Venting If you bed rot, does it still feel like a choice? How do you snap yourself out of it?

[Forever Sleep]

It's been two and a half days now, I've spent the entire day, laying on my bed, either here on in a YouTube rabbithole. Saturday, I didn't even get as far as getting dressed!

In my head, I know it's a choice. I know it's just lazyness. Tiredness too. I've worked flat out since May. There's so much I have to do though. So many chores to catch up on. I just despise everything though so- there's no motivation.

I suppose all I think that may eventually work is knowing that continuing like this will likely make it so bad that I genuinely physically struggle to get out of bed too. Plus, that- getting all this shit done and overwith will make me feel marginally better. But then: 'You have to do something!' doesn't seem to be working because ultimately- I know I can get away with not doing it. (Living alone.)

I suppose that's the thing about work. It can be hideous but then- it does create a need to act.

What do you do though? Is there a limit to how long you do it before either guilt or physical pain gets you moving? Do other people prevent you from doing it? Does it truly feel impossible to get out of bed or is it just the choice you really don't want to make?

I feel kind of torn really. I do believe lethargy is a genuine syptom of depression. So- we don't exactly choose that. But then, I also know all of my decisions at the moment- bed rotting, irregular meal times, poor diet, lack of exercise, lack of fresh air- are all just making me feel worse. I know I need to start making better decisions soon, I just keep putting it off.

 

[sonnyw]

I do the same. Even if I were to get out of bed and do something productive, things still wouldn't change, so I quit trying. What's the point anyway?

 

[somethingisntreal]

The only reason I get myself to wake up is college. Whenever I get even a single day off I don't get off my bed unless it's to piss. That said, I don't think I can do this any longer. I have a nigh-permanent brain fog and I can't understand shit. I might as well drop out...

 

[Lady_V]

I've been bedrotting for well over a decade. It's messed up my back because my back muscles needed to support my spine have deteriorated. I have a job now (spent most my life as a NEET) but the 1st couple months I was in sm back pain until my muscles built back up. Still, when I get home, I change clothes and run straight to my bed again.
The only thing that gets me out of bed is stimulants. I take a strong dose of my ADHD meds and I'll get up and work on stuff.

 

[TwistedNightmares]

I have been bedrotting for many years now. I feel like it is just something I do on autopilot at this point. The only reasons I get out of bed is to eat food, have bathroom breaks, brush my teeth, wash my hair, or if I actually need to go out to some place like the doctor for example. I find that it is a very hard habit to break when you don't have any purpose in life.

 

[thegreatminderaser]

self care is intensely difficult. i'm bedrotting any time i'm off work. idk if it matters so much if its a choice- i think its more a matter of if you can, if you're able to whether its a mental or physical block. i don't necessarily like the decision i'm making, but i'm just trying to achieve rest.

 

[badatparties]

Been bed rotting for over a decade. It's humiliating and i will not go on like this.

 

[HansaNull]

I bedrot by choice.
I don't feel any form of accomplishment for doing daily tasks like tidying, washing dishes or clothes, getting the mail yada-yada. I just exist and do the bare minimum, give up, call it a day, whatever

 

[Raven2]

If I'm not at work I'm in bed most of the day and dont even get dressed until the afternoon. I feel no guilt. Chores only get done when I really have to do them... when I've run out of clean clothes or when theres no clean drinking glasses left in the kitchen then I'll take the used ones downstairs to wash up. I actually couldnt care less anymore. Bed is a safe space for me... no people i have to interact with.. just warm and cosy.

 

[compulsoryaliveness]

I think it used to feel like a choice, but now not so much.

I don't know what's wrong with me exactly, but the other day I finally got it together to shower and had to get out with shampoo still in my hair cause I felt so dizzy.

Other times, I seem to be able to leave the house and do a lot of things. But moreso everything, including standing, is at best uncomfortable and at worst painful, so I just do the bare minimum. Use the toilet, gather things.

 

[madwoman]

I also live alone. I wanted to get out this weekend and then both depression/anxiety and decision paralysis kept me mostly bed rotting. I do eventually push myself to clean bc I know it makes me feel better and getting rid of things helps my anxiety. (I am trying to keep my apt clean and lessen the things I own in my CTB prep) but it also just makes me less anxious. Getting outside is the hard part though. I feel like I'm a tad agoraphobic - my anxiety amps up being out with others. It takes so much energy to mask when I need too. It is a symptom of depression :/

 

[vitbar]

Not in bed. I rot at my desk. Avoiding everything except youtube and gaming (when I can be bothered). Work gets me out. Work also leaves me exhausted with no motivation for anything except getting home to sit at my desk.

As for getting myself doing things? Holidays from work help. Practicing by making small decisions too. Not much success tbi