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constantly uncomfortable
- Jun 7, 2026
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Basically, I'm a 24F and I can't get past the fear of obtaining my driver's license.
I've never had any bad experience or accidents as a passenger (except when my father was drunk and drove us into a bridge barrier when I was like 10yo).
I also don't have any diagnosis for any disorder or illness, but knowing myself I wouldn't be surprised if I get diagnosed with depression and an anxiety disorder (and other disorders that I heavily relate to, like OCD and autism, but I don't want to self-diagnose).
My general problem is, every time I have to do something important for my well-being or my future (such as medical appointments, seeing a therapist, or the driver's license) I just can't do it, something is blocking me and I don't know what is it. At this point I don't know if it's just an anxiety problem, or if there's something deeper that's keeping me from doing things.
I've recently learned that there's a term for the fear of driving, or even being in a vehicle, it's amaxophobia (?), it's definition hits pretty close to what I feel, so I Might have that as well.
What scares me in driving is the fact that I have to control such a big engine, with lots of buttons and stuff, while also being aware of every signs on the road, other cars and people around, etc. I feel like there's so much to control and I feel like my brain is simply not capable of controlling this much info at the same time, also knowing that I react poorly when under pressure. I just don't want to be a danger to others.
And at this point I'm tired of having to justify myself to others as why I still don't have my license. I can't really explain everything I wrote above so I'll just say it's because of the price of all of it and I avoid the topic when I can.
It is also becoming hard socially, since I don't want to suggest any hangouts to people if I don't have a way of driving them, so I don't suggest anything anymore, and I feel bad that my friends always have to drive me anywhere without being able to return the favour (which is making me isolate myself even more that I already am cuz of other problems I have)
I'm sorry if it wasn't very understandable, I'm a French speaking person and it is the first time I try to really put words on how I feel towards this problem I've had for years. I don't know if anyone can relate, or have any tips for overcoming this fear (:
I've never had any bad experience or accidents as a passenger (except when my father was drunk and drove us into a bridge barrier when I was like 10yo).
I also don't have any diagnosis for any disorder or illness, but knowing myself I wouldn't be surprised if I get diagnosed with depression and an anxiety disorder (and other disorders that I heavily relate to, like OCD and autism, but I don't want to self-diagnose).
My general problem is, every time I have to do something important for my well-being or my future (such as medical appointments, seeing a therapist, or the driver's license) I just can't do it, something is blocking me and I don't know what is it. At this point I don't know if it's just an anxiety problem, or if there's something deeper that's keeping me from doing things.
I've recently learned that there's a term for the fear of driving, or even being in a vehicle, it's amaxophobia (?), it's definition hits pretty close to what I feel, so I Might have that as well.
What scares me in driving is the fact that I have to control such a big engine, with lots of buttons and stuff, while also being aware of every signs on the road, other cars and people around, etc. I feel like there's so much to control and I feel like my brain is simply not capable of controlling this much info at the same time, also knowing that I react poorly when under pressure. I just don't want to be a danger to others.
And at this point I'm tired of having to justify myself to others as why I still don't have my license. I can't really explain everything I wrote above so I'll just say it's because of the price of all of it and I avoid the topic when I can.
It is also becoming hard socially, since I don't want to suggest any hangouts to people if I don't have a way of driving them, so I don't suggest anything anymore, and I feel bad that my friends always have to drive me anywhere without being able to return the favour (which is making me isolate myself even more that I already am cuz of other problems I have)
I'm sorry if it wasn't very understandable, I'm a French speaking person and it is the first time I try to really put words on how I feel towards this problem I've had for years. I don't know if anyone can relate, or have any tips for overcoming this fear (:
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