Discussion Do you think about your funeral?

[lunarpixels]

Hi, everyone. I have this odd question, but I wanna know your thoughts on it.
So, I'm new here and I have a weird interest in death and dying. Maybe it's because of my depression symptoms or whatever, but these thoughts really help me in a way. That being said, I'm thinking about what I want my funeral to look like, what I want everyone to wear, etc.

So, I'm thinking:

• brighter colors for the attire; too many people wear black at funerals, and I don't want them ruining my favorite color by thinking of a sad time with it on
• cremation would be better if I can donate body parts to science, but if I can't, bury me the witches' way to shake things up
• a playlist of my favorite songs will be on at the wake & funeral reception
• no affiliation with the 'church' that effed up my entire life, as they can kiss my little cold ass when I'm gone

I'm wondering if I should write all this down and stuff in case it happens soon. Do you guys have any certain plans you're thinking about regarding the arrangements?

 

[outrider567]

In my suicide notes, I instructed my stepmother no funeral for me

 

[FuneralCry]

I would prefer not to have a funeral at all, I don't wish to be remembered in any way, I just wish to be forgotten about like I never existed in the first place.

 

[Anonymus]

Yes, and it is very expensive. In fact today we have agreed with my mother not to be cremated after my father's experience (my sister still has the ashes at home after a month and is still asking where they should be deposited - there are paid and free options, but she has too many things in her head and does not clarify- ).

Now we have to see how long we have the right to use the family niche (they are not perpetual, you only have the right to use for a few decades and my mother's father died in the 1950's... by me that is about to expire his use, although we pay every year).

I wanted to go to the mass grave, but you also have to pay (if you are not homeless)... they will not be ruined, no, those who live on this business.

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Si, i és molt car. De fet avuí em convingut amb ma mare que no ens incinerin després de l'experiència del meu pare (la meva germana encara té les cendres a casa seva després d'un mes i encara està preguntant on s'han de dipositar -hi ha opcions de pagament i d'altres gratuïtes, però té masses coses al cap i no s'aclareix - ).

Ara em de veure fins quan tenim dret d'ús del nínxol familiar (no són pas perpetus, només tens dret d'ús durant unes décades i el pare de ma mare va morir als anys 50.. per mi que está a punt d'expirar el seu ús, tot i que paguem cada any).

Jo volía anar a la fossa comuna, però també has de pagar (si es que no ets un sense llar)... no s'arruïnaràn pas, no, els que visquin d'aquest negoci.

 

[Tartuffe]

All I will ask from mine is no one attends it. There will probably be people who consider me a friend despite never talking to me. So just family if they want to come

 

[LaVieEnRose]

Yes. But I try not to indulge those kinds of thoughts because they do more harm than good.

 

[Tartuffe]

Yes. But I try not to indulge those kinds of thoughts because they do more harm than good.

I got over it years ago. It's not my reason for leaving the planet

 

[SilentSadness]

The thought of having a funeral pains me, I've never liked them and they just seem to create unnecessary suffering. Ideally, no one would even notice I was gone.

 

[Gaga786]

If a funeral seems right to you then it is your choice. Personally, I would want people to have a feast at my funeral, sort of a celebration, including everyone from my past that have hurt me. To me it makes perfect sense that a nuisance has been removed from their lives, similar to a leach sucking the contents, and they should celebrate that. Thats how I always was to other people. Just worthless and a problem. Undoubtedly people would feel elated after hearing the news that im gone, so I might as well give them that. I know its part of my fantasy, but its just how I feel

 

[downndone2]

I don't want funeral, maybe memorial if anyone even wants to attend. I want to be cremated.

 

[AngelicPsychedelic]

Never really thought too much about it, but I think I'd like to be buried. It would be nice if people brought white roses to it, since it's my favorite flower, it would be something to remember me by too.

 

[RedKingdom]

In my note to my family, I specifically requested not to have a funeral because I didn't want people coming out of the woodworks acting like they give af now. Everyone would be better off if I just vanished from the world.

 

[Sparr0w]

set out my funeral plan in a note bc i wanna have a specifific funeral, kinda like urs in that its less doom and gloom. stuff like i want a sakura(/cherry) tree planted in my name (or over my body if possible)!

 

[lost-unfound]

I wish that people wouldn't have a funeral for me, but I'm not going to tell them not to if that's what they need for their own comfort. But I wish they wouldn't see it as a sad thing. I wish they could be happy for me knowing I did what's best for me and I'm better off gone.

 

[Mimi_]

I wish to be cremated. I don't want funeral, I never liked to draw attention on me. Only my family would attend, and they don't need it. I'm pretty sure my mom will be content with just my ashes. I already can imagine the scenery: her talking to "me" during hours about meaningless things. Even in death, she won't give me peace with all her bla-bla

 

[Hollowman]

I'm going to donate my body to
science. Maybe there's something to be learned when they dissect my brain and see all the psych med damage.

 

[Octavia]

I am planning it, actually. I cannot allow my remains to fall into my next of kin's hands, so I would have to set up a will executor to make sure that my body is given to science.

I would have preferred to donate my organs if MAID was an option, but I suppose that donating a corpse would have to do.

 

[54378]

I think a lot about my body in the wilderness slowly decaying, being reclaimed by nature. For me, that sounds more peaceful and less artificial than a funeral.

 

[Unending]

I think that cremation would be a good choice for myself. I don't really want my body to be embalmed, I'd rather just get it disposed of asap whether I'm in it or not lol.

 

[hellispink]

After they done with the autopsy, I want no funeral, no exemptions. Don't want fake people around me. I want them to cremate me and put me in a pretty urn colored pink. If they bury me for some reason I want the casket pink and also the clothes just because it's gorgeous .

 

[cogmachine]

it'll seem like too painful of a sight personally, so i would rather want them to cremate. although i wish it was up to me to do it, would probably want to make it fun if i could but that would be morbid, and probably inappropriate in a religious context (assuming those ceremonies are only done through it).

 

[LateForTheBus]

I made it clear to my family years ago that I do not want any kind of service. If people want to honor me, I'd like them to donate to their local animal shelter.

 

[MidnightCat]

In a perfect world...

I would like to be forgotten. As if I've suddenly disappear and noone realised. Just... Gone.

Now that's really hard to execute and part of the reason I've been delaying catching the bus, I try to find a way to just "disappear".

If that fails... (Which probably will) we go to plan B.

Cremate me. Hold no funeral, no nothing. Don't let anyone keep the ashes and, if possible dump them in whatever "natural" spot you have nearby.

 

[canyouseeme]

No funeral for me. Ive never attended any funeral in my life ironically. Just burn me and thow my ashes into the ocean idc.

 

[BlackWednesday]

I hate thinking about it. I can't imagine it being anything other that a complete shit show knowing my family.

 

[Walpurgisnacht]

If you do care about how your funeral goes you should write your wishes in a will and leave it with your suicide note (if you write one of those.) Keep in mind your family has no obligation to follow through with your wishes though, they might decide not to.

Personally I never thick about my funeral. I'll be dead, so it won't matter to me. Funerals are to help people grieve imo.
The only thing I'd really want out of it is I'd like to be burried in an unmarked grave. That probably won't happen, but I would prefer burial to cremation; at least I could be useful as fertiliser.

 

[LocalMistake]

i totally hear where you're coming from with the whole "weird interest in death" comment. i find thinking about death and dying somewhat soothing.

you have some decent funeral plans; hope you get your ideal day.

personally, i do not wish for a funeral or any other similar thing. i'm in love with the idea of just completely disappearing. i'd love to just wonder off a beaten path and into some isolated bush that are in the middle of absolute nowhere, off myself and let nature clean up the mess. i'm fond of the idea because my family and old friends deserve no right to answers and closure.

 

[HermitLonerGuy]

i dont want a funeral my bodys going straight to science if not then creamted, a funeral is to celebrate someones life, say goodbye in diginity and talk about that person's achievements and important moments etc.

My funeral would be nothing to talk about except " here lies our loser son, he was neet all his life, never achieved anything or had a relationship, stayed inside all the time, never worked, theres nothing important that happened in his life " .. yeah no thanks no funeral for me.

 

[aubrey!]

I wouldn't like a funeral. I've always fascinated about my body being never found. that's unlikely though.

 

[mistake22]

It's a little surreal but since my family is too poor to afford a burial I don't have to worry about it.