Venting How are you handling overweight / obesity?

[BlueberryDeer]

I just tried the weight balance and I'm currently in 110 kg / 242 lbs, from 1.74m / 5'8" ft tall. I know that in recent years is an intense movement for Body positivity but being obese makes me a lot of negative thoughts and shame.
Yes, I could start eating better and going to gym, but the lack of spark for the first step is the main issue.
I'm planning to start some stretching exercises and start to walking more... However... Since I'm struggling with depression and sloth issues, I fear I gain more and more weight and become the thing I always have pity : the people on the reality programs with extreme obesity problems.
And being overweight triggers a severe self disgust about my body. I feel like an ugly blob. Sure, I'm 'intelligent' for some topics, but unable to control the mouth...

 

[frightful-venison]

I think that in order to reach something like my 600 lb life you have to have a binge eating disorder. I hate that we live in a society that makes people feel ashamed of their weight like this.

In terms of first steps, just find something that you don't hate. If you like music then a dance party in your room, or just a short walk around the block or something. Baby steps.

Regular exercise helps with depression. I believe it. The endorphins I get when playing the one and only sport I love or enjoy are pretty awesome. I wish I could keep doing it.

 

[Lady_V]

I used to be similar to your body weight op. I dropped over 100lbs just walking and being too lazy to go to the store and buy food. The walking (at least 15 min daily) helped me drop the 1st 80lbs, the dieting came later.
I currently have a full-blown ED, but that 100 I lost 3 years ago was me doing it naturally and healthily.

 

[Mira Gaga]

I just tried the weight balance and I'm currently in 110 kg / 242 lbs, from 1.74m / 5'8" ft tall. I know that in recent years is an intense movement for Body positivity but being obese makes me a lot of negative thoughts and shame.
Yes, I could start eating better and going to gym, but the lack of spark for the first step is the main issue.
I'm planning to start some stretching exercises and start to walking more... However... Since I'm struggling with depression and sloth issues, I fear I gain more and more weight and become the thing I always have pity : the people on the reality programs with extreme obesity problems.
And being overweight triggers a severe self disgust about my body. I feel like an ugly blob. Sure, I'm 'intelligent' for some topics, but unable to control the mouth...

Being respectful here, you don't need to give a fuck. As long as it isn't a really bad health issue, you don't need to give a fuck about others opinions, ever. I am 5 foot 2, and I am 120 kg. And I just don't give a fuck anymore. I eat/binge drink/get high so my emotions go fuck themselves lmao

 

[yesi]

What helped me was;

Ultimately you have to be ready to commit (haha) to it.
Diet is the most important thing, more than exercise.

Walking is great, get yourself a smart watch you can probably use your phone as well, to track your steps and targets. I found buying a smart watch made me commit more after spending that money.

Careful about over walking, you can get get stress injuries, I'm talking the stage if you're walking for a straight 2-3 hours a day.

Stretching is really good, it helps strengthen core muscles, look at things like the McGill Big 3, don't worry if it takes time until you can manage to do them.

About eating, I'd strongly recommend tracking calories and weighing your food so you have a real idea of what you're eating, do this consistently for several months then you'll know instinctively how much you're eating.

Track or write down everything that you eat, absolutely everything however small, that way you can look at your list and reflect on how much snacking you did for example.

You can post your progress here so we can cheer you on, when you're ready.

 

[Forever Sleep]

I'm going to need to do something about my weight soon. I rarely leave the house- I work from home. So, it's not like I have the embarassment of inflicting my appearance on others. But, I still hate it. I look disgusting. Plus, maybe more significantly, I feel shit too. My job can occassionally be physical and, it's so much harder now. Everything pretty much is.

I'm not designed to be this weight put simply. I actually don't think I have the frame or constitution to be very slim either. I lost loads of weight once but felt constantly cold. My periods stopped (which was amazing.) But, I'm way too far the other way now. I get back ache when I stand. No doubt because my bloated belly is pulling down on my spine.

Food is one of the last things in life I get pleasure from so realistically- it's unlikely I'll make very big steps to alter my diet. I'll have to do something though. I used to exercise every day so- I think that needs to come back. Even if in a smaller way. I just need to make an effort to feel better really.

I'm with you though. It's so difficult and, it makes me resentful too. We suffer either way effectively- we limit food and suffer or we eat, gain weight and suffer. Exercise can be deeply unpleasant to do but, we suffer if we don't. I pretty much hate that we haven't evolved to manage our unhealthy lifestyles in a more efficient way.

 

[BeautifullyDumb]

All movements helps even if it's minimum, you got this.

vent, sort of:

I'm chubby/overweight (66-68kg 159cm. Goal is 30-40kg).
Honestly I'm not taking it very well, I cope by binging, starving and purging. Some days I'll spend days not eating, another days I'll eat up to 5-10k calories and it makes me feel like shit. It's like my life revolves around my weight, calories and appearence. If I weight less? Good, maybe I can have a little reward. If I went up? I'll go into a spiral: cry, binge, starve, puke, try to work out as much as possible, etc.
Yes, I may have started at 90-99kg, lost " a lot of weight" but I don't think I'll ever feel pretty/ comforting in my own skin until I reach my body goals (if I don't kms first that is).

So yeah I definitely feel you, I know it's rough, but nothing is impossible if you're really want it. It doesn't matter how many times you fall back, what matters is that you keep going .

 

[mjolnir]

Well, I'm a nutritionist (although I'm not currently practicing due to psychological issues), I can help you. In general terms, I could say that you need to find some physical activity that you enjoy. Saying that you should eat healthily is vague, so in a more tangible way, I believe that some practical measures can help: identify the environmental triggers that interfere with food control;

Prepare and start meals by filling half your plate with vegetables and lean proteins, which will also help with satiety; include fiber (oat flakes, psyllium, fruits daily). Healthy weight loss happens gradually, and weight fluctuations are normal. Doing better than you did yesterday is already progress, and most people take time to change habits. Don't beat yourself up about it. If you need other advice, you can talk to me privately.