she thinks she's in the right + i have autism so im already fucked in that way. she doesnt listen she just wants to put me in a psych ward if i vocalize my feelings. im too stupid to even figure out how to get my license or a job
Oh dear, that is quite unfortunate. However, you do realize that she's controlling you and you don't like being threatened this way and that already, is a sign of strength and autonomy in my eyes. You identified the problem, which is the first step into making a change.
I don't believe you are stupid. You've just not been presented with possible solutions. I can't give concrete advice here, sadly, because obviously every country's laws are different.
However, what I'd warmly advice you to do, is try to make a phone call to a help hotline. Wait until your mom is out of the house for shopping or similar stuff. Go online and google help hotlines for your country and make this call.
I know it'll be awkward and it's by far not an easy thing to do, to take matters into your own hand and demand to be given the helping advice that you need. But I don't know if you have a different option right now if you're more or less isolated and cannot reach out to other family members or friends etc.
