MissWannaLive
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- May 1, 2025
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I feel bad for always coming back here when some switch flips inside me and go away when it does it again but there is no better place that makes me feel even a bit free than this site.
Very much like the title says. I've talked with my friend recently and we have been talking about overall 'success' in life and that successful people are the ones that never give up trying despite others telling them they are shit for something. While her point is valid and reasonable (sometimes being passionate and trying again and again gives some profit) I couldn't quite stand it. All because whenever I manage to give a try again and again something I want pursuit that friend is the first one to always say things like "why do you even bother? You won't succeed" or "You will not thrive anyway, don't do it". Always. Always in a passive-aggressive way and when I decide to throw their own words at them they have the guts to tell me I am the one wrong.
I know a talk should be in order for this but I also know what eventually they are gonna say (we don't exactly have a friendship to cry on each other shoulder, more offering logic if it's needed). Each talk turns into talking into a wall or being met with arguments that you just lack words for and to not give yourself a bigger headache you let go.
That switch in their words is probably the worst. Because how I am supposed to actually do something when all I hear is complaining? No matter what I do or what I don't do I just hear grumbling. Especially when anything that I want to do cames at cost of not spending time with the said friend.
I am aware that friend can have a lot of red flags but they are not all that bad. Not all the time. Also they have been my friend for a few years now and they also brought me quite a few positive memories but I just feel like I'm getting stuck due to them. I don't know what it is about it but when they are busy it's fine. If I am busy even with studies it's suddenly almost offending for them. As if a want to pass exams was suddenly a declaration that I brush them off.
I just feel conflicted. I can tell some parts of them are toxic but they were also the ones that opened my eyes to some other toxic people that used to be in my life. I think being caught in the crossfire of foolish hope and realization is by far the most confusing and heartbreaking thing. I know I am prone to quite hasty and harsh judgments so I give it a credit that I'm just overly sensitive but also I feel like something is off.
Very much like the title says. I've talked with my friend recently and we have been talking about overall 'success' in life and that successful people are the ones that never give up trying despite others telling them they are shit for something. While her point is valid and reasonable (sometimes being passionate and trying again and again gives some profit) I couldn't quite stand it. All because whenever I manage to give a try again and again something I want pursuit that friend is the first one to always say things like "why do you even bother? You won't succeed" or "You will not thrive anyway, don't do it". Always. Always in a passive-aggressive way and when I decide to throw their own words at them they have the guts to tell me I am the one wrong.
I know a talk should be in order for this but I also know what eventually they are gonna say (we don't exactly have a friendship to cry on each other shoulder, more offering logic if it's needed). Each talk turns into talking into a wall or being met with arguments that you just lack words for and to not give yourself a bigger headache you let go.
That switch in their words is probably the worst. Because how I am supposed to actually do something when all I hear is complaining? No matter what I do or what I don't do I just hear grumbling. Especially when anything that I want to do cames at cost of not spending time with the said friend.
I am aware that friend can have a lot of red flags but they are not all that bad. Not all the time. Also they have been my friend for a few years now and they also brought me quite a few positive memories but I just feel like I'm getting stuck due to them. I don't know what it is about it but when they are busy it's fine. If I am busy even with studies it's suddenly almost offending for them. As if a want to pass exams was suddenly a declaration that I brush them off.
I just feel conflicted. I can tell some parts of them are toxic but they were also the ones that opened my eyes to some other toxic people that used to be in my life. I think being caught in the crossfire of foolish hope and realization is by far the most confusing and heartbreaking thing. I know I am prone to quite hasty and harsh judgments so I give it a credit that I'm just overly sensitive but also I feel like something is off.
