Venting I don’t know anyone who is as lonely as I am

[apple0613]

I live alone. I am 37 years old. My relationship with my family is bad, I haven't seen or talked to my parents for years.
I work as a freelancer, so I don't have colleagues. Sometimes there is not much work to do, and during those times I can feel completely alone. My income is fine, though.

I still meet people occasionally, either for work or to hang out, not very often, but I do have some friends. However, most people are getting married or having kids after 30ish.

There are many days when no one talks to me, not even a message. The only conversations I have are with store cashiers.
It feels like everyone has someone, whether it's a partner or family. I don't really have anyone, and no one really has me.
If I fall down at home, literally no one would know, maybe not for weeks.

Although I do hang out with people sometimes, but it doesn't help with this level of loneliness.

 

[menthol]

Try just talking more. That chat with the cashier? Make it longer. See a man outside struggle? Offer help and talk about how the weather is nice today. Initiate it. You decide who you become. Love your fate.

 

[trying ungracefully]

Are there clubs in your area you would be interested in? Even not I know my grandma joined a ping pong group, she does a lot of things to keep herself busy because she lives alone. You probably thought of this already but if it's available it could just be a socialization opportunity.

There's also a website called meet up you could look at.

 

[heatnormal]

have you thought about volunteering? i bet some orgs in your area are looking for additional help. you can meet people with similar values. the only downside is giving up some of your free time, but they won't demand more from you than you can give.

 

[Dejected 55]

This has been my life for decades. Trying to have anything more than surface-level conversations with other people is just a waste of time because no one is interested in more than a few minutes of non-depth conversation. People are too self-absorbed.

 

[nocatwaslost]

I live alone. I am 37 years old. My relationship with my family is bad, I haven't seen or talked to my parents for years.
I work as a freelancer, so I don't have colleagues. Sometimes there is not much work to do, and during those times I can feel completely alone. My income is fine, though.

I still meet people occasionally, either for work or to hang out, not very often, but I do have some friends. However, most people are getting married or having kids after 30ish.

There are many days when no one talks to me, not even a message. The only conversations I have are with store cashiers.
It feels like everyone has someone, whether it's a partner or family. I don't really have anyone, and no one really has me.
If I fall down at home, literally no one would know, maybe not for weeks.

Although I do hang out with people sometimes, but it doesn't help with this level of loneliness.

Hey there, I am basically in the same position except that I meet a few more faces at work. But those conversations are just as petty as with other persons.
But the days where no writes me a message or talks to me face to face happen too. Those hit hard sometimes..

If you want to talk, feel free to send me a message

 

[shampoo sniffer]

I am also very lonely. I don't work due to illness. I'm 35. It's so hard for me to connect to other humans because I was abused at a young age. I'm suspicious of everyone but desperately lonely.

 

[violetforever]

it wouldn't be nearly as bad if we at least got along with our family and had them would it? but not even that. sorry u feel this way. meaningful connections are so hard to find.

 

[apple0613]

Are there clubs in your area you would be interested in? Even not I know my grandma joined a ping pong group, she does a lot of things to keep herself busy because she lives alone. You probably thought of this already but if it's available it could just be a socialization opportunity.

There's also a website called meet up you could look at.

I tried go to church, doesn't work for me. Not sure if there is anything around me that I can join for now.
I'm considering going to dinner with strangers by an app called Timeleft, haven't do it for now, I'm an introvert.

Hey there, I am basically in the same position except that I meet a few more faces at work. But those conversations are just as petty as with other persons.
But the days where no writes me a message or talks to me face to face happen too. Those hit hard sometimes..

If you want to talk, feel free to send me a message

Thank you.
I feel glad and sad at the same time that someone shares the same feeling that I have. It's hard for others to understand this level of loneliness.

I am also very lonely. I don't work due to illness. I'm 35. It's so hard for me to connect to other humans because I was abused at a young age. I'm suspicious of everyone but desperately lonely.

Not trusting does make social contact harder, and it's not your fault.
I hope you'll get better.

it wouldn't be nearly as bad if we at least got along with our family and had them would it? but not even that. sorry u feel this way. meaningful connections are so hard to find.

You are right. I can't even make my friends understand this, because no one around me has this kind of experience.
There was a TV show called Mr. Robot, the protagonist says he's in the exact situation in the first few minutes of the show, this writing hits me so hard, like there is finally someone understands.
Thank you for the kind words.

 

[nocatwaslost]

You are right. I can't even make my friends understand this, because no one around me has this kind of experience.
There was a TV show called Mr. Robot, the protagonist says he's in the exact situation in the first few minutes of the show, this writing hits me so hard, like there is finally someone understands.
Thank you for the kind words.

I watched the first 2 or 3 seasons of Mr. Robot, I liked it a lot, although it was very sad and violent at some points. But I always wanted to continue watching it. Have you been through with all seasons?

 

[BlendedHeart]

Similar situation. Same age, work from home. Rarely any conversations.

No friends left or anyone to hang out with, though. Zero messages, for years. Trying to reconnect with people from the past is useless. Their lives have advanced. They have jobs, family, partners, children. I got stuck.

Tried volunteer work, courses, anything to make a new friend, but I'm incapable of it.

Hope you find a meaningful connection with someone. Gotta keep trying.

 

[Lookingtoflyfree]

You do have friends though - that's more than many of us have.

 

[apple0613]

I watched the first 2 or 3 seasons of Mr. Robot, I liked it a lot, although it was very sad and violent at some points. But I always wanted to continue watching it. Have you been through with all seasons?

The tempo of the show is not fast, but it's a nice and polished show. If you can finished the first two seasons of the show, maybe it's for you.

It's a sad show indeed, while the main story is relating to politics and hacking, the show actually focus a lot on character's mentally stuck beneath it, one of them is loneliness.
Yes, I watched all seasons, love it and have re-watched it like 3-4 times!

Similar situation. Same age, work from home. Rarely any conversations.

No friends left or anyone to hang out with, though. Zero messages, for years. Trying to reconnect with people from the past is useless. Their lives have advanced. They have jobs, family, partners, children. I got stuck.

Tried volunteer work, courses, anything to make a new friend, but I'm incapable of it.

Hope you find a meaningful connection with someone. Gotta keep trying.

Thanks.
What you're saying is very relatable for me.
Good to know you tried things to make it better. Especially when you are mentally alone, it takes a lot to keep trying, and it's hardly anyone will gives you credit for trying.

I also tried things. I wouldn't say I tried everything, nor did I do my best. Anyway, at some point, I start to not believing.
That's one of the reasons I end up finding this website.

You do have friends though - that's more than many of us have.

Mate, hope your plan about moving to London going well!

 

[Lookingtoflyfree]

Mate, hope your plan about moving to London going well!

it feels like a distant dream, but hoping a visit will help. It's impossible to immigrate but I'd rather end up poor and walk into the ocean than spend another year where i am.