i cant tell anyone, and that therapy cannot fix

 

[Leiot]

Therapy is one piece of the program but some providers think it's some magical thing that will make all your problems go away. You didn't say if it was individual or group therapy. For me, I got a lot out of group therapy. Just being in the same room with people who understood what I was going through was really helpful.

 

[Calliandras]

I agree, everybody thinks therapy is going to magically solve all issues. I've done SO MUCH therapy over the years, and yet i'm still as fucked up as ever. Also, I don't know If it's because of the country I live in but the majority of the therapists i've been to fucking sucked. It's so hard to find a professional that actually cares about you.

 

[divinemistress36]

My therapist is cool and empathetic but she cant help my brain damage. Therapy only works for people with solveable problems

 

[NothinglessVoid]

Therapy is one piece of the program but some providers think it's some magical thing that will make all your problems go away. You didn't say if it was individual or group therapy. For me, I got a lot out of group therapy. Just being in the same room with people who understood what I was going through was really helpful.

currently im in individual therapy, but i was in group for a while and it was even worse.

I agree, everybody thinks therapy is going to magically solve all issues. I've done SO MUCH therapy over the years, and yet i'm still as fucked up as ever. Also, I don't know If it's because of the country I live in but the majority of the therapists i've been to fucking sucked. It's so hard to find a professional that actually cares about you.

yeah theyve been putting me in therapy since i was like 7 and my mother says she will kick me out unless i go to therapy, she is obsessed with trying to "fix" me and get me to stop harming myself

 

[cosmosis]

I am so sorry you are forced into it. No one who is forced into therapy is going to benefit from it unless they want it. (And if they are lucky to actually benefit). I've been in therapy since I was 12. 23 now. And it's a bunch of bullshit. Trying to get empathy from apathetic, burnt out people is ridiculous. They don't give a fuck, they just want to get through their miserable day so they can go home and drink themselves asleep.

 

[NothinglessVoid]

I am so sorry you are forced into it. No one who is forced into therapy is going to benefit from it unless they want it. (And if they are lucky to actually benefit). I've been in therapy since I was 12. 23 now. And it's a bunch of bullshit. Trying to get empathy from apathetic, burnt out people is ridiculous. They don't give a fuck, they just want to get through their miserable day so they can go home and drink themselves asleep.

exactly!! i find it so stupid that im forced to tell someone my problems when they dont even know me and couldnt care less about me. if i kill myself today he wouldnt even know or care, im just another paycheck to him. i dont see the point in wasting my time on therapy when the only thing that could ever "fix" me is if the world wasnt such a shitty place. it feels useless for someone to try and convince me to stay alive.

 

[dull emerald]

как и ты, я сломлен навсегда. мой психотерапевт всегда обвиняет меня во лжи и в том, что эта женщина пытается найти что-то, чего не существует. она смотрит на меня как на дерьмо. I feel pain because I have to communicate with her.

 

[Privateer2368]

My therapist is cool and empathetic but she cant help my brain damage. Therapy only works for people with solveable problems

It only works for people with imaginary problems.

Therapy won't pay your bills or get you a better job or anything else that actually needs to be done in the real world.

 

[peony]

Some traumas people cannot ever move on from. Ever.

a psychotherapist specialized in trauma treatment is aware of that, their job is not to make you "move on" but to help you learn to break through negative thought spirals and self desrtuctive behaviour, so to better cope with your chronic condition and regain some quality of life.

when you shop for therapists you need to look for their actual qualifications carefuly and check them, psychs specialized in trauma therapy are few and far between because it requires extra training. sometimes it takes trial and error unfortunately, learned the hard way that some clinics and psychs lie about their qualifications

 

[Aplev]

a psychotherapist specialized in trauma treatment is aware of that, their job is not to make you "move on" but to help you learn to break through negative thought spirals and self desrtuctive behaviour, so to better cope with your chronic condition and regain some quality of life.

when you shop for therapists you need to look for their actual qualifications carefuly and check them, psychs specialized in trauma therapy are few and far between because it requires extra training. sometimes it takes trial and error unfortunately, learned the hard way that some clinics and psychs lie about their qualifications

I would say a lot of clinics and psychs lie about their qualifications, and that's because a mere title says shit about how capable you really are. But even if you found someone that can kind of help you find coping techniques and stuff, that still won't solve a thing. What's the point in learning coping techniques (assuming you can learn them to begin with) when there's so much in life you will probably never experience because of politics, economy, social conditions, etc.? The traumas will still come back, super intensely for many of us, and no matter how much "coping" we do, there's nothing we can do to actually "cope" with it and try to lead a better life, so we'd still rather be just dead. At least I know that's how it is for me, and I'm sure for a lot of people out there.

I'll echo this: Some traumas simply can't be ever dealt with. End.

 

[peony]

sounds like a you problem, plenty of people with regular flashbacks (hi!) aren't as hopeless and pessimistic maybe get some perspective by volunteering at a refugee shelter. you should work on your attitude, of course you're not going to get better when you doom it from the start. great example for being stuck in negative thought patterns and unWILLING to work on them.

yes therapy involves beating your inner critic and doing the shit you find stupid and ridiculous anyway. getting better, or rather less shit, is hard work, no one's going to do it for you.

 

[Aplev]

sounds like a you problem, plenty of people with regular flashbacks (hi!) aren't as hopeless and pessimistic maybe get some perspective by volunteering at a refugee shelter. you should work on your attitude, of course you're not going to get better when you doom it from the start. great example for being stuck in negative thought patterns and unWILLING to work on them.

yes therapy involves beating your inner critic and doing the shit you find stupid and ridiculous anyway. getting better, or rather less shit, is hard work, no one's going to do it for you.

I don't understand, why are you here exchanging words with someone that thinks so differently of you and trying to impose your beliefs on them? It's almost like you think I never had someone tell me the things you're telling me. Almost like you think I need them. Well, I do not.

 

[divinemistress36]

I would say a lot of clinics and psychs lie about their qualifications, and that's because a mere title says shit about how capable you really are. But even if you found someone that can kind of help you find coping techniques and stuff, that still won't solve a thing. What's the point in learning coping techniques (assuming you can learn them to begin with) when there's so much in life you will probably never experience because of politics, economy, social conditions, etc.? The traumas will still come back, super intensely for many of us, and no matter how much "coping" we do, there's nothing we can do to actually "cope" with it and try to lead a better life, so we'd still rather be just dead. At least I know that's how it is for me, and I'm sure for a lot of people out there.

I'll echo this: Some traumas simply can't be ever dealt with. End.

I agree! Every therapist and doctor I've seen has been worthless for real trauma

 

[NothinglessVoid]

sounds like a you problem, plenty of people with regular flashbacks (hi!) aren't as hopeless and pessimistic maybe get some perspective by volunteering at a refugee shelter. you should work on your attitude, of course you're not going to get better when you doom it from the start. great example for being stuck in negative thought patterns and unWILLING to work on them.

yes therapy involves beating your inner critic and doing the shit you find stupid and ridiculous anyway. getting better, or rather less shit, is hard work, no one's going to do it for you.

you sound just like every other person who has ever tried to help me. i understand that there are people who have worse problems than me, that doesnt change the fact that i want to kill myself. i am honestly surprised more people arent suicidal considering how shitty the world is, its not even just a problem that only affects me its the whole world. the whole world sucks, and everything just gets worse.

i think every person who isnt as "pessimistic" as me either is naiive and has no clue how the world works or is extremely privileged. how can you not be pessimistic when us as humans are destroying the earth in real time. i think it would be better if we could just reset, just kill every living thing and hope that we are reborn as some weird parasite on a different planet, or in another reality where the world isnt literally burning and full of corrupt billionaires and abuse.

i would be willing to stop being negative if things were actually getting better, if there was a reason to be positive.

 

[ijustwishtodie]

sounds like a you problem, plenty of people with regular flashbacks (hi!) aren't as hopeless and pessimistic maybe get some perspective by volunteering at a refugee shelter. you should work on your attitude, of course you're not going to get better when you doom it from the start. great example for being stuck in negative thought patterns and unWILLING to work on them.

yes therapy involves beating your inner critic and doing the shit you find stupid and ridiculous anyway. getting better, or rather less shit, is hard work, no one's going to do it for you.

You sound exactly like a therapist.

 

[MyTimeIsUp]

a psychotherapist specialized in trauma treatment is aware of that, their job is not to make you "move on" but to help you learn to break through negative thought spirals and self desrtuctive behaviour, so to better cope with your chronic condition and regain some quality of life.

when you shop for therapists you need to look for their actual qualifications carefuly and check them, psychs specialized in trauma therapy are few and far between because it requires extra training. sometimes it takes trial and error unfortunately, learned the hard way that some clinics and psychs lie about their qualifications

State the obvious why don't you. Just because a therapist specialises in trauma, it doesn't mean the therapy will help. Everyone is different.

Evidently you have no idea what you're talking about, and you've made a lot of presumptions here, evidently based on your own experiences (projecting).

You assumed everyone is engaging is self destructive behaviour (that is one example - because you mentioned it). Perhaps you are referring to yourself there. Don't put us all in the same box.

I'll repeat what I said: therapy doesn't work for everyone. We are all individuals. We are aware of all the obvious things you pointed out - for what reason? You presumed we aren't aware.
I'm sorry you've had some negative responses on here, OP. You don't deserve it.

Some of us have compassion and understanding, ignore the ones that are projecting! I know it's easier said than done, but I think some are here perhaps, to push their views onto others, based on their experiences, forgetting you are an individual and NOT them.