Help How do I improve my life? Like at jobs, speaking, and just overall.

[LastNite]

For context I dropped out at 16 after I tried to kill myself. I still have no job and no job experience. I plan to get GED first, Im just so down and unsure what job would accept me or what job I would like to work at. I want to move out of my parents home. Right now Im not financially stable.

Ive always thought I want to die but Ive been thinking of giving it a try. I want to try to live and see if I can actually improve.
I have fucked up social anxiety. I barely talk to people. My social skills are beyond fucked. But here's the thing If Im "forced" to talk then I do slightly good and my fear goes away.
Like for example when I was in school I always had a fear of asking the teacher about something relating to the subject but If I really really need to then I just force myself and it kinda works out.

What job would a person like me get? Im interested in driving I still go no license but again I plan to do all of that soon hopefully. I looked on indeed for like amazon/usps but jeff bezos fucked me over. there is none. All I saw was Amazon flex (basically doordash). U drive your own car and pay your own gas.

If anyone has any experience like me and how u improved please share it much love <3

 

[CC123]

A thing to consider is starting a gentle exercise program.
Maybe walking a few blocks a day at a time convenient for you.
Start getting some natural dopamines in your system.
Might help you see and think about things more positively.
Good luck.
We'll be rooting for you.

 

[U. A.]

My social skills are beyond fucked. But here's the thing If Im "forced" to talk then I do slightly good and my fear goes away.

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[LastNite]

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Thank you for the great advice. Tbh you're right. I am overthinking it. I am doing what you said. Ive been trying to be more social nowadays. In a couple days or in a week I'll be going out to learn driving. I want to get my driver license first then get my GED which wouldnt be that hard since I know a lot already. I took some practice tests and surprisingly I didnt do bad at all. It'll take me 2-3 weeks max to get a GED (thats the estimate I was given). Im trying to find a hobby to get into so I can be more social with people. I cant go to bars tho still under 21. But really thank you for the advice and reassurance!

 

[stillmirenai]

I'm quite socially anxious as well, and like others have said, baby steps are important. Maybe try to find something low risk, low commitment, but active enough that you don't still feel like you're rotting, just someplace else. It's hard to explain, but I hope you understand. You can reply to me if you need a better explanation, no problem.

Also, try to be confident, even just a small tiny bit. I couldn't tell you why, but people tend to follow your "flow" if you're sure of what you say and do.

Most importantly, remember to take care of yourself. You're taking a big step by realizing you want change and by trying to change, and naturally, it might feel unfamiliar and scary, so don't push yourself.

I believe in you.

 

[LastNite]

I'm quite socially anxious as well, and like others have said, baby steps are important. Maybe try to find something low risk, low commitment, but active enough that you don't still feel like you're rotting, just someplace else. It's hard to explain, but I hope you understand. You can reply to me if you need a better explanation, no problem.

Also, try to be confident, even just a small tiny bit. I couldn't tell you why, but people tend to follow your "flow" if you're sure of what you say and do.

Most importantly, remember to take care of yourself. You're taking a big step by realizing you want change and by trying to change, and naturally, it might feel unfamiliar and scary, so don't push yourself.

I believe in you.

Thank you. I dont got much to say but I get what youre saying and I appreciate that advice.

 

[timf]

If you want to improve speaking ability there is an organization called toastmasters where people practice with each other to improve their skills.

 

[apooka]

i think it's super good that you're trying to better your life! i agree w UA, it's important to look at what's in front of you currently. although it can be good to look at the bigger picture, it can be really daunting and scary. ik i find it that way . i find that exercise can be really good in making you feel better and also making friends! idk how accessible a gym is to you, but when i used to go to the gym, i felt like i was in a very good place emotionally. i think its something to do with the physicality of it, idrk tho. also, in gyms people tend to be really nice and will just approach you to help occasionally. this honestly is kinda scary but i think it would be good to help you w your social skills. if gyms aren't accessible, maybe try bouldering or running?

also i think that delivery driving once you do get your license could be quite good bc it kinda forces you to practice socialising, but also you can keep it limited if you wish (like talking to the ppl you're picking the food up from/dropping off to).

wishing the best for you & good luck!

 

[nocatwaslost]

Don't have much to add except hats off to you for trying. Maybe one advice I can give is to learn to deal with failures and mistakes, but not see them in a negative light but as something to learn from. Not sure how it is called in English, but something like positive error culture would be a rough translation. All the best to you