Are there people you would never want to attended your funeral?

[rozeske]

If I had it my way, there would be very few people I'd want to be there. Unfortunately it's gonna be a very packed day with a bunch of people pretending to be hurt and affected over my death, like they never wished my downfall, creating chaos and making it all about them.

Not that it would matter after we're gone, but I always wondered if the dead would be disappointed and angry looking over the drama.

 

[lostintheloop]

I don't really care who turns up tbh. There's a cliche quote about 'funerals are for the living not the dead' but it's true. As long as it brings comfort to those there that's fine. I think mine would be a very small funeral tbh . Not many family members around to come as some I've never had any contact with and others I've lost. I have a small group of friends but cut them off lately so they might not come. Maybe some of my neighbours would come as they've known my family for a long time.

As long as it's not a drama. There was a huge drama at a distant relatives funeral recently. i wasn't there as I didn't know them. But heard it was incredibly awkward and arguments between birth and adoptive family.

 

[Tesha]

I hate funerals, I think they're a complete waste of time and money and often bring out the worst in people. I appreciate it wouldn't be about my needs, because I'd be dead, but I do feel the obligation put upon others to attend funerals is too much. I feel most people don't need an expensive mass gathering to enable them to grieve.

So in an attempt to try and prevent this, I've written in my Will that I want a direct cremation (no funeral service - I've already prepaid).

 

[dinosavr]

Since I'll be pretty much dead, I don't care too much about it. I've never had enemies, but I think if I had a chance to watch my funeral, it would be extremely awkward to see my psychotherapist and doctors there. But honestly I don't think they're allowed to attend funerals, it would be a little creepy. On a really really deep level they might be treated as someone who let us die.

 

[kyhoti]

The funeral is not for the dead, but rather, the living. So, if people want to gather due to my passing, so be it. I won't be there. If there is drama or praise or condemnation, it is not mine.

 

[ijustwishtodie]

I don't care as for who attends my funeral or not. Anybody and everybody can attend if they want to. I'll be dead to care

 

[cait_sith]

i wrote in my living will that i dont want a funeral, as i want to spare the, at best, handful of people the awkward proceedings.

 

[Daryl72]

Yes, once we're gone it shouldn't make any difference who attends. I mean we will be gone and will not know anyway. I can understand and appreciate the question, as I've thought of this a mt times when I'm thinking about what come s after death.

 

[lost_ange1]

I don't really care. I will be gone by then. The funeral is for the people that are left behind not the one that is dead imo.

 

[Sprite_Geist]

I do not want a funeral at all. The first reason for this is because I feel really uncomfortable at the thought of gaining attention in any situation - such as when sharing information on social media about personal lives; the second reason for not wanting a funeral is because I am not an important person, so no attention is needed to be given anyway.

 

[Hollowman]

There won't be a funeral.

 

[Praestat_Mori]

I'm good with everyone among relatives who would attend a funeral, no one would be excluded. Anyway I think we wouldn't take any notice of it anymore as we're long gone by the time the funeral takes place.

 

[Not A Fan]

Chalk up another vote for the "no funeral club" here.

Just donate my cadaver for scientific study, at least that way I can finally offer something of value to others.

 

[Forever Sleep]

I intend to prepay for a direct cremation. It's more expensive but, I'd feel happier. It's not so much that there are people I don't want to go. Really, the only person I definitely wouldn't want there wouldn't go anyway. More, that I don't want people to feel obliged to travel hundreds of miles for some dry service. Again, I also doubt all that many would bother, so it seems a waste really.

 

[PinballWizard39]

My dad. He'd like the play the doting father, but I'd want him to know deep down inside, he played a massive part in my suffering and subsequent death. Like I think he does love me in his own way, but he never stood up for me or did the right thing, just joined in for a quiet life at my expense. I hate myself for even admitting that.

 

[WaitingAllMyLife]

I don't have anyone that will arrange a funeral. No one will even post an obituary. My existence is meaningless.

 

[trashprincess]

My entire family. In the end it will be to get away from them. They don't belong there.

 

[divinemistress36]

Dont want a funeral i will ask to be cremated and ashes thrown into ocean. Id rather everyone just go get drunk at the bar in my honor

 

[QueenInsomnia]

I would absolutely love to mess with people at my funeral. I plan on being cremated. I've already prepaid for it, but I'd love to have a closed-casket funeral where a recording of my voice starts playing in the middle of the funeral. A recording of me waking up, being confused, screaming, and pounding to be let out would be divine. My only regret would be not being able to see their faces as they react to it.

But as others have mentioned, I'll be dead and gone, so it really doesn't matter who wants to gather in a room and spew some bullshit about what they thought about me or my life.

 

[blueberryDesert]

I am not planning on a funeral. There is one person who knows what to do with my remains. I plan on haunting that person if they do not do what I asked them to do after I am gone.

 

[destinationlosangel]

If I had it my way, there would be very few people I'd want to be there. Unfortunately it's gonna be a very packed day with a bunch of people pretending to be hurt and affected over my death, like they never wished my downfall, creating chaos and making it all about them.

Not that it would matter after we're gone, but I always wondered if the dead would be disappointed and angry looking over the drama.

completely agree. There'll definitely be a few ppl at the funeral trying to use this as another opportunity to get attention. Pretend crying even. When in reality they are probably the reason we ctbed. Truly saddening. I have wondered exactly this, about the dead being disappointed because to be in that situation where u have the exact same person who made u ctb come in there and try n use ur death as another opportunity for them to seek attention would be heartbreaking.

 

[coffeebeany]

My entire family. In the end it will be to get away from them. They don't belong there.

I feel the same. I m currently trying to sort things out and put it into legal writing that I do not want any relatives there. They put me through endless pain, suffering and torture. Even if I am gone I care to take back control. Even if I am dead, I don't want this funeral do be another occasion for for their public performance.

 

[mistymoo]

Genuinely, there won't be many folks at mine. I only really have family and a handful of online friends. Ideally I wouldn't want anyone on my mom's side of the family to be there but ultimately I know they will be.
The only person I genuinely do not want there would be my ex and my old best friend who helped in my assault. I will absolutely put that in my note too. I don't think it's fair for the people who have hurt me the most to get any kind of closure once I'm gone

 

[pthnrdnojvsc]

I won't exist after i die. so it's as if the universe and every thing in it were gone to my point of view , all the evil everything all the suffering bad memories wiped as if they never existed , everything undone . i won't have a point of view . how could anything matter to me if i don't exist ? it can't . and that's the beauty of non-existence forever

plus every human alive now be dead in 150 years too. so nothing we do or will do matters or could ever matter. 1 trillion years from now if someone goes to a funeral today will that matter then? no nothing will

 

[Duochrome-Seahorse]

Theres a handful of people i dont want to show up so out of sheer spite i dont want a funeral, the only people allowed to mourn should be my immediate family and my close friends. Fuck everyone else.

 

[noname223]

I think I have writen down that only very few people should attent my funeral. My family consists only of morons I want to spare my friends the comments. Only my parents, my sister and my grandma should come from my family. However, I tried to come to peace that noone will listen to my will anyway. Fuck them.

 

[Ironborn]

Going to get all the people I had issues with be pallbearers.
I'll have been cremated long before but my casket's going to be filled with lead.
"Hope your backs are feeling strong fellas."

 

[whywere]

Having no family nor friends, I would like to be burnt up and let the ashes blow away in the wind,

No funeral cost and only the cremation. I want my money to go into a college scholarship to help folks get an education.

Walter

 

[ThisIsMe1357]

In my case no. Not only would it not matter, but I would not care about who came or not even while alive.