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snooperdooper

snooperdooper

Student
Jan 27, 2024
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how are u supposed to make friends? I had a "friend group" that lasted like a week and just today it was like officially called off cause I unfriended all of them cause I was the only one talking and initiating conversation. Now I'm back to this one friend who's nice but like I want more people to talk to. How am I supposed to find more friends? It feels like a stroke of luck that I even got into that friend group and once again I was stuck on the outs. I am so tired of being lonely. How are u supposed to make friends?
 
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InversedShadow

InversedShadow

Experienced
Dec 28, 2023
271
Honestly, the best way to go about it is just finding the right people, so yeah.. it's rather luck based, but I bet there are people who actually also don't have friends to talk to or will be friendly enough to talk on their own; I can tell how much of a pain that is to be the one to initiate conversations though.
 
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AtreusMacabre

AtreusMacabre

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Sep 4, 2024
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I would ideally prefer to just get rid of the part of my brain that craves social connection, schizoid-style (no offense to those who are suffering from the more extreme variants of schizoid personality disorder) or let's say, like monks and some neurodivergent individuals. Not rely on anything external for my internal peace, not depending on others for my satisfaction. But that is unrealistic (for now), so my best bet is to explore, get involved in public discussions about stuff I am interested in or that I closely identify with, but IDK- I'm struggling with the same, and fictional escapism is no longer very helpful, to say the least. At the same time, conversation with most people drains me, conversations about pointless and boring stuff, and so I do not have the liberty to be selective, but is that too much to ask for in this world with over 8 billion people?! I believe however that this luck-based phenomenon can be quantified and an algorithm developed to match individuals based on similarities, on every level, and a probability of them finding the company of the other fulfilling and enriching, but I currently lack the knowledge to find or develop any such thing, so just be yourself and put yourself out there and all those cliches, I guess. Best of luck!
 
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Hvergelmir

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May 5, 2024
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Engage in something - anything you find valuable. Connect with people doing the same thing.
In my experience friendship founded on loneliness or shared weakness is poor and transient.

It's very much a game of chance. So play often, and with low stakes.
 
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user938838383335

Nothing
Dec 29, 2024
159
Wanna talk on discord.. I'm also friendless. I'm autistic 25F from poland
 
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AtreusMacabre

AtreusMacabre

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Sep 4, 2024
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Wanna talk on discord.. I'm also friendless. I'm autistic 25F from poland
I support this idea! As an autistic and bipolar individual myself, this should be a great opportunity for like-minded neurodivergent individuals to socialize.
 
snooperdooper

snooperdooper

Student
Jan 27, 2024
151
Engage in something - anything you find valuable. Connect with people doing the same thing.
In my experience friendship founded on loneliness or shared weakness is poor and transient.

It's very much a game of chance. So play often, and with low stakes.
I'm worried with that I'd be making friends because of that specific interest when I want them as like more broadly everything friends. Also, the interests I have don't really have any sorts of places to meet people my age. I play survivor online reality games and I met a lot of friends from there but I'm not joking when I say they're all 30 years old. Same with jigsaw puzzles which I also like. Am I just being pessimistic? Where do I find friends who like horror? trans friends? Agh
 
trying ungracefully

trying ungracefully

Student
Jun 11, 2025
106
Can you get bumble bff? You can search for group interests on there to meet up with people or match with people one on one. I tried it but got too anxious but I was able to have some nice convos before I deleted it.
 
nocatwaslost

nocatwaslost

free hugs
Dec 7, 2024
54
I would ideally prefer to just get rid of the part of my brain that craves social connection, schizoid-style (no offense to those who are suffering from the more extreme variants of schizoid personality disorder) or let's say, like monks and some neurodivergent individuals. Not rely on anything external for my internal peace, not depending on others for my satisfaction. But that is unrealistic (for now), so my best bet is to explore, get involved in public discussions about stuff I am interested in or that I closely identify with, but IDK- I'm struggling with the same, and fictional escapism is no longer very helpful, to say the least. At the same time, conversation with most people drains me, conversations about pointless and boring stuff, and so I do not have the liberty to be selective, but is that too much to ask for in this world with over 8 billion people?! I believe however that this luck-based phenomenon can be quantified and an algorithm developed to match individuals based on similarities, on every level, and a probability of them finding the company of the other fulfilling and enriching, but I currently lack the knowledge to find or develop any such thing, so just be yourself and put yourself out there and all those cliches, I guess. Best of luck!
I can only agree with the part of how annoyed I am about all the pointless and superficial topics. It's so icky and I despise it. It feels so hard to find people to connect to and on a deeper level. Also if you are alone it's even harder because once you are a in some social groups or cliques you get to know more people because they know people etc. But if you're not into one of them, you're basically fucked
 
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