Is there a way to live if you have too many regrets?

[gurosi]

I'm really scared of dying so I don't consider ctb as a top solution... But I have so many regrets that there's not a day that goes by that doesn't make me remember some of them and make me feel like dying. I'm so ashamed and regretful of things I've done and how people might perceive me because of them

 

[Hollowman]

Yeah, you somehow become permanently dissociated like me. My horrible memory helps too. I had so many regrets it overwhelmed me. I guess my mind shut down.

 

[1nocares]

Agreed with Hollowman. Apathy comes next, really. Guilt, whatever, just eats away until there is no remorse.
I also can't remember shit, that helps all the same

 

[troubled_puppet]

I relate to you a lot. I rediscovered my fear of what wondering happens after someone passes away.

And i'm tormented with stuff I regret. Every other day I struggle with guilt eating up all my thinking energy. I'm ashamed of what others might think of me. i worry about inconveniences being secretly because they know i'm a bad person, even if i don't have the proof for it.

as for answering if there's a way to live with regrets?. i do'nt know. it's hard to differentiate actions i've done, and actions others have done and i couldn't stop.

i dunno if you want practical advice ?. cuz the self care i try to do is "easy" in theory (journal, non-internet hobbies) but hard to commit too, just cuz my emotions drain my energy so much. sometimes i get angry with myself and all the tools feel like BS, and i dunno if it's true or if it's just the depression/trauma talking.

what ends up happening is that i drift day by day just kind of disassociating and losing track of the days that go by. i dunno if anyone else does this but life keeps happening and it feels like i'm just forced to keep up with it.

 

[Bishop]

I've just developed thick skin. Because I know that everyone has made mistakes and such. This isn't about being the bigger person. But simply (for me) it's more of a "whatever". I've got other stuff in life than to worry about shame or regret. Self love and less about other people's bs.