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onthefence

onthefence

Actually… sobbing on the floor
Dec 31, 2024
227
Hey my people- how do you stop your flashbacks? I have been cycling in n out for almost an hour. Please only give nondestructive methods- I have used most of the destructive ones and know they make me dissociate which kind of makes them stop but isn't helping in the long run.
 
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ForgottenAgain

ForgottenAgain

On the rollercoaster of sadness
Oct 17, 2023
1,141
I've been using positive conditioning for this and have had much less flashbacks the past 2 months. Maybe my method can work for you.

This process involves a dog clicker and a treat:
1. You sense a flashback is coming / it is occurring / it has just passed
2. Perform a "good behaviour action"
3. Right after performing it, press the clicker
4. Give yourself a treat

For step 2, a "good behaviour action" can be anything that you deem healthy/good for you that is low effort. For example: drinking a glass of water, washing your hands, breathing deeply 5 times, etc. Then, when you feel more capable, you can increase it to something that takes a bit longer that you'd feel more proud for doing. In my case that could be: reading 2 pages of a book, cleaning our dining table, dusting off a shelf, etc.

Performing an action that you deem is a good behaviour, whatever it is, will first work as a distraction and then, once you complete it, you'll hear the sound of the clicker and get a tasty reward. This will slowly replace the bad experience of the flashback with the good experience of performing an action you deem good and useful and be rewarded for that.

If you do it enough, the sound of the clicker itself will start being its own reward and help activate a sort of good memory loop of other times you did these good behaviours. That's how it is for me now. I use it even when I don't have flashbacks, when I do something good.

I recommend getting a clicker that wraps around your finger, that way you can keep it there without interfering with typing on keyboard and other activities.
I hope this helps.
 
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ebg

ebg

LOVE !
Sep 30, 2024
134
I came on here wondering about the same thing. I can't sleep. Anything seems better than lying down and trying to control your thoughts, that never works for me. I can't sleep and I have a midterm in 5 hours, I will go to Tim Hortons. LOVE !
 
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Tod

Tod

The main thing in life is to know your own mind.
Apr 20, 2024
41
Abusing my body but in a somewhat healthy way.
I walk for ours, just go running until close to collapse, climb smth,.... whatever yourself might enjoy in terms of exhausting your body to it's limit.
 
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Lookingtoflyfree

Lookingtoflyfree

Specialist
Jan 11, 2024
375
Moving enough to get endorphins - so a walk or half hour at the gym to the point where things 'kick in'. But that's incredibly impractical. I've tried meditation, making sure I'm not hungry, journaling - all of it is useless because I still have intrusive thoughts of multiple abuse incidents. It's gotten worse. Before I had lots of reasons to CTB but now, its feeling like my brain is going to be forever haunted.

I'm sorry for all of us dealing with this.
 
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