NSFW My (ex?) fwb barely speaks to me after we slept together.

[sadidiot0328]

He told me that my "innocence" was attractive and that sleeping with me was taking it. Yesterday he told me he didn't want to "expose" me to stuff or hangout just a couple weeks after taking my virginity. I feel gross, used, and so so fucking stupid. I share a class with him in the spring and Im physically ill when thinking about I'll have to see him for 16 weeks, not to mention we share the same friend group. Considering just dropping the group and the class and distancing myself until I no longer cross paths with him.

 

[Crow_88]

You aren't gross or spoiled or anything of the kind. He, on the other had, is an extreme creep. Getting off on taking your innocence and wording it like that is the work of a creepy creepy creeping creep!

 

[maylurker]

gosh where you guys actually find these people. my condolences

 

[daruino]

Aw :( unfortunately this is the reality with fwb situations... only thing you can do now is focus on yourself and ignore him. Perhaps sit in a place where you don't see him during class? I've been in a similar situation with the ex fwb going to my school, and eventually you will get used to it.

Also you aren't gross, or used, or stupid because of this. He sounds predatory and I wouldn't be surprised if he perhaps misled you in some way. Do the others in the group know about what happened?

 

[Sleeper System]

You were used. It happens. Learn from this mistake. Take the time to observe people and establish trust. Not everyone that is nice to you has your best interests in mind. Everyone has an agenda especially guys. Beware of fwb when the benefits that the other person gets are more than what you get. He gets sexual access and what do you get? A buddy? It's ridiculous.