How to go about distancing yourself from people?

[Sphinxi]

Before I ctb, there are two people whom I need to distance myself from: both friends at my university.

One I am just friends with, we are fairly close, we see each other a few times a week and have a class together. He is very funny, and we read a lot of books together. He knows I use this forum, and that I am a suicidal person.
The other I am more than friends with, and I am more concerned about him. He cried when I told him about my suicidality. He has grown incredibly attached to me very quickly. I think he wants to marry me. I'm not sure how to push him away so that I can ctb in peace.
This advice wouldn't be very specific to me, as this situation isn't unique: how do I push people away so that I am free to ctb, and so they won't be harmed?

 

[Shadows From Hell]

Slowly decrease the time you spend with them and talking on the phone with them. Every other day, increase the time longer. They should start getting used to the lack in communication they have with you.

As far as harming them, if you're talking about the breakdown or sadness they will feel when you ctb, that will be inevitable. It's going to happen.

 

[Sphinxi]

As far as harming them, if you're talking about the breakdown or sadness they will feel when you ctb, that will be inevitable. It's going to happen.

I appreciate the advice. I know it will hurt to some extent, but I am just trying to minimize it over the next week or so. Maybe I could lash out at them?

 

[Shadows From Hell]

I appreciate the advice. I know it will hurt to some extent, but I am just trying to minimize it over the next week or so. Maybe I could lash out at them?

Lashing out at them will just turn them against you. You want them to remember you for who you were, not the asshole you suddenly turned into before you took your own life.

 

[singingcrow]

one of the people i want to distance myself from most is someone i met on this forum (which probably sounds weird.)
i don't want to negatively affect them, because I believe recovery for them is still possible.
distancing yourself from people you care about is hard. i haven't figured out how to do it yet either.
do you think you could ever stay for the friend you think wants to marry you? or are you very set on ctb

 

[Warum]

be a terrible person. it's the only way, making someone dislike you a lot is the best way of reducing their grief over you. lash out quick, be unreasonable and ghost a lot.

 

[ForgetIExist]

Before I ctb, there are two people whom I need to distance myself from: both friends at my university.

One I am just friends with, we are fairly close, we see each other a few times a week and have a class together. He is very funny, and we read a lot of books together. He knows I use this forum, and that I am a suicidal person.
The other I am more than friends with, and I am more concerned about him. He cried when I told him about my suicidality. He has grown incredibly attached to me very quickly. I think he wants to marry me. I'm not sure how to push him away so that I can ctb in peace.
This advice wouldn't be very specific to me, as this situation isn't unique: how do I push people away so that I am free to ctb, and so they won't be harmed?

Children are taught in schools that if a depressed/suicidal person begins to self isolate, that may be a sign that they are planning to commit. Don't push your friends away. From a purely selfish standpoint, that would make you look more suspicious. It's hard to give advice without knowing how you plan to ctb, but I would just try to ctb when you know you will be alone/ unbothered for an extended period of time.

 

[Warum]

Children are taught in schools that if a depressed/suicidal person begins to self isolate, that may be a sign that they are planning to commit. Don't push your friends away. From a purely selfish standpoint, that would make you look more suspicious. It's hard to give advice without knowing how you plan to ctb, but I would just try to ctb when you know you will be alone/ unbothered for an extended period of time.

that depends on *how* you do it. there is a difference between isolating yourself and being a piece of shit to everyone around you. while that is also a sign, many are not mature /resilient enough to handle that

 

[ForgetIExist]

that depends on *how* you do it. there is a difference between isolating yourself and being a piece of shit to everyone around you. while that is also a sign, many are not mature /resilient enough to handle that

That's true. I guess it depends on how their final interactions with there friends to be.