Discussion Feeling sorry for children

[CatAstro.Fee]

This is kind of a vent but also something I just want to talk to others about. Ideas, thoughts.
I saw someone mention something similar before and time and time again, people talk about having a child in spirit but never wanting to bring a child to this earth for their sake and I completely agree.

I would love to have a kid, but I don't want them to suffer how I did or know the horrors of world, the truth. It makes me sad when I see little kids, especially toddlers who are happy and laughing about whatever, because I already know they're gonna suffer, whether it's from their own family or cruelty of children from school, adults, finding out the world is not so kind and the things we have are built on death and ongoing awful things that still get done today.

I just want them to be happy and get the world and treatment they deserve. Maybe I will adopt, but I don't know if I will ever have money to even support another human being, with the economy now. I don't know. I don't know. I wish people would stop having kids at least until things start looking up, I've had people argue with me it's their right but also, that is a person that's life can be total shit if born to the wrong people or shit luck they get from just existing, not even getting started on environment getting extreme from toxins being put into the earth.

It is a right, but children are their own people too, they deserve the best. I've met too many people that have gone through similar things to me that no one should ever have to, trauma from their own family. Why. Parents should be loving and good examples. There's too many that have not done the work to undo generational trauma or educate themselves. Jesus.

I just remembered a lot of children are being neglected by being put on technology at an early age, I've seen it, I've been brought up that way, it fucked me up and I see other kids consuming absolute trash and sexual things and they have no clue and their parents just want a break and I understand but please, give them something tangible, please look after them. Oh god, I wish my parents had mercy not to have me or the very least not to neglect me and put me in real life things other kids were.

 

[Let Me Go]

I used to want kids but now the most loving thing I do is just not create them in the first place. I think more and more people do realize how unaffordable it is so they're choosing less or none. Imo children should only be born out of love not selfishness impulsiveness survival or financial reasons. I don't want them as another cog in the machine, to bring an innocent into this reality/world/timeline now, full of lies, deceit, pain, violence, greed, falsity. Knowing what I know I just don't have the heart to do it to them.

 

[darksouls]

when I was a child myself, I already knew that I did not want to bring children into this sick world

 

[Forever Sleep]

I tend to feel that too. There are young families around me and it's nice to hear them laughing and playing. I also wonder/ worry if it will stay like that though. It's this hope that things will turn out ok for them but, fear that thry won't.

I'm not sure it would be good to meet my friends who are parents now. I'm so anti-natilist, I think some of it may slip out. It's hard making small talk even with my own parents. I spend so much of each day feeling resentful that I was born and that I feel stuck in this life- for now.

 

[Ligottian]

If I was on some kind of deathbed today and was asked what I though was the best thing in my life I had ever done, the answer would be easy....I was never a party to bringing another human into this world.

 

[Seaofsleep]

Yep, one of the reasons I had to leave my job as a childcare practitioner, even though I enjoyed working with children I couldn't get passed these same thoughts.

 

[LastDayOnEarth]

I used to want kids but since I'm planning of killing myself before I reach my mid 30s it's pointless

 

[bl33ding_heart]

This is kind of a vent but also something I just want to talk to others about. Ideas, thoughts.
I saw someone mention something similar before and time and time again, people talk about having a child in spirit but never wanting to bring a child to this earth for their sake and I completely agree.

I would love to have a kid, but I don't want them to suffer how I did or know the horrors of world, the truth. It makes me sad when I see little kids, especially toddlers who are happy and laughing about whatever, because I already know they're gonna suffer, whether it's from their own family or cruelty of children from school, adults, finding out the world is not so kind and the things we have are built on death and ongoing awful things that still get done today.

I just want them to be happy and get the world and treatment they deserve. Maybe I will adopt, but I don't know if I will ever have money to even support another human being, with the economy now. I don't know. I don't know. I wish people would stop having kids at least until things start looking up, I've had people argue with me it's their right but also, that is a person that's life can be total shit if born to the wrong people or shit luck they get from just existing, not even getting started on environment getting extreme from toxins being put into the earth.

It is a right, but children are their own people too, they deserve the best. I've met too many people that have gone through similar things to me that no one should ever have to, trauma from their own family. Why. Parents should be loving and good examples. There's too many that have not done the work to undo generational trauma or educate themselves. Jesus.

I just remembered a lot of children are being neglected by being put on technology at an early age, I've seen it, I've been brought up that way, it fucked me up and I see other kids consuming absolute trash and sexual things and they have no clue and their parents just want a break and I understand but please, give them something tangible, please look after them. Oh god, I wish my parents had mercy not to have me or the very least not to neglect me and put me in real life things other kids were.

I don't wanna have kids, but at the same time I have the urge to have a child and give them all of the love and care I never got growing up. If I'm alive in the future I might adopt and try to give the child I have the best life I could possibly offer.

 

[EternalShore]

I was playing with a kid in a pool once in like 9th grade~ He was telling me about how he was upset about how he got delayed a year in school from his friends because of when he was born, so he was really excited to get into it after waiting so long~ I felt like warning him about how much worse it was going to get, but I didn't~

I feel sad when I see kids on technology all day too~ :( it's so awful~ :( and exposing them to so much bad stuff at such a young age~ >_< I've seen kids in kindergarten talk about South Park~ D: I can't even watch that as an adult because of how awful it is! >_< I hope to be a good mother one day...

Yep, one of the reasons I had to leave my job as a childcare practitioner, even though I enjoyed working with children I couldn't get passed these same thoughts.

I'm sorry you felt that way about it so you had to leave your job~ :( It's neat because in those positions, you can be 1 of the few positive influences on their lives, when the world is just out there to poison and corrupt them~ :) Unfortunately, I'm too submissive to be able to actually manage their desires to run rampant, especially given the neglect that many of them experience elsewhere but alas~ :(

 

[OvercastingClouds]

I have no interest in having children but yeah, things are getting more rough and people are arguably saying it's unethical to be having children right now given the current state of the world

Doesn't help that parents are just giving their kids technology at an early age and being exposed to things they shouldn't take be seeing. Not only is their attention span going to be fried but the content they're ingesting is a cause for concern with how problematic it is that they're getting easy access to nsfw content without supervision. Plus there's a lot more children infiltrating adult spaces which is concerning due to predators (also the lack of children spaces on the internet now).

The environment of the world is declining, animal populations decreasing and dying, global warming making the earth hotter each year, climate change as weather is getting worse. Due to the high population of humans on earth, there isn't enough materials and stuff that can sustain each person comfortably, it's more expensive to live now than before. We have disgusting and people who lack empathy as world leaders, this world values the rich more than the less fortunate.

Future seems too grim to raise kids. Its only a matter of time before a big deal happens, whether it be the consequences of human pullution finally having effect where people start to care, crisis of lack of materials because we've used most of them up, food crisis, housing crisis (already happening), mass animal extinction, etc.

If people choose to have kids now, I won't comment on it or anything but I can only wonder if they truly thought it out, can afford to raise them properly, aren't setting them up behind screens, etc. I'm a little worried for the next generation honestly, gen z are only just becoming adults and things are already looking bad

 

[davidtorez]

This is kind of a vent but also something I just want to talk to others about. Ideas, thoughts.
I saw someone mention something similar before and time and time again, people talk about having a child in spirit but never wanting to bring a child to this earth for their sake and I completely agree.

I would love to have a kid, but I don't want them to suffer how I did or know the horrors of world, the truth. It makes me sad when I see little kids, especially toddlers who are happy and laughing about whatever, because I already know they're gonna suffer, whether it's from their own family or cruelty of children from school, adults, finding out the world is not so kind and the things we have are built on death and ongoing awful things that still get done today.

I just want them to be happy and get the world and treatment they deserve. Maybe I will adopt, but I don't know if I will ever have money to even support another human being, with the economy now. I don't know. I don't know. I wish people would stop having kids at least until things start looking up, I've had people argue with me it's their right but also, that is a person that's life can be total shit if born to the wrong people or shit luck they get from just existing, not even getting started on environment getting extreme from toxins being put into the earth.

It is a right, but children are their own people too, they deserve the best. I've met too many people that have gone through similar things to me that no one should ever have to, trauma from their own family. Why. Parents should be loving and good examples. There's too many that have not done the work to undo generational trauma or educate themselves. Jesus.

I just remembered a lot of children are being neglected by being put on technology at an early age, I've seen it, I've been brought up that way, it fucked me up and I see other kids consuming absolute trash and sexual things and they have no clue and their parents just want a break and I understand but please, give them something tangible, please look after them. Oh god, I wish my parents had mercy not to have me or the very least not to neglect me and put me in real life things other kids were.

You can always adopt a child and save a life instead of creating a life

If I was on some kind of deathbed today and was asked what I though was the best thing in my life I had ever done, the answer would be easy....I was never a party to bringing another human into this world.

Me too! I say the same thing