Venting Nobody There When You Need Them The Most

[LighthouseHermit]

Sorry for venting

Why is it that when you are at your lowest point, when you need someone the most, there is nobody there?

I just don't understand why people do that. I'm loyal to an extreme, and I always try to be there when I'm needed the most, but when I need someone all I have is the negative thoughts that keep repeating everything that's happened, will happen, and what will never be.

Worst thing is that these people often say they are loyal and always there for others. I can then name a lot of situations where it's just not true.

When you confront them, they start making excuses or gaslight you, that it's your fault for them not being there. It's like they're blind to their own faults.

 

[TBONTB]

Just a not to say I see you. Sorry no one is there for you right nowadays

 

[whywere]

Totally know where you are coming from. I have tried so very hard to being kind and helpful towards everyone and when I would like to know that someone is in my corner or has my back, POOF! dead silence.

I guess it is, welcome to human nature 101. I have always wondered if being self-centered is part of survival instinct? The good old me, me and me, YIKES!

Please try and remember that you are family here and I consider you a good friend.

Since the 1960's I have put up with, "I sure could use a hug and a listening ear right now" and then turn around a little later and BANG! they are either gone or "too busy".

I try my hardest to remember and feel that I have a purpose in this world and if I get shortchanged in this world, maybe, just maybe, I will get my rewards in the next life.

You are a wonderfully kind soul, your posts screams that aspect and I send you lots of hugs, kind and caring thoughts and lots of well wishes.

Walter

 

[LighthouseHermit]

Just a not to say I see you. Sorry no one is there for you right nowadays

Thank you

Totally know where you are coming from. I have tried so very hard to being kind and helpful towards everyone and when I would like to know that someone is in my corner or has my back, POOF! dead silence.

I guess it is, welcome to human nature 101. I have always wondered if being self-centered is part of survival instinct? The good old me, me and me, YIKES!

Please try and remember that you are family here and I consider you a good friend.

Since the 1960's I have put up with, "I sure could use a hug and a listening ear right now" and then turn around a little later and BANG! they are either gone or "too busy".

I try my hardest to remember and feel that I have a purpose in this world and if I get shortchanged in this world, maybe, just maybe, I will get my rewards in the next life.

You are a wonderfully kind soul, your posts screams that aspect and I send you lots of hugs, kind and caring thoughts and lots of well wishes.

Walter

Thank you so much, Walter

Your message brought tears to my eyes. I truly appreciate it

I'm terribly sorry you've experienced so much disloyalty in your life.

May the light that you shine into this world return to you tenfold.

 

[NyxCascade]

Some people are so self centered to the point where they only give a fuck about themsleves.
You deserve more than that.
I hope you find people in life who can be as loyal and genuine as you are.

 

[MissAbyss]

Self-centered, leechers, because they can't deal with it, many reasons. Try to find your own people. Hugs

 

[LighthouseHermit]

Some people are so self centered to the point where they only give a fuck about themsleves.
You deserve more than that.
I hope you find people in life who can be as loyal and genuine as you are.

Thank you for the kind words. It means a lot

Self-centered, leechers, because they can't deal with it, many reasons. Try to find you own people. Hugs

Thank you. A big hug back to you

 

[WordV0mit]

Sorry for venting

Why is it that when you are at your lowest point, when you need someone the most, there is nobody there?

I just don't understand why people do that. I'm loyal to an extreme, and I always try to be there when I'm needed the most, but when I need someone all I have is the negative thoughts that keep repeating everything that's happened, will happen, and what will never be.

Worst thing is that these people often say they are loyal and always there for others. I can then name a lot of situations where it's just not true.

When you confront them, they start making excuses or gaslight you, that it's your fault for them not being there. It's like they're blind to their own faults.

I understand how you feel. When ever my partner needs someone there for them they always go to me and even if I say I cant handle it at the moment I always crack under guilt and comfort her anyway. No matter what though, it seems every time I really need to talk to them or need them to comfort me hes either too depressed or too happy to be there. It feels like there is never a good time. I know exactly how you feel and how it sucks really hard to have no one be there for you when you need it and yo be there for everyone else. My best advice is to learn your own worth and to not let people step on you and use you. The more you start setting these boundaries the more people who dont care about you will be weeded out of your life and the ones that do care will work on themselves to improve their relationship with you.

 

[LighthouseHermit]

I understand how you feel. When ever my partner needs someone there for them they always go to me and even if I say I cant handle it at the moment I always crack under guilt and comfort her anyway. No matter what though, it seems every time I really need to talk to them or need them to comfort me hes either too depressed or too happy to be there. It feels like there is never a good time. I know exactly how you feel and how it sucks really hard to have no one be there for you when you need it and yo be there for everyone else. My best advice is to learn your own worth and to not let people step on you and use you. The more you start setting these boundaries the more people who dont care about you will be weeded out of your life and the ones that do care will work on themselves to improve their relationship with you.

It truly amazes me that so many people take but they never give back. It's extremely selfish and pure neglect.

I have tried doing as you said, setting boundaries, but in the end that only left me alone. People that can support others are incredibly rare to find.

Thank you for your reply and taking the time to write it. Means a lot

 

[WordV0mit]

It truly amazes me that so many people take but they never give back. It's extremely selfish and pure neglect.

I have tried doing as you said, setting boundaries, but in the end that only left me alone. People that can support others are incredibly rare to find.

Thank you for your reply and taking the time to write it. Means a lot

No problem<3 I know im a stranger on the internet but im here for u if you need someone to talk to :3

I understand how you feel. When ever my partner needs someone there for them they always go to me and even if I say I cant handle it at the moment I always crack under guilt and comfort her anyway. No matter what though, it seems every time I really need to talk to them or need them to comfort me hes either too depressed or too happy to be there. It feels like there is never a good time. I know exactly how you feel and how it sucks really hard to have no one be there for you when you need it and yo be there for everyone else. My best advice is to learn your own worth and to not let people step on you and use you. The more you start setting these boundaries the more people who dont care about you will be weeded out of your life and the ones that do care will work on themselves to improve their relationship with you.

I wanna make it clear I love my partner and they are the most amazing person in the world but it can just be a little exhausting :,)

 

[LighthouseHermit]

No problem<3 I know im a stranger on the internet but im here for u if you need someone to talk to :3

Thank you. That is very kind of you

 

[Galam]

For ugly people this is so common to be alone and poor and easly ill/disabled. i was always alone my whole 30 years alive now. Never had any really good things happen to me. There is nobody with good intentions around so you are every day alone, nothing really matters and I also could never make any goals.

The normal people are cruel often towards weaker people, they exclude them so they die off. Many also often behave like apes and many apes even abandone their own disabled, ill children. I have never understood normal people but I understand what we as victims should do to prevent further harm. The richest, cruelest, strongest, people are the reason why we suffer and are isolated. We cannot be a part of their ill competetive society but we also shouldn't. We should find a way to make their whole spawn infertil. It will change the whole system into a better one imo.

My life was such a injustice because of these breeders. I was pressured to just be in my room until death or homelesness without any achievements, always having grief. Someone should bring them down. I will never be friendly to anybody who is richer than me and I will make it public what these people do. They can be lucky that in germany you cannot get so easly a gun compared to america.

My whole life I was lower-class just because of the middle- and elite-class people who make the rules here for slavery (capitalism) and tell me I am ugly, and laugh about my face. They should burn. Other lower-class people need to stab higher imo. I wish we would have a collectiv army of women like Valerie Solanas and Audrey Hale.

There is so much to be pissed about. Today I tried to find some newer wlw lesbian / shoujo-ai content in mainstream media and only found trash. Since I am alive there is so much trash and nothing really to enjoy in this area. It's like the culture want's to make you pissed.

 

[Slark]

It's like in Kafka's book Metamorphosis: when you stop being useful and start needing care, people start seeing you as a problem. Unfortunately, most people are like that. Anyway, if you want to talk at any time, just send me a message.

 

[LighthouseHermit]

It's like in Kafka's book Metamorphosis: when you stop being useful and start needing care, people start seeing you as a problem. Unfortunately, most people are like that. Anyway, if you want to talk at any time, just send me a message.

Thank you very much. Very kind of you

 

[Betsy007]

It's deeply disappointing and you deserve so much better. I've been in the same spot many times. Somehow, I managed to disconnect from the expectation of receiving - not in a hard-hearted way, I'm just indifferent. The world is chock full of narcissists, the shallow and the selfish. True loyalty is very rare in my experience. These days, I'm there for other people only up to the point it satisfies me. I'll help, but I won't stress about it and I don't feel obligated to go the extra mile for people. That's a somewhat selfish attitude, but it makes life so much smoother.

 

[offbalance]

I can relate, I had an ex of mine CTB and my so called friend gradually stopped talking to me. It's either they're selfish or they just don't have the bandwidth to deal with other peoples problems