NSFW First day of the year. By the end of this year I should lose my virginity

[estadiare]

a girl wanted me and I couldn't get it up lmaoo
I know it doesn't really matter but it still stings

 

[ghosted1]

I just want to warn you, losing your virginity for loneliness will worsen things. When you have no connection, it doesn't feel as special and you might feel used afterwards. But if you're losing it because at least you know what it feels like... just the act in itself, it should be okay. Good luck out there.

 

[Jisatsu]

If what you want is connection, sex isn't some unknown locked achievement. People find it all the time once they actually start looking in the right places instead of assuming they're disqualified. The pain you're describing isn't proof you're failing, it's proof you want closeness and I'm positive if you find the right person they'll gladly accept you.

 

[U. A.]

Everyone responding is wasting their sympathy given OP thinks people in happy relationships (including children) deserve to die.

 

[rs929]

Everyone responding is wasting their sympathy given OP thinks people in happy relationships (including children) deserve to die.

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I disagree. Even angry people deserve sympathy in a suicide forum.

 

[Bootleg Astolfo]

Is it gay if you smash the homie just because he's about to become a supreme gentleman

 

[persepexa]

Trust me sex isn't all that. A random hookup can be fun at times but it's much better with someone you care about. It makes every aspect of it better. But it sounds to me like you are linking your sense of self-worth to your ability to have sex. I did it for years. I just wanted to prove to myself and others I was desirable and now I have a weird relationship with sex and sometimes I struggle to perform. I wish I could go back and wait to have sex with someone meaningful. Please try and reframe your thoughts about sex.

 

[sanctionedusage]

sa survivor clocking in (). the aforementioned message was very jarring and strange. there's really no reason to be so aggressive on a thread about a guy talking about being a virgin, because he didn't make any hints towards wanting to sa someone. people obv know that rape is bad and that you should only have sex consensually, so saying "i hope you don't become a rapist just to have sex" involves making a lot of moves in your head to get there.

i think people on sasu are prone to crazy yap sometimes. even when people can be good intentioned they can also just say things that are off the cuff.

exactly my point lmao

amazing how people took my comment as being unaware of sexual assault and rape existing. besides experiencing serial csa and adult sa, i also do in fact live on planet earth and have eyes + basic literacy. i also have the common sense to know the vast majority of virgins on sasu are not rapists and its not okay to imply they'd rape someone just because they said they want to have sex one day.

 

[dejaentendu]

As someone who didn't have sex until 18, make sure that it's with someone you love and feel strongly for. Doing otherwise might make you feel worse and make the act you've envisioned to be great just feel gross. I understand the feelings of loneliness and missing out, mostly with other forms of touch such as kissing and cuddling but sexual things as well. This isn't worth taking your life over. I hope whatever you choose to do goes well :)

 

[Abort!]

I disagree. Even angry people deserve sympathy in a suicide forum.

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Withdrawing empathy because someone expresses rage doesn't make anyone safer. It just drives people further into isolation.