Discussion Do the people around us really care for us or are they just pretending?

[solisoccasus]

The question that really ravages theough my mind every night. The very reason why i cry buckets of tears and wake up with puffy eyes. I don't know if my friends really care about me or they're just lying. I'm still having second thoughts. It's really hard to believe because as far as i know, people oy loves you when you're dead. You become important to them when you're not here anymore and it's fucking insane. I always had a rough time growing up. When i was a child i didn't have that many friends or what you call a squad as it is now. And i feel like everyone's just pretending to be my friend. Dude i hate it. I don't want to think badly about them coz i really do love them, i give importance to those people but i don't know. I still think that they're better of without me so no one wouldn't be a burden anymore.

 

[Graytaichi]

They dont care for you. They might care for u in a min and then when they leave u , they wouldnt think about you. Generally speaking for most people.

 

[Fadeawaaaay]

Friends and family care about me. But they can't "save" me. They are busy saving themselves. When my life collapsed, many rushed to help and checked in constantly. But after months, it becomes tedious. Especially because I am making little effort to save myself. They have more motivation for me to live then I do. If they are annoyed or disappointed or frustrated, I don't blame them.

 

[Gray Wounds]

They dont care for you. They might care for u in a min and then when they leave u , they wouldnt think about you. Generally speaking for most people.

I agree. They do not care. Their business is in alleviating possible blames if anything happens to you. They are up to saving their faces, their consciences.

 

[_Minsk]

The question that really ravages theough my mind every night. The very reason why i cry buckets of tears and wake up with puffy eyes. I don't know if my friends really care about me or they're just lying. I'm still having second thoughts. It's really hard to believe because as far as i know, people oy loves you when you're dead. You become important to them when you're not here anymore and it's fucking insane. I always had a rough time growing up. When i was a child i didn't have that many friends or what you call a squad as it is now. And i feel like everyone's just pretending to be my friend. Dude i hate it. I don't want to think badly about them coz i really do love them, i give importance to those people but i don't know. I still think that they're better of without me so no one wouldn't be a burden anymore.

I can relate to this, i wish i could simply know

 

[Mixo]

My honest view is that you likely do have people that care, but as people, we are still limited. People will almost always put themselves first in order to survive, maintain, and that often means putting themselves and their immediate loved ones first. I tried many times to have friends become like chosen family, but I learned over time that it's not reasonable to have the same expectations out of friends. The only way to cope is to keep expectations out of people very low, otherwise you inevitably will be disappointed.

 

[Huntfish34]

I think it's a 2 way street,. Some really do care for us while others are just putting on a show. All depends on the person.

Just my .02

 

[solisoccasus]

I agree. They do not care. Their business is in alleviating possible blames if anything happens to you. They are up to saving their faces, their consciences.

This is exactly what i think.

My honest view is that you likely do have people that care, but as people, we are still limited. People will almost always put themselves first in order to survive, maintain, and that often means putting themselves and their immediate loved ones first. I tried many times to have friends become like chosen family, but I learned over time that it's not reasonable to have the same expectations out of friends. The only way to cope is to keep expectations out of people very low, otherwise you inevitably will be disappointed.

Is it possible that they don't give a shit about me?

 

[FuneralCry]

I believe that many people only care when it directly affects themselves, some people are very selfish. Many people pretend to care just to make themselves feel better.

 

[Shu]

My entire family most of them care about me.

 

[SpaceCadet]

The question that really ravages theough my mind every night. The very reason why i cry buckets of tears and wake up with puffy eyes. I don't know if my friends really care about me or they're just lying. I'm still having second thoughts. It's really hard to believe because as far as i know, people oy loves you when you're dead. You become important to them when you're not here anymore and it's fucking insane. I always had a rough time growing up. When i was a child i didn't have that many friends or what you call a squad as it is now. And i feel like everyone's just pretending to be my friend. Dude i hate it. I don't want to think badly about them coz i really do love them, i give importance to those people but i don't know. I still think that they're better of without me so no one wouldn't be a burden anymore.

Fake friends are the norm nowadays, it's pretty hard to find real friendship IRL, in my job i thought we were buddies, only to find we are not, same thing with HS, i know it may sound like i'm lying but i care about you, if you wan't someone to vent feel free to do so.

 

[im already reading]

most of your friends probably dont care about you, most people that say they care about you probably dont

The question that really ravages theough my mind every night. The very reason why i cry buckets of tears and wake up with puffy eyes. I don't know if my friends really care about me or they're just lying. I'm still having second thoughts. It's really hard to believe because as far as i know, people oy loves you when you're dead. You become important to them when you're not here anymore and it's fucking insane. I always had a rough time growing up. When i was a child i didn't have that many friends or what you call a squad as it is now. And i feel like everyone's just pretending to be my friend. Dude i hate it. I don't want to think badly about them coz i really do love them, i give importance to those people but i don't know. I still think that they're better of without me so no one wouldn't be a burden anymore.

you just have to find who actually does care about you