Discussion Have you made friends here?

[Jadotine]

I am very curious about the community. I see that there are a lot of people who know each other here and I've always been curious as to how many people actually created bonds on SaSu

I love how supportive the community has been to me, and I would be lying if I was not trying to appeal to fit in better (I've always had trouble being "interesting" or "liked" in a group setting). Making friends is ultimately not my end goal here, but its always fun when you meet people that genuinely interest you and have the same vibes as you do

I've seen from some threads that there were also people that looked for genuine friendships, so I've been wondering if being on SaSu has helped at any point?

If any of you would like to share stories of meeting people here, I would absolutely love to hear them!

 

[NearlyIrrelevantCake]

I'm not here to make friends.

Over the years I've been here, several people have DM'd me trying to have convos and I immediately shut them down and tell them bluntly that I have no desire to chat, make friends, be social. I'm not angry or a dick about it, but I am clear and upfront and it avoids wasting their time and mine.

 

[Dark Moon]

No, I have not made any friends but then I haven't really attempted to make any and I don't think I'm particularly interesting. I mainly joined for suicide methods.

 

[Dejected 55]

I've talked to a bunch of people, some only in posts... a few in chat... some who initiated contact with me in private and others I initiated contact.

For a while I was trying to find a suicide partner, but I've given up on that now too.

I agree with @NearlyIrrelevantCake in that I didn't come here to make friends. I came here to figure out how to die. I've had good discussions and talked with many friendly people... but I haven't made any friends in the sense of what I consider that word to mean.

 

[sweetdrowning]

I don't need to make friends, but it is nice to have someone to talk to who understands that I just want peace. I don't think I'm a good thing to be friends with, probably, but I still try.

 

[mjolnir]

I consider some people I've interacted with in topics or other posts as friends, and I imagine some of them feel the same way about me.

 

[Aunty_Seuss]

I've just joined here, I'd like to maybe talk with others to see what they believe, it's quite hard to find people comfortable talking about CTB IRL so here is our best bet

 

[Arvayn]

Yes, I did make one close friend, but it turned sour within about a month. Seeing as I think they have kept our relations anonymous, I will not elaborate.

I think people should be mindful about making friends here. It is a suicide forum; it is very likely that they are going to kill or at least harm themselves. Attachment can be very painful because of that.
There's also a lot of very traumatized people, and you'd be walking on eggshells around them so as to not trigger their trauma.

 

[LittleSunshine]

Yes, a few I've been in daily contact with for months. They've largely helped me climb back out of the darkness again. I'm eternally grateful to them!

 

[accountnamerequired]

I don't have any friends anywhere lol

 

[violetforever]

no (i literally just joined tho) and i never planned for that when i decided to make an acc. i think it would ruin the experience of the forum. i'm as personal and anonymous as i'd like to be in my posts.

 

[gnarly]

Yes tho I have no clue if they would consider me best friends. But I'm always willing to reach out and talk to others here because this place allows me to truly be myself. I had a friend who CTB and he was an amazing person. I would consider him a great friend of mine. I'd even call him my best friend even if we never truly knew each other for that long before he kicked the bucket. After all it's not about the time you've spent with someone that makes them a great friend. It's the stories you shared between one another.

 

[NonEssential]

I made one who I exchange memes with often, you know who you are.

 

[ScaredCutter]

no. i suck at keeping friends and i feel extremely guilty about having friends because, i love my boyfriend a lot and i only need him. i dont want friends to takw my attention away from him. im also very awkward and selective in what i talk about and say.

i dont mind people replying to threads i post and statuses i make, i feel understood here. one of them is really kind and helped me realised things about me.

 

[EternalShore]

close if we count those who have passed away~ just friends otherwise~ :)

 

[iamanavalanche]

ive met my best friend on here :) @DeadNotSleeping

 

[Forever Sleep]

Yes. I've PM'd with a few people. Some on a regular basis to the extent, I feel we know enough about one another and care enough about one another to consider them a friend.

It wasn't my original intention to look for friends here. I came for methods initially. Joined up for the interesting conversations going on. But, it's been nice to get to know one or two people a little better.

I don't think I've ever reached out first. I'm not sure really. The experience tends to vary too. Sometimes it's a flurry of conversation that just eventually drops off. Some people, we talk less but regularly check in on one another and some, we always seem to find something to chat about.

It has a tragic side too of course. Someone who I felt was beginning to be a friend suicided a couple of years back. I still think about them occassionally. A couple of other people left the forum. So- there's that element too I think. You have to be prepared that they or you might go. At least we know that from the start though.

 

[Unlucky777]

Yeah I've made one friend here.

For the longest time, at least for the past few years that I've been going through the dark night of the soul, I felt absolutely disconnected from myself and others. It was very difficult to relate to people but coming here I feel connected to people because we are all struggling with the same thing.

I like the community here. Even though I'm not actively looking to CTB right now I'm down to meet new people here and make more new friends.

 

[amor.dor]

I haven't been here long, so I haven't even had time. I'm still getting to know people, but some are really nice. As for friends, I really only have a certain English person who says "bottle of water".
But my ex had been a part of here long before me, and I'm not sure if it's a good idea to get attached to someone here, considering many people only pass through briefly and catch the bus.

 

[Unlucky777]

I made one who I exchange memes with often, you know who you are.

Those friends that you can exchange memes with are the best. Absolutely love those friends haha.

I haven't been here long, so I haven't even had time. I'm still getting to know people, but some are really nice. As for friends, I really only have a certain English person who says "bottle of water".
But my ex had been a part of here long before me, and I'm not sure if it's a good idea to get attached to someone here, considering many people only pass through briefly and catch the bus.

Yeah I was thinking the same thing, many people CTB and it just adds a potential loss in the future. IDK though I'm just gonna go with the flow I suppose. I didn't come here with the intent to make friends but I'm also not going to shut myself out if say I just naturally start becoming friends with people that's fine also but yeah I'm aware that people I may get close to might CTB

 

[FoxSauce]

Actually yeah 2 of em here and there cool af

Im open for more if possible

 

[sadidiot0328]

I would like to, but Im a bit nervous about approaching people first. Still working up the courage to post in the friend making thread

 

[Spite]

I have made a couple of friends here. I'm very thankful for them. I've always struggled with connecting with most people both IRL and online, so, the friends I have made here I really appreciate. <3

 

[GodzillasBiggestFan]

not yet but maybe it would be good to have friends who understand.

 

[corpse]

I've found a really good friend here and I don't know what I would do without them.

 

[amor.dor]

1 month later, I come back here. I ended up making good friends, but I regret it a little, because if I ever leave, they'll miss me. Still, it's good to be able to exchange messages where we help each other... it really is a paradox... bittersweet...

 

[sla_porra22]

Not yet. I don't really know how to make friends here, but I'd like to. The people here always seem very nice

 

[vitbar]

There are a few I feel a connection with and like to think they feel the same. Beyond that I have reached out to some privately, but with little success. The exception has since has killed herself.

 

[gottacheckout]

I was naturally friendly when I was young. Even when my mental illnesses started I was able to fight through it to make friends. Slowly I stopped making friends, I still could but I just lost any motivation to. Then I started helping people, building off road vehicles and motorcycles. We all lived within a couple hours from each other. Then the internet came to be. I found a way to help others without the personal contact. During this time my state was trying to decide whether they wanted to legalize death with dignity. I had a purpose and it lasted years. 94 we passed it but it was taken to court again so in 97 it came up again. This time we passed it again and it stuck. There was 4 or 5 years of intense activity. I was still able to tolerate people for a few years and then my antisocial issues took over. My life turned dark, I turned dark. I just wanted to die and the feeling was stronger then ever. I was wallowing in a cesspool of self lothing. I had no doubt that I would never be able to find my way out except by suicide.

During this time I found a purpose but I failed, I just wasn't able to help someone. I was devastated but that person left me a lifeline, I just had to find it and follow it's path. I wandered around like a blind man in the dark until someone flipped the light switch, I stayed back and watched others interactions until I felt comfortable enough to join. It was ok at first but my views just didn't match up with most of the group.

Some years later and I found myself stuck in my life. I wasn't happy and I had to buy another method. This lead to a downward spiral and I couldn't see a way out. One night while I was planning an exit from this life I came upon Lost All Hope and it led me here. A couple months and I'm making an account still thinking I'll be ctb soon. Then my doctor made a minor change to my meds and I actually felt better. I made sure to research what I could and couldn't say and the philosophy of the site. Once I felt comfortable I started reaching out in the threads offering an ear if they want to talk. Then the next step was on them, I didn't want to appear to be pushing. A surprising number of people just wanted to be heard, they feel irl that they have no voice.

It really amazes me the accepting nature of most people here. I'm definitely in a significant minority here but I have never felt like that is a problem, sometimes the younger members need to lend me a hand with technology.

I've made friendly acquaintances here, I appreciate everyone of them. But I have definitely made relationships that I consider friendships. How those people feel I just can't say.