My Ex Does Not Care

[OrganDonor57]

Okay, so pretty much I have my plan to CBT laid out (finally!!). One of the things I was going to do was get a burner phone to call the loml (my ex) right before I did it, so I could leave talking to the only person I wanted to. I messaged her the other day that in a week or so I will contact her from a new phone number and that it's my last wish to talk to her one last time (I am aware this text is very ominous). It's so fucking weird though because she responded with "are you planning on hurting yourself?" and NOTHING ELSE. She has not followed up or cared at all about my mental health or things of that nature. It seems to me that it shows that PEOPLE DO NOT CARE IF YOU CTB, they just care that they don't seem guilty when it happens. Maybe I am delusional, but do you guys have any thoughts on this? (Also, the wording of "are you planning on hurting yourself?" seems very legalistic in a sense, so maybe she is trying to have evidence to get me admitted.)

Okay, so pretty much I have my plan to CBT laid out (finally!!). One of the things I was going to do was get a burner phone to call the loml (my ex) right before I did it, so I could leave talking to the only person I wanted to. I messaged her the other day that in a week or so I will contact her from a new phone number and that it's my last wish to talk to her one last time (I am aware this text is very ominous). It's so fucking weird though because she responded with "are you planning on hurting yourself?" and NOTHING ELSE. She has not followed up or cared at all about my mental health or things of that nature. It seems to me that it shows that PEOPLE DO NOT CARE IF YOU CTB, they just care that they don't seem guilty when it happens. Maybe I am delusional, but do you guys have any thoughts on this? (Also, the wording of "are you planning on hurting yourself?" seems very legalistic in a sense, so maybe she is trying to have evidence to get me admitted.)

CTB* lol

 

[mackoo]

Man, I'm ngl if she's your ex, you should not put that pressure on her. She does not have to "care" after getting this text. You miss her, I get that (I really really do, I'm in the same situation as you) but what you're doing to her is unhealthy. Still, if you want to CTB it's your call. But again, don't drag her into it - if you really love her as you said, let her go and let her not "care". Sucks but acceptance is the purest form of love I think. As I said, I'm in the same boat as you. But for me, it's more about accepting her not being my life anymore and accepting (without putting guilt on her) that in that case I don't want to live anymore and that's okay. But, man, if you love her, let her go really

 

[OrganDonor57]

Man, I'm ngl if she's your ex, you should not put that pressure on her. She does not have to "care" after getting this text. You miss her, I get that (I really really do, I'm in the same situation as you) but what you're doing to her is unhealthy. Still, if you want to CTB it's your call. But again, don't drag her into it - if you really love her as you said, let her go and let her not "care". Sucks but acceptance is the purest form of love I think. As I said, I'm in the same boat as you. But for me, it's more about accepting her not being my life anymore and accepting (without putting guilt on her) that in that case I don't want to live anymore and that's okay. But, man, if you love her, let her go really

This was more of a vent, I feel so much frustration. But yeah, she's my ex, not my gf; it just hurts, and it's hard for me to accept that lol.

 

[xXiloveyouXx]

Man, I'm ngl if she's your ex, you should not put that pressure on her. She does not have to "care" after getting this text. You miss her, I get that (I really really do, I'm in the same situation as you) but what you're doing to her is unhealthy. Still, if you want to CTB it's your call. But again, don't drag her into it - if you really love her as you said, let her go and let her not "care". Sucks but acceptance is the purest form of love I think. As I said, I'm in the same boat as you. But for me, it's more about accepting her not being my life anymore and accepting (without putting guilt on her) that in that case I don't want to live anymore and that's okay. But, man, if you love her, let her go really

forget that. if you're going to be dying anyway then at least let everything out and die saying what you want to say. it's your life that's ending, not hers. we're dying because we can't accept how things are and suicide is inherently a retaliatory action.

 

[mackoo]

This was more of a vent, I feel so much frustration. But yeah, she's my ex, not my gf; it just hurts, and it's hard for me to accept that lol.

I get that. It fucking sucks I know, I also don't know how to accept not being with my ex anymore. I probably should tell you to still think about it but who am I to say anything, I'm in the exact situation as you lol. No matter what you do I hope you find your peace one way or another