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dieingasap

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Apr 28, 2025
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Does drinking or smoking really helps?
I wanna give a try
 
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InevitableDeath

Already Dead
Jan 4, 2026
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Drinking and smoking will never let you down. Same as music and literature.

People, notsomuch.
 
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tonicer

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Nov 13, 2025
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For me it's gaming (especially the ultra violent ones like HalfSword) and anime (especially romantic ones like Kimi ni Todoke: From Me to You). I am allergic to alcohol and smoking is just nasty maybe pipe smoking since there are some tobaccos that smell good but still ew.
 
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Forveleth

I knew I forgot to do something when I was 15...
Mar 26, 2024
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Leaning on a harmful crutch does not make your life better. People who turn to some sort of drugs/alcohol for emotional comfort when depressed are very, very likely to turn into addicts. Addiction then adds another layer of misery to your life. Coming from an alcoholic, they help in the short term but in the long term make everything worse.
 
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InevitableDeath

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Jan 4, 2026
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Society is addicted to money, violence, vanity, illusions and delusion. They are the misery which drive people into escapism, comfort, brief respite.

I've been there and imho drugs/alcohol are far less damaging than the alternatives, if there even is an alternative available. I don't see much hope for the future for anyone really, and that's by design.

Most who are self-medicating have tried all society's fake cures and set goals, and realised they're all a crock of shit designed to keep them on the plantation.

Deaths of despair may be via drugs/alcohol, but they are because of enforced misery, violence, abuse and betrayals.
 
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ophelia1989

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Jan 6, 2026
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Drinking led to my SA. I had some amazing periods of sobriety but have had some recent awful relapses which led to me damaging relationships with those closest to me. I've been sober two weeks now, but after my last relapse—I felt so much guilt and shame and hopelessness I attempted. So do not use drinking to cope!

I am still massively depressed right now (am basically being babysat at my parents and it's terrible but a consequence of my actions). But things aren't as dark for now. I get to go back home to my husband in a week so the end is in sight.
 
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InevitableDeath

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Jan 4, 2026
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Drinking led to my SA. I had some amazing periods of sobriety but have had some recent awful relapses which led to me damaging relationships with those closest to me. I've been sober two weeks now, but after my last relapse—I felt so much guilt and shame and hopelessness I attempted. So do not use drinking to cope!

I am still massively depressed right now (am basically being babysat at my parents and it's terrible but a consequence of my actions). But things aren't as dark for now. I get to go back home to my husband in a week so the end is in sight.
Thing is, everyone's different. What works for some doesn't for others and vice versa.

Copes can be sobriety, social assimilation, booze, shopping, barfights, sex, consumerism, porn, self-delusion, illusions, fantasy, nature, nice walks in the park, nice chats with an expensive therapist, nice bottled water with fake friends, very loud music, ketamine, weed or mandy.

I try not to judge. Each to their own.
 
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